‘Just the meat for me please’ Sunday Lunch issue ’

Not to mention the constipation...

He's on Atkins. Or body building. Make him a protein shake 😀

I’d do as asked, I would want someone to feel welcome. I don’t tend to judge people by the contents of their plate.

I think you win the prize for longest reach of the week

Better to simply steam vegetables as retain more vitamins.

You're not being unreasonable, but as a one off I'd just shove some extra chicken in the oven. I can't imagine he'd actually expect to pile his plate with meat and she was just exaggerating.

I think I’d have just bought some more meat tbh. Your probably overthinking though a lot of DH’s family are big eaters and only eat meat and potatoes I’ve never run out of food.

That’s plenty for 11 people, around 5kg of meat between 2 large chickens and a gammon joint.

You need to pile his plate high with meat.

Also provide a bowl of cold water with ice in at his place setting, and ensure the cold water plunge is filled up, and set the clocks to 4am and remove the batteries.

I don't think someone following this kind of diet strictly would eat chipolatas, but I do think between you and SIL you've made this a much bigger issue than it is.

He's accepted an invitation to a family Sunday lunch, he won't be expecting you to cater specially for him.

I'd be happy to accommodate this and would include some extra ungarnished meat into the catering arrangements, but I'd be warning my sister that if Mr Carnivore utters one word about vegetables being anti-nutrients or carbs being literal poison while he's under my roof he'll be getting his arse handed to him on a plate, with a sprig of parsley on top. (I've had plenty of practice with my own accidentally home-grown vegans.) And also, if necessary, warning my parents that I don't want them making digs about what the lad is eating.

Aside this crazy request, I would gently tell her he is absolutely not good husband material - to be so self-absorbed that his future mother-in-law is aware of his dietary requirements? Well, there is self-care and then there is self-centredness to a degree which makes a man unsuitable to be engaged to and married to subsequently. What if times are hard in the future? What if finances in the future are such that their family will only have money to buy meat for the children only? What, will he eat up all the meat? Does he know the cost of meat, good meat these days? So, proportionally, will their family food budget be like 90% for him, plates piled high with meat and 10% her and their future children? Or is he Mr Moneybags with family trust(S because plural) and they will never have to worry about money? I don't understand.

Probably irrelevant, but I find the idea of a diet of mostly meat really repellent. I enjoy eating meat but not for every meal and I also love all forms of vegetables, including potatoes. A diet with no veg sounds extremely unhealthy, especially for the bowels.

There's enough for him to have a quarter of a chicken and some slices of gammon - so that's fine.

I would think 'piled high with meat' is just a saying.

An extra chicken leg (thigh and drumstick) roasted alongside will cost you £1.

Just carve the meat, serve out in normal portions so that everyone gets a fair share. And add his extra leg.

You have turned this into an embarrassing battle.

I don't think there's anything embarrassing about a text 'looking forward to meeting you on Sunday, planning is there anything I need to know about your likes/dislikes?'

Why would he be having extra meat, wouldn't he just have a normal portion and leave off the trimmings he doesn't want? (How healthy can it be not to eat any veg at all?)

Sunday roast is by nature GF anyway though 🥴
Unless you cheat and add flour to the gravy.

No way. Bloody rude. He can bring a protein shake along with him if he needs to meet his macros. He should be eating veggies anyway although I can understand re the spuds. I'm fairly strict re my diet and go to the gym frequently but if there's a family meal etc then I accept that I'll have to be a little flexible. I certainly don't put others out

Just serve him the meat he's entitled to and hand him the plate with it on. If he does want more and there's enough left then again serve him enough so others can still have seconds.

I would feel very weird having some stray man shovelling all the meat onto his plate and shunning everything else. I mean does he not eat vegetables?

I can imagine him wearing a shirt four sizes too small to extenuate his muscles...major ick.

My foster son eats mainly protein and vegetables with just a small amount of carbs. He would happily eat chicken and gammon and lots of steamed vegetables and 1 potato but not if smothered with butter/honey or similar. I always put things like honey in a little pot so those who want it take it and those who don't are not forced into having it. He eats quite a bit of fruit too.

If it’s not about cost, then what’s the issue? It’s the same as a vegan eating a pile of vegetables surely? Maybe hosting isn’t for you?

Beyond rude on the part of your mad guests. I don't even know what to say?

My guess is he’ll be embarrassed enough to not come after receiving this phone call from an auntie in law he’s not met yet, therefore solving the OPs problem!