‘Just the meat for me please’ Sunday Lunch issue ’

I haven't read all the thread/replies so may be repeating.

I'd also be asking DSis if her and her DD are up for a lifetime of meeting his demands when it comes to meal times..

He would get what everyone is having end of.
So she should bring ready cooked chops I'd expect her too aswell .

I bet it's like shitting out boulders if all he eats is meat. I would not want to be this man 😬

Because a plate high with meat is very expensive!

Is everything organic?

I’m British Indian so know quite a bit about Hindu, Islamic and Jain food practices but that doesn’t change the fact that they’re all still preferences. The difference is you are choosing to make a distinction based on what YOU deem to be a worthy reason (which is your prerogative) but materially there’s no difference. Personally I don’t think it’s my place to be judging whether someone’s reasons are good enough so always try to cater for everyone regardless of my personal opinion. I’m also atheist and don’t see why someone being entrenched in a fairytale means they are anymore worthy than someone doing it temporarily for sport or competition reasons; if something is important to someone then I’ll respect it so I’m an equal opportunity “panderer” if you like 😂

I think my culture has coloured my view on this subject because people have been conditioned to never question religion, however I’m well aware of how many religious people are happy to make others jump through hoops to accommodate their preferences but then have no trouble “temporarily” dropping those exact same preferences on other occasions when it suits them.

YANBU