‘Just the meat for me please’ Sunday Lunch issue ’

Sorry OP but he’s a graceless twat and your sister enabling this rudeness and then being astonished when you push back is awful.

Anyone who turns up as a guest and expects a whole chicken to themselves is deluded. This surely can’t be viewed by people as acceptable behaviour?

DS has a high protein diet (he competes in a sport which requires a specialist gym and he goes there most days). At home he will have extra protein in the form of chicken or fish and/or protein shakes and supplements. But he also has manners so when he eats at someone else's house he shuts up and eats what he is given.

Also he eats tons of veg, both cooked and raw, bringing your own veg as BF intends to do is both weird and extremely rude. This bloke sounds a bit performative to me, like he wants people to ask about his diet so he can talk about all the gym work he does. Boring!

Organic free range chicken is around £14-20 depending on size and whereabouts you live/buy it - so chicken that has been treated reasonably. Like ffff is he spending that much dosh on himself for each and every meal he eats. Buying the cheapest who-cares-how-it's-been-raised chicken in order to sustain an unhealthy fad is a pretty shitty way to behave :(

This is Mumsnet, of course they didn’t. They just sat there and let the CFs do as they wished.

This is absolutely not the same as being vegetarian, dairy-free, celiac, etc. These dietary requirements are fairly easy and inexpensive to cater for, especially with a roast dinner.

In this scenario, his choice to only eat meat, and the expectation that what he would have had in potatoes and veg will be substituted with more meat, is going to cost the host a lot more money.

He'd get the usual portion - same as everyone else.
If he chooses not to eat the veggies/spuds... that's on him.
Leftover meat? Yep- thats for everyone to share .

Sounds extremely unhealthy and storing up problems for the future. What an odd species we are.

Bet he’s a right farter

You could argue it’s just more male entitlement for women to pander to. <If you’d read the Darlington nurses threads today, I reckon you’d be as hacked off about it as I am.>

I was in a bakery once that's quite famous for it's brunch. There was a couple at a table where the man was eating a plate of (I kid you not) 10-12 plain fried eggs, without any topping, sauce or sides. She was eating normally and I can't imagine how mortifying it must be to go to restaurants with people like that. Also, his farts must have been absolutely vile.

Quite.

You don't just get to replace the veg with meat. You pay double.

Not to mention his bowels.

I don't understand. Never in my entire life have I gone to someone else's house for a meal and expected to be consulted first about what should be served. It's normal to ask if people are on a special diet or have any food intolerances or allergies, and also to check if there's anything people absolutely loathe, but surely nobody expects the host to run the menu past the guests in advance?

I'd tell her the menu is set, he shouldn't come if it doesn't suit, and if he hasn't mastered the basic niceties of being a guest in someone else's home he will be asked to leave. Modelling assertiveness around basic expectations is doing your niece a favour in the long run.

Wait, did she say he'll need a whole chicken to himself, or have you decided that's what you'll give him?? Whatever happened to trying to impress your new partner's loved ones by not being weird and demanding?

I'm in the 'it's not the same as GF, vegan, veggie, doesn't like green veg' camp.

Why?

He's the one who is making ridiculous demands.

Why is it the women in the family who have to capitulate to 'welcome the man in' rather than the man graciously trying to fit in with his new family and not start off from a point of being a wanker?

It's one of those situations which absolutely plays to women's socialisation to be the perfect host and accommodate the male wanker.

No.

Exactly. I have a friend who used to compete in body-building, she would come to lunch/dinner parties with a Tupperware of chicken and a protein shake rather than inconvenience the host by demanding something special or extra.

or cottage cheese.

just text back

its not the last meal he's ever going to eat, if he wants more meat perhaps stock him up at breakfast

Yes it sounds like a male eating disorder or ARFID. Most (normal) sporty people on low carb diets will be able to make exceptions for social occasions or out of politeness. That's the whole concept of cheat day. Everyone knows you won't relapse if you eat a few potatoes at Christmas. Food is not the same as alcohol.

If he absolutely refuses to eat anything aside from meat then you need assume it's an ED or he's autistic, and treat it as such. If someone brought along a teenage daughter with anorexia and told you beforehand that she only eats very specific foods then it would be reasonable to accommodate that.

I’d expect it to be met with “Of course, so that’s 2x Hunters Chicken, no veg?”

Did you not say anything? That's so rude!

A restaurant would not just give 'more meat and no vegetables' if requested.

"Oh I want the hunters chicken but I don't want the veggies with it, can I have double meat?"

Would be met with a firm "Are you having a fucking laugh? That's not a dietary requirement".

For a laugh you should buy an extra roast chicken (the small ones are what, a fiver in Waitrose?). And put it in its entirety on BILs plate. You can say that his wife told you he wouldn’t eat anything else so you want to ensure he wouldn’t go hungry.