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‘Just the meat for me please’ Sunday Lunch issue ’

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Mondaytuesdayhappydays · 05/11/2025 13:47

SIS and BIL coming for Sunday Lunch, bringing DN and her BF- recently engaged.
Got a little gift for them and card etc, my parents were coming any way so invited Sunday for food as makes sense.

SIS has just WhatsApped to say jokingly that the BF -mega gym bunny - ‘doesn’t do potatoes and trimmings- but don’t worry he’ll just pile his plate high with meat’
Im doing a couple chickens and a gammon between us all so plenty for everyone alongside stuffing, veg, Yorkies , gravey, cauliflower cheese etc but definitely not for a huge piled up plate of just meat!

I replied lightheartedly to SIS to this effect and she’s not a happy camper at all.
Just texted to say wants him to feel welcome so will bring him a couple of raw pork chops or similar to fry - I’ve said bring them cooked and sliced already in a Tupperware as I won’t be frying chops with all the carnage of the roast going on and my parents milling about under my feet ‘helping’

Shes voice noting at the moment can see the symbol
honestly am I just old or a shit hostess or is this how guests who barely know their hosts I might add expect to be catered for ???

I mean veggie/vegan all power to you
but a plate piled up of meat for lunch seems a bit full on to me ??

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SamphiretheTervosaur · 05/11/2025 16:02

Brelim · 05/11/2025 14:11

If it’s not about cost, then what’s the issue? It’s the same as a vegan eating a pile of vegetables surely? Maybe hosting isn’t for you?

The bit about she is feeding 11, will be using all available cooking space, house will be rammed!

AliceMaforethought · 05/11/2025 16:00

Gasp0deTheW0nderD0g · 05/11/2025 14:58

You won't cater for vegans? I find that very odd. I assume that vegans choose to eliminate all animal-derived food from their diet out of principle or in a few cases religious belief. I don't share those principles or beliefs, but I would feel I have to respect them. Deciding that you need to eat mostly meat is nothing like this. It's a choice based on wanting to be very muscular, as far as I can make out. I suppose in some cases it might be an eating disorder, and I'd be more sympathetic to that, but would also feel (silently) that it's a great shame that the person has not managed to overcome this with therapy, as it would be so much healthier and sociable to be able to eat a normal mixed diet.

It's not that hard to cater for vegans as a one off, surely. I would never expect a vegan or vegetarian or anyone else who doesn't eat meat to cook it for me. It would be no hardship at all to have a meal without any meat in it. Unless it was pointed out, it would scarcely register, actually.

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Read your post over again. It is ludicrous.

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Mondaytuesdayhappydays · 05/11/2025 16:00

Goldfsh · 05/11/2025 15:59

You have 6 adults and are doing two chickens and a gammon?? I'd have one chicken and a gammon left over! You are making a big deal of nothing.

11 adults x

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Cheesypasta · 05/11/2025 16:00

Mondaytuesdayhappydays · 05/11/2025 14:24

Listened to message DSIS tying herself in knots , it will literally be a large plate of meat and no veg but he will brings some prepared sliced avocado and homemade mayo.
Won’t eat gammon, more like a chicken to himself and any more going left over
Will get a tray of thighs as-well I think
alongside what we would normally get.
Should be fine, but odd but fine xx

Ah sounds familiar. I know someone like this who has stopped eating pork, only chicken beef or fish, very little carb.

I would be inclined to buy a big bag of salad and some zero fat dressing and serve that for him instead of the potatoes and trimmings 'to help fill you up' 😄 Divide the meat evenly between all guests.

Goldfsh · 05/11/2025 16:00

Ah sorry you've said 11 adults. Just shove some sausages in. It'll be fine. I wouldn't worry about it.

QuickPeachPoet · 05/11/2025 16:00

Absolutely NO CHANCE would I allow anyone to bring their own food and cook it in my house.
Either they eat what's on offer (in proportionate amounts) or stay away.
If anyone had an allergy or intolerance I would of course take that into account but no faddy eating under my roof.

Luna6 · 05/11/2025 16:00

That would put be right off a bloke. So weird. Even if you were on a high protein diet I am sure one day of eating other things wouldn't matter. Sounds very high maintenance.

