‘Just the meat for me please’ Sunday Lunch issue ’

Serve him a whole cooked bird on his plate.

A roast quail.

Absolutely. People go on about the art of hosting but there is actually an art to being a good guest as well. And it seems to be getting entirely lost.

Just do what you have planned, don't cook anything else special. Slice and serve the meat on plates, let everyone help themselves to trimmings and gravy, offer seconds of meat if there are leftovers. He is welcome to have as much meat as he likes but only when everyone has had their share.

Sounds a bit like Pam on Gavin and Stacey "Oh I'm not having the broccoli so I get an extra steak." 😂

Make sure everyone else gets their fair share of the meat first. Im judging sil for making this somehow a virtue to be pandered to. You are a guest and unless its a intolerance or allergy or a moral choice you suck it up. Being a greedy twat doesn't cut it.

If he want to eat a whole chicken then surely he brings a ready cooked chicken just for him

He will eat a pile of high meat ..
So, a lot of the most expensive thing .
Buy him some ready made meat from a non-expensive supermarket . He can not be healthy if he dose not eat veg . Anytime I have been on some kind of specific diet , I would not dream of telling a host (a lovely person inviting me round) to cater specifically for me ..
he dose not have any allergies etc . His just being fussy

this!
“he won’t have any of the sides but he’ll have a NORMAL amount of meat?“
no problem at all.

„he can’t have any of the sides. Could he have some extra meat, please?“
sure. I wouldn’t object to somebody bringing his/her own food either.

But SIS didn’t even ask. She just told OP that he‘ll pile his plate high!

I think you should, for comedy effect.

Being pescatarian, I’ve often been at a roast or similar meal and just had the “trimmings”. I don’t think that entitles me to more of the bits everyone likes, such as roasties or Yorkshire puddings, I just have a normal amount.

I might take seconds if offered, and/ or have pudding when offered etc, but I don’t “pile my plate high” with roast potatoes.

@Mondaytuesdayhappydays the cost may be fine for you, but BF should be mindful that cost may not be fine for host and he shouldn't be expecting them to provide more of the most expensive item on the menu. If he needs such a specific diet then he can provide some of it. Can't imagine sitting at someone else's house just eating a plateful of meat, that is just so rude

Oh please do!!!

Time for him to be educated.
You do not absorb protein based food in the gut unless you have adequate vit B6, iron, calcium and zinc- source of which is leafy greens. Veg also contains proteins like Rubisco

A whole chicken plus more in a single meal?

If this is how he always eats, then he's going to end up with gout

But she IS providing it, both chicken and gammon just not enough to pile a massive plate full of just one thing like a gluttonous giant.

If you didn't like gammon do you think it would be fine to take all the mash potatoes for yourself not just your portion leaving others without?

No, of course not

And I say this as someone with medical dietary requirements who has gone my whole life (nearly 4 decades) without ever demanding special treatment or people cook just for me (I just eat my portion worth of the bits I can).

It's one meal. I'm sure he will manage. It a choice rather than a medical/religious or some other reason.

His reaction will tell you whether he's going to be A PITA at all future gatherings or whether he's well mannered, easy going and understands any event will not revolve around him and his quirks.

That is cheeky but it won't kill you to chuck some chicken drumsticks in the oven surely? Cheap as anything and good protein. I don't mind suiting preferences with food, I hate going to someone's home for dinner and being served whatever they fancy without asking me!

This is what I was thinking.
Worst case, it could go one of two ways: either he is going to be a CF and take far more than his fair share of meat, and cost far more, too; or he will take only a normal helping and be hungry.
Surely he must be used to this, and used to bringing along extra chicken or something. Or you could bung in extra cheap chicken in the oven with the other meats. after all, you would probably cater for vegetarians and carnivore diets are becoming quite usual these days.

My DS is a fitness freak gym and when he's cooking for himself will cook and eat a ridiculous amount of meat/protein and low carb veg. When he's here I will do a bit of extra meat, but he will still eat everything else, just in smaller quantities. He would never not eat veg as well, that's just not healthy.

He can have the same sized portion of meat as everyone else. Beyond that it’s not your problem. Absolutely unreasonable to expect you to cook extra meat when you’re already hosting a roast.

Id be tempted to offer him a tin of tuna.

Plate the food and bring to the table. Don’t lay it out buffet style.

I’m so cross about this on your behalf btw!!

A whole chicken to himself my arse.

Edit - and I’d have a beady eye out to make sure none of the “women folk” are passing him the good bits of their meat at the table - “no susie, I made that for you as I think you’ll enjoy it, Jack can have some of the chicken drumsticks if he’s still hungry”.

How is being vegan not a preference as well?

He’ll just have to have the same amount of meat as everyone else and no veg then. If he wants more meat he can bring it himself. I eat a fairly strict diet, but if I eat at someone else’s house I go with what they serve. Any protein shortfall I deal with myself later. Tell her to tell him to drink a protein shake before they arrive or something.

Serve the meat portion of the meal yourself to everyone in the kitchen not at the table.

Take the plates of meat to the dining room where all the trimmings and sides are set out.

If he wants something else to eat you can tell him politely that there is plenty of food at the table and to help himself.

It's extremely rude to dictate to a host that you want more food , in this case meat, than other guests.

Fuck off is a sentence.