‘Just the meat for me please’ Sunday Lunch issue ’

The cave man diet is what it’s called I think. Eat like they used to eat. Nothing for breakfast. One big meal of as much meat as you can get. Zero chemicals. I’m sure there will be loads of videos on TikTok detailing all its virtues.

I'd be tempted to cook a vegan or vegetarian main for lunch and serve zero meat. CF.
But honestly those mountains of meat, while very fashionable atm, are not good for people's digestive tracts.

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I worked with someone in the early noughties who use to eat a whole chicken for lunch when he was trying to bulk up some muscle. Quite literally he would get a whole rotisserie chicken and just sit there and eat it at his desk like some sort of cave man!

He might be really embarrassed to learn she asked this on his behalf. I'm doing a high protein diet at the moment and if I go to someone's house I just adapt to what's given to me and maybe bring my own high protein snacks to have on the way/way back. I would be so embarrassed if someone said something like this on my behalf. Also even if you are a gym goer you should still eat veg or he'll end up mega constipated! Mind you, keep that thought to yourself if you don't want to cause more drama 😂

It’s quite obviously different - for me (a coeliac) to eat gluten would make me seriously unwell, both in the immediacy and the long term with things like risk of cancer, infertility, loads of stuff.
For the gym bunny to eat some brocolli will what..? Make him a bit sad?!

No. Not at the moment. She was eating loads up until a month ago when this new one started. I’m hoping she’ll move on to the next one soon. I think she’s read loads about all the pesticides or whatever is in them. She’s quite particular. I have asked her about fibre and she says she gets enough from berries.

it’s difficult. She’s 16 and points out if I ever raise it that most of her age eat sugar/upfs/junk/alcogol/monster, of which she eats none, which is much worse.

as long as she moves back to veg soon, I’m ok.

Reminds me of one of my Mum's most repeated stories told to her by her mother. My great-grandfather died when his younger children were still at school and my great-grandmother must have had some very tough times just putting food on the table (1910s). One day she had bought a tiny piece of beef and boiled it with barley, beans, vegetables etc. The idea was that there would be bread on the table and the main part of the meal would be the broth, with each person also getting a few shreds of beef. A man came to visit and was invited to stay for lunch. He took all the beef for himself. He probably assumed it was one slice, as there wouldn't have been much of it, but what a selfish, entitled thing to do to a widow and her hungry children. Always makes me very angry about this ancient injustice when I hear it!

All well and good when it's just your own friends, but people tend to come with hangers-on! What if one of your friends fell in lurrrrve and brought someone round like this guy, and she wanted you to accommodate him??

@TriggeredNameChanger- you’re right- veganism is a preference. But it’s usually fuelled by very strongly held beliefs about animal cruelty and/or the environment. So it’s a preference with a belief system behind it. I wouldn’t feed pork to Muslim or Jewish guests, or beef to a Hindu. A family member is married to a woman who is Jain and her religion dictates that she can’t eat meat or eggs. Many Jains don’t eat dairy either so they are vegan. As I am an atheist and not a vegan, they’re all the same thing to me. I don’t personally adhere to any of these belief systems but I will respect the dietary restrictions of each.

A man who is (presumably temporarily) eating like an obligate carnivore is making a choice that has nothing to do with belief systems or faith. So I wouldn’t feel I had to respect it or pander to it.

I also think you took a flippant comment a little too seriously.

I would have just served up as planned and just give BF the benefit of the doubt that he would not take more than a fair share due to good manners. If on the day he does take too much then that is hardly your fault - sounds like there will be plenty of food to go around.

Is very important TO HIM.

In actual terms of importance it is less than zero.

I understand diet and training needs, and I've never been such a plonker as to think that other people need to be warned in advance of my pwecious wants.

I'd just fill up a bit before I went, take slightly more meat after everyone else had had a reasonable amount, take a few veg and potatoes to be polite, and leave half of those.

I wouldn’t have responded to the “he’ll just eat a plate piled high with meat” and just said right oh, and then when he was there served him a normal to large portion of meat that didn’t leave anyone else short, and if there were enough for seconds of course offer some. It’s his look out if he wants to openly ask for more meat than would be fair for him to have based on how much there is and how many are around the table.

what would you do if someone sat down for dinner and said oh I only like potatoes can I just have a plate full of spuds please? Do that.

CF, if he’s a total gym bunny he can work harder at his next visit.
I’d be tempted to give him fish (tinned tuna) and a rice cake, but I’d probably portion the meat out per plate equally (no penis portions for Mr Universe) and serve everything else to the middle of the table.

It always has to be meat with these lunk-heads as well doesn't it? Pulses are high in protein (and won't give you bowel cancer) but you never see a gym bro with a Tupperware of dhal or chickpea curry.

Naturally! No one said a thing, including cf’s wife. I felt awful as guests were “enthusiastically” tucking into onion and red wine sauce whilst bloke was heaping in best aged beef.

It reminds me of Christmas at my in-laws a few years ago. We sat down to eat and there was plain rice, sweetcorn and some of those frozen Birds Eye crispy chicken things. Turns out they were for SIL’s BF. He is from
another European country, so I asked what their traditional Christmas dinner was, thinking it was something similar. His answer? ‘Meat’. Turns out that actually it had nothing to do with his home country. He literally just only ever eats the crispy chicken, plain rice and sweetcorn. If I was MIL I would have told him in no uncertain terms to eat what she was already cooking! As if she needed to be faffing on with that too!

This is rude but I would cook enough meat for everyone to have a good portion and see what the BF actually says, it could be DS and DN fussing.

My DM was like this when she was first with her partner, fretting and prepping everyone so there would be just what he wanted when actually he was happy to go with the flow and embarrassed by her fussing - I was micromanaged managed making a cup of tea until I finally snapped and he now jokes when ever I make him a drink to ensure I stir it anticlockwise just as likes it 😅

Just see how it goes this time, its sounds like there is plenty of food and he wont go hungry

Does she eat vegetables?

YABU, OP. I refuse to drink anything except for champagne, and always let my hosts know that I’m going to need at least 2 pints. They would be rude hosts if they didn’t accommodate my beverage preferences.

He’s not asked for this. I’d just serve him normal portion of meat. If he chooses not to add sides it’s his choice.
He’ll have had breakfast and can eat when he gets home. It’s one meal.
I wouldn’t entertain faffing. He can eat some of what’s provided that’s fine.

My dd, 16, is in to this diet too. I don’t think it’s massively unusual. She calls it the seasonal diet I think. She’ll eat only organic eggs, meat, fish, berries and fruits in season. At first I thought wtf, but actually of all her diets (she eats the same thing for months then goes to the next) , if you can afford it, it’s easy time wise. She feels brilliant, sleeps well, painful periods gone, has tonnes of energy, and ADHD is less noticeable, so I’m not saying no. Couldn’t anyway, she just wouldn’t eat.

I would simply plate him up last so everyone else had already had their fair share of meat.

More normal for him to eat a bigger breakfast / brunch, then apologetically explain that he is on a special diet so would like to just have some of the chicken.
If he was staying with you for a few days, then fair enough for Sis to explain he only eats lean protein but will bring his own extras (eg Huel, or eggs, or cooked chicken or fish or whatever) as they know it's a bother. But for one meal? Nah, he can either eat normally or arrive full/ be hungry afterwards.

How do you even eat 10-12 eggs at a time?