‘Just the meat for me please’ Sunday Lunch issue ’

I don't know any one that add butter or honey to their vegatables, perhaps in a resturant, but not at home.

Harsh but fair…..

This. I would just buy a bit if extra chicken or similar and not think any more on it.

Give him this and never invite him round again.

Surely if you are in a cut you don’t accept an invitation to a meal since you can’t control what you eat.

Theres absolutely no way I’d go out to a meal and expect to have more of any item than everyone else gets.

its like me deciding I’ll have all the Yorkshire puddings and roasts and sod everyone else, they can have my carrots and sprouts

He'll probably take it as well. And still complain that he's hungry.

make sure he doesn't grab all the meat before the rest of you get to have enough.

It's very different, he's choosing to pile his plate with the most expensive part of the meal.

No way!! Dish up in the kitchen. Give him same amount of meat as everyone else.

No amount of sculpted abs and pecs would offset lying in bed next to a constipated bad breathed man who refuses veg and eats plates piled with meat and comes to a party with a couple of pork chops under his arm.

Your sister is bonkers for not only entertaining this personally, but allowing it to roll out to you as the host.

I just would not have eaten out with that man. For one thing would seeing that not put you right off your food?

Meat is expensive. I think your sister was rude to say “don’t worry, he’ll just pile his plate high with meat”. Nothing at all wrong with you saying you don’t have enough meat for him to do that. If he’s a nice lad with good manners, he’d be inclined to be grateful to be invited and given whatever you have meat wise. Again it would be rude of him to feel hard done by because you didn’t offer him a tower of meat. I think there was a good suggestion up thread to serve all the meat on individual plates and everyone can help shelves to veg. Or not. Your sister is rude to tell you how to host in your own house.

People who are on a cut generally don't eat piles of fatty meat like fried pork chops either.

His diet makes no sense in terms of "gym bunnies".

Bodybuilders either maintain, cut (calories to lose body fat) or bulk (excess calories from protein, fat, and carbs)

People just wanting to improve their health eat "clean".

Eating nothing but pork chops sounds very Atkins to me, which has fuck all to do with the gym and shouldn't stop him from eating a normal portion of meat with some broccoli and leafy greens.

I believe avocado is high in fat but has no carbohydrate in it. That's probably why. Plain roast chicken, sliced avocado, mayonnaise, nothing else, while everybody else is enjoying lovely gravy, roast potatoes, Yorkshire puddings, stuffing and sexy veg! He must be really invested in his bodybuilding. Another red flag as far as I'm concerned!

Thank you. Yes, it was dreadful. He was a true narc - devalued me more and more until he left me because he said I wasn't slim enough for him. I was devastated for a long time, but I know that it's probably the biggest favour anyone's ever done me.

He developed the disordered eating at some point in the early years of our marriage - he wasn't like that at all when dating. But in the end, I lived with all that food and weight obsession for quite a few years. I am pretty proud of the fact that his habits, and pressure to be as disordered as him, had zero effect on me. All through, just like my whole life and just like now, I ate three healthy meals a day.

Discussion of scurvy, upthread but my first thought was (sorry if lowering the tone) constipation! Is his gut not backed up for a fortnight if he only eats meat and no vegetables? It sounds incredibly unhealthy.
Slightly relieved to see that he’s bringing avocado, but why not just eat the veg provided then? I suppose this is a thread about politeness not healthy diet choices.

Just noticed I said "invented" rather than "discovered" about Vitamin C!

But no one has demanded that OP makes a whole extra chicken just for him.

Gosh, that sounds grim. I'm so glad you got shot of him.

I was going to say the same thing.

I know someone who puts sugar on carrots.

I don't think it's wrong for the boyfriend to just eat the meat. As long as he doesn't make any rude requests or expect more than his fair share! I don't bother with potatoes, so I just stick to plain veg and meat. I would never expect someone to change what they serve for me.

teamed broccoli and steamed carrots ----no pbm whatsoever
see green beans above not carrots

I totally disagree. These days, people have a multitude of different food requirements. If you don't want to accommodate, don't host. And it's hardly the Dsis's fault that her future son-in-law is like this.

Very interesting! On similar lines, I remember reading decades ago that in the UK potatoes used to be a very significant source of vitamin C simply because people ate so much of them - meat, potatoes and one or two other vegetables being the standard meal for many people. Once Britons started eating alternative carbs like pasta, rice, pizza and so on instead, they'd be getting less vitamin C unless they also started eating more fruit and veg.

I hope your DN knows what she's getting into. I was married to someone with a multitude of issues (not least being abusive) and he would get really obsessive about things. He glommed on to food and it was a nightmare. Patting his fish with his napkin in a pissed-off manner when out because there was a bit of butter on it, picking out the chunks of meat like someone else said upthread, refusing to eat normal food, coming to Xmas at my parents and saying he would only eat the veg and not to do anything special for him - of course they got him a veggie meal from Marks - and being really granular about what was in the gravy. He also frequently skipped meals, sometimes taking a week off work to fast for seven days. He was ALWAYS either fasting or on some faddy diet, so I just cooked and ate most of my meals alone.

And it took a darker turn, because he tried to put it all on me, too. Became obsessed with my weight. That's a whole story within itself.

The entire thing was absolutely grotesque, and I refuse to date anyone who is not straightforward about food, including vegetarians. After all that, I simply don't want to know. Normal eaters only.

I hope your DN knows what she's doing, marrying someone who might well be prone to disordered eating.

steamed broccoli and steamed carrots ----no pbm whatsoever