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‘Just the meat for me please’ Sunday Lunch issue ’

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Mondaytuesdayhappydays · 05/11/2025 13:47

SIS and BIL coming for Sunday Lunch, bringing DN and her BF- recently engaged.
Got a little gift for them and card etc, my parents were coming any way so invited Sunday for food as makes sense.

SIS has just WhatsApped to say jokingly that the BF -mega gym bunny - ‘doesn’t do potatoes and trimmings- but don’t worry he’ll just pile his plate high with meat’
Im doing a couple chickens and a gammon between us all so plenty for everyone alongside stuffing, veg, Yorkies , gravey, cauliflower cheese etc but definitely not for a huge piled up plate of just meat!

I replied lightheartedly to SIS to this effect and she’s not a happy camper at all.
Just texted to say wants him to feel welcome so will bring him a couple of raw pork chops or similar to fry - I’ve said bring them cooked and sliced already in a Tupperware as I won’t be frying chops with all the carnage of the roast going on and my parents milling about under my feet ‘helping’

Shes voice noting at the moment can see the symbol
honestly am I just old or a shit hostess or is this how guests who barely know their hosts I might add expect to be catered for ???

I mean veggie/vegan all power to you
but a plate piled up of meat for lunch seems a bit full on to me ??

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RedToothBrush · 05/11/2025 14:39

ScribblingPixie · 05/11/2025 14:38

You're not being unreasonable but I'd just go with the flow and bung in an extra packet of chicken thighs rather than make it uncomfortable.

I'd make it bloody uncomfortable and to hell with it. Otherwise you have a lifetime of this shite.

Nip in the bus early on.

JustSawJohnny · 05/11/2025 14:39

mydogisthebest · 05/11/2025 14:27

I think it sounds weird, unhealthy and very very very boring.

Vegetables are delicious, interesting and mostly healthy

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Hard agree.

Give me all of the sides over the meat every day of the week.

What kind of a lunatic turns down cauli cheese?!!

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Mondaytuesdayhappydays · 05/11/2025 14:38

FatGurlSlym · 05/11/2025 14:37

In my head I see him picking up a whole chicken and wolfing it down. It is going to be interesting. I hope you don’t mind telling us how it goes.

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Course I will 💯 promise
quite looking forward to it now lol
my boys are going to have a field day

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ChattyGeePeaTea · 05/11/2025 14:38

Ha, snap @MrsMitford3!

RedToothBrush · 05/11/2025 14:38

AliceMaforethought · 05/11/2025 14:30

Aside from the cost, how is it any different from catering for any other diet?

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I've catered for a veggie before at extra cost and faff. They proceeded to then turn up really bloody late (we'd held up the meal so we could cook the veggie food first for obvious practical reasons) and then made a beeline for the meat feeding themselves before anyone else got chance.

To say I was unimpressed was pretty much the understatement of the year.

I don't mind catering for dietary requirements as long as people don't piss take. Asking for mountains of meat is piss taking because it's so expensive and it massively affects how you stretch the rest of the meat out to everyone else.

It's not a religious or dietary need. It's not even an ethical belief. It's pure and simply a vanity issue.

Vanity diets can piss off. It's hard enough if you have people with reasonable requirements to also cater to.

If you were at a restaurant you couldn't ask for extra meat instead of veg! You'd just have to suck it up and order more at your own expense.

ScribblingPixie · 05/11/2025 14:38

You're not being unreasonable but I'd just go with the flow and bung in an extra packet of chicken thighs rather than make it uncomfortable.

Conniebygaslight · 05/11/2025 14:38

Make him an omelette 😆

ChattyGeePeaTea · 05/11/2025 14:38

Is he Henry VIII?

MrsMitford3 · 05/11/2025 14:38

Is he Henry the Eighth?

Catpiece · 05/11/2025 14:38

I’d just serve him up the same as everyone else. Eat it. Don’t eat it. Wouldn’t care

FatGurlSlym · 05/11/2025 14:37

Mondaytuesdayhappydays · 05/11/2025 14:35

I won’t put it on the plate whole lol??

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In my head I see him picking up a whole chicken and wolfing it down. It is going to be interesting. I hope you don’t mind telling us how it goes.

Allisnotlost1 · 05/11/2025 14:36

Mondaytuesdayhappydays · 05/11/2025 14:35

I won’t put it on the plate whole lol??

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Please do.

Mumofoneandone · 05/11/2025 14:36

My goodness, can not believe the attitude and entitlement..... I have dietary restrictions due to health issues but I would never behave like this. And if I was only served with things I shouldn't ideally eat, I would eat enough to be polite/fill me up. (I can't eat shellfish and I've even tried to eat round them in a paella to avoid upsetting the host ....)
Wonder what they'll serve at the wedding breakfast......

Brefugee · 05/11/2025 14:36

Mondaytuesdayhappydays · 05/11/2025 14:24

Listened to message DSIS tying herself in knots , it will literally be a large plate of meat and no veg but he will brings some prepared sliced avocado and homemade mayo.
Won’t eat gammon, more like a chicken to himself and any more going left over
Will get a tray of thighs as-well I think
alongside what we would normally get.
Should be fine, but odd but fine xx

you see, i think that is fucking rude: thanks for the invitation to dinner i'll have a whole chicken to myself.

I'd find that hard enough with people i know really really well. Let alone my fiancée's aunt.

JustSawJohnny · 05/11/2025 14:36

Mondaytuesdayhappydays · 05/11/2025 14:24

Listened to message DSIS tying herself in knots , it will literally be a large plate of meat and no veg but he will brings some prepared sliced avocado and homemade mayo.
Won’t eat gammon, more like a chicken to himself and any more going left over
Will get a tray of thighs as-well I think
alongside what we would normally get.
Should be fine, but odd but fine xx

My reply to this would be

'Am I fuck providing an entire chicken for one man! Sorry but that's taking the piss. If he wants that much meat, he can bring it. Cooked and ready to go!'

He sounds like a greedy weirdo.

I bet he'll bang on and on about it, too.

Yawn.

Ilovemyshed · 05/11/2025 14:36

I would not have made any issue out of it and just chucked some extra chicken joints in a tray so there is a decent portion for him. I think you have made an issue out of none.

ArtTheClownIsNotAMime · 05/11/2025 14:36

Mondaytuesdayhappydays · 05/11/2025 14:35

I won’t put it on the plate whole lol??

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Irrelevant, that volume of meat is gross. I'd be uninviting the pair of them.

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Mondaytuesdayhappydays · 05/11/2025 14:35

ArtTheClownIsNotAMime · 05/11/2025 14:33

I wouldn't sit at a table with someone eating a whole chicken. Obscene.

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I won’t put it on the plate whole lol??

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RavenPie · 05/11/2025 14:34

Sausages and stuffing plus pudding will guarantee the other guests won’t go hungry. Extra chicken legs/things make you look like a very good host which is nice for your niece.

SusanChurchouse · 05/11/2025 14:34

Fill his plate with a leaflet about colorectal health. Maybe add some information about the environmental consequences of intensive meat production if you want to really make for an interesting lunch.

bugalugs45 · 05/11/2025 14:34

Have read the updates (quite invested in this thread now lol ) and I still think for 1 meal I’d suck it up and allocate him a chicken of his own if need be 😂. A repeat invitation isn’t required .
My sister has a friend who’s husband would never socialise with them if going to a Chinese or Indian restaurant as was so extreme with his carnivore/ gym bunny protein diet he wouldn’t deviate , even for 1 meal . It’s a boring way to be , but each to their own

HelenHywater · 05/11/2025 14:33

AliceMaforethought · 05/11/2025 14:30

Aside from the cost, how is it any different from catering for any other diet?

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Well choosing to eat only meat because you're an obsessive gym goer is very different from being a celiac or a vegan or being not able to eat nuts or whatever.

AshesUnderUricon · 05/11/2025 14:33

If you accept someone's hospitality, the convention is that you eat what is provided, unless you have genuine medical or conscientious reasons for avoiding certain foods. As for not eating vegetables, is this person five years old?

purplecorkheart · 05/11/2025 14:33

Honestly, he sounds a bit rude if this is coming from him rather than your sil. I would expect him to eat the portion of meat that he is given in someone elses home and then eat before or afterwards.

In this case if you can pick up precooked chicken I would just give him that and not have the hassle of cooking a third one.

ArtTheClownIsNotAMime · 05/11/2025 14:33

Mondaytuesdayhappydays · 05/11/2025 14:24

Listened to message DSIS tying herself in knots , it will literally be a large plate of meat and no veg but he will brings some prepared sliced avocado and homemade mayo.
Won’t eat gammon, more like a chicken to himself and any more going left over
Will get a tray of thighs as-well I think
alongside what we would normally get.
Should be fine, but odd but fine xx

I wouldn't sit at a table with someone eating a whole chicken. Obscene.

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