CarterBeatsTheDevil · 05/11/2025 16:00

Mondaytuesdayhappydays · 05/11/2025 15:59

Again, surely you weren’t having that????

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To be fair, I'd already carved off the excess for sandwiches, so I let him work away on the basis that it meant the carcass ended up his bin instead. It did annoy me but it wasn't something I wanted to pick an argument about over Christmas!

Goldfsh · 05/11/2025 15:59

You have 6 adults and are doing two chickens and a gammon?? I'd have one chicken and a gammon left over! You are making a big deal of nothing.

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Mondaytuesdayhappydays · 05/11/2025 15:59

CarterBeatsTheDevil · 05/11/2025 15:57

A family friend used to come for Christmas every year - really in no way a gym bunny but every year he'd wrap up the carcass in the kitchen and disappear with it tucked under his arm to his car whilst his wife explained that he "liked to pick at a carcass" on Boxing Day. SO DID WE

Again, surely you weren’t having that????

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Breadcat24 · 05/11/2025 15:58

@hsjsjdjdjdhd And there alternatives to carbohydrate rich food in terms of leafy green vegetables, legumes etc apart from meat.
You will be deficient in diet if you just eat meat without supplements.
You will have shocking bowel health if you just eat meat and do not have fibre
Speaking as someone who works in this area of research

childofthe607080s · 05/11/2025 15:58

Think o would not be doing any meat at all -

CarterBeatsTheDevil · 05/11/2025 15:57

A family friend used to come for Christmas every year - really in no way a gym bunny but every year he'd wrap up the carcass in the kitchen and disappear with it tucked under his arm to his car whilst his wife explained that he "liked to pick at a carcass" on Boxing Day. SO DID WE

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TwoLeftSocksWithHoles · 05/11/2025 15:54

I would suggest that you provide the 'gym bunny' with a whole lettuce and four or five carrots and request that he does not dig holes in your lawn.

Breadcat24 · 05/11/2025 15:53

@ExtraOnions Even if he is training for something he is deluded if he thinks he will absorb all the peptides and amino acids from a massive amount of meat unless he addresses fibre and co-factors (required for enzymes to be active)
He is just lining himself up for the most horrible bowel situation.

Ketryne · 05/11/2025 15:52

All these people saying ‘just throw in an extra tray of chicken thighs’, do you have unlimited oven space? If I was cooking a roast for 11 I’d have every shelf carefully accounted for in the timing plan. I guess if he doesn’t care they’re cold from the fridge having been cooked several hours earlier!

Charlize43 · 05/11/2025 15:50

1kg of Chicken legs (4) are just £2 in Lidls. I doubt he'll eat 4 chicken legs!

FenceBooksCycle · 05/11/2025 15:49

The meat is the most expensive part of the meal and it's absolutely not reasonable for any one person to get more than their fair share. If there's going to be 8 people around the table you divide the available meat between 8 portions (I think on this occasion if you need there to be leftovers to use in the week ahead you need to reserve that before serving the rest. It's the height of unwarranted privilege for one persin to declare that they are too superspecial to make up the rest of their plateful with vegetables thereby depriving others by taking or asking for more than the ⅛th that is each person's fair portion - but yes bringing his own (cooked and ready to eat) extra meat is fair enough.

"Buy some extra meat" is not a reasonable solution. You'll barely get one more mouthful of meat for the price of a kilogram of carrots. It's not a fair or reasonable demand for a guest to make.

CoffeeCantata · 05/11/2025 15:47

So this pair of adults don’t understand that, while no one will force you to eat your greens, you only get YOUR share of the meat???

Ridiculous.

arethereanyleftatall · 05/11/2025 15:46

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I don’t know what you’re getting at, sorry.

Whatwouldnanado · 05/11/2025 15:46

Bad form. Ignore and do what you were planning to do. The chicken and gammon will be more than enough. Do you carve at the table? Serve ladies first. Let everyone help themselves to veg etc and make no comment whatsoever about what he chooses to put on his plate.

RausMitDerLaus · 05/11/2025 15:46

Looks like I'm an outlier but I'd just buy some extremely easy to prepare additional meat. Something that you can just throw in the oven. Your sis wants him to feel welcome and to get along well with his extended family. I dont think it's such a terrible request. She could get some meat herself but maybe she kind of wants to impress upon him how nice and accommodating you are?

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