‘Just the meat for me please’ Sunday Lunch issue ’

We've dealt with this. Eating a lot of meat is not something people do because of some sort of belief system considered worthy of respect in a democratic society.
'All the animals must be killed so I can eat them because humans are the superior species!' is not a reason for the OP to have to buy a whole extra chicken for this muscle-bound glutton. If he'd turned up saying he didn't eat animal products because he was Hindu or because he has ethical issues with the idea of exploiting other species for food, OP doesn't have to agree, but she would probably accept this is how he thinks and cater for it - not least because it would be no big deal, unlike finding oven space for an extra chicken and forking out a lot more money than the cost of a bag of lentils and a few carrots.

Yanbu.
My dbil has some funny food fads and I am careful to cater for them but it doesn’t cause me lots of extra cost or effort and he has never expected me to do it. Which makes me happy to since he’s so charming about offering to bring his own food if it’s a bother to cook for him.

It is completely different in your case OP.
”I’m sorry I only eat expensive meat” is a ludicrous dietary requirement!

If he needs protein could he have a side of quinoa or chick peas? Quick and easy.

“The most expensive part of the meal”.
We’re not in Victorian times, do people really monitor the cost of who eats what? Do you always serve your Lord the best cut?
Cue all the “meats expensive” and “people can barely afford to eat” comments. If you were that poor you wouldnt be hosting people for Sunday lunch.

Presumably vegetables are cheaper and easier to prepare in larger quantities?

The SMELL from the toilet every day will be🤢🤮🤮🤮🤮🤮too!’

Exactly. Plus I know we are more expensive to cater for with 2 coeliac in our family, so always offer to bring bits for them, such as a gf desert, gf gravy, gf bread, snacks etc

Omg yes this.

It's not for the OP to deal with her sisters drama with her daughter.

That's up to the sister to manage without being rude to the OP and dragging her into it.

Looking forward to hearing what happens on the day @Mondaytuesdayhappydays !
But I'm sitting here wondering whether anyone really believes that their guests have the right to demand a certain quantity of food when they come round. Fine to say if they have food intolerances or even preferences, but who can seriously expect a whole chicken to themselves ?!? I think the reasonable thing is to offer him a share of whatever you are cooking. He can always have his whole roasted goat or whatever for breakfast and eat a normal sized portion when visiting his girlfriend's family - surely?
And of course, he hasn't said anything at all, it's your SIL who is making demands.

@Notmyreality not everyone can afford to buy an extra joint of meat just for one guest. What happens if the niece was following the same diet would you but an extra 2 chickens. OP is already having to cater for 11 people. Not sure where I would be able to cook an extra joint of meat

In addition to my earlier comment I'd be so tempted to do a veggie or vegan meal!!!

No I literally never put butter or honey on veg. We generally have steamed veg as it’s healthier. Bad enough having Yorkie let alone a load of veg soaked in sugar or fat!

Both of my nephews are into bodybuilding, and I've dipped in and out of it in the (distant) past. I follow a few bodybuilders/bikini body people on social media.

Most cuts involve a lot of egg whites, spinach, grilled chicken breast, and broccoli. I don't know of a single bodybuilder who does not eat any veg, no matter what cycle they are in. And none would eat pork while on a cut. The whole point of the diet is to be low in almost everything except protein (calories, carbs, and fat), which pork is not.

JC calm down.

@GoldDuster I couldn’t agree with you more I bet he stinks

We always massively over cater.... It's a family tradition.... 😁

The CF that stands out was a cousin's new BF.... We had 14 to lunch... Cost a bomb... Plenty of meat for seconds...table was groaning...

Except this CF literally PILED his plate... It was quite intriguing to watch... No veg... Just taking great forkfuls of sliced sirloin of beef... And then helped himself to thickly sliced chicken and then loads of gammon... He had a large portion, enough for about 5 people... The large plate was literally 6 inches deep in meat....

He then proceeded to eat it as if he hadn't eaten for a month.

He didn't even turn up with a cheap bottle or any sparkling wit /conversation...

Nothing! ... The cousin was simpering over him... How he 'ate well /liked his food'..

No shit..

Luckily we didn't see him again as it fizzled out...

Total CF

I don’t think they would take it lying down at a Toby carvery so, to that end, YANBU.

It's one meal. You're offering to entertain part of your extended family. There are many ways the younger generation can bring home someone the older generation find challenging. This seems to me at the harmless end of the scale.

You're already serving meat. As a percentage of cost and effort, chucking a few chicken breasts in the oven isn't that big a deal. I'd just suck it up, even though it's a million miles away from my values around food.

But of course you always have the Mumsnet option of saying "that doesn't work for me".

And constipation and bowel issues. Uuugh

He should bring his own!

Presumably if he was a vegetarian you’d comply?

I'm torn on this post, on the one hand I think your sister and BF are rude but then also I can see that this veg isn't for everyone. I would love it but I always cook steamed veg for a regular sunday roast - this would be a Christmas Day type meal not a regular Sunday dinner.

Do you know if he doesn't like veg or just veg loaded with things like cheese, honey, butter, cream, bacon eyc.....

If this was someone coming to my house I would probably chuck in a sweet potato to bake and buy some frozen veg to steam (I think you can do that in the microwave)

Any stock can be frozen and used for risottos. Made some fab risottos with the most bizarre stock choices, including boiled ham water.

Meat is very different to GF/ allergies or religious requirements . Meat is expensive!!!!
In that case get a couple of tins of Spam in!

Send a voicenote back telling her where the nearest Toby Carvery is and advise her to leave an hour early so that Mr Gym Bunny can chow down on as much meat as he can before arriving at yours for a civilised sit down meal with all the food groups

Thanks @Frequency for explaining what ‘in a cut’ means, never heard of it before (don’t hang out with body builders!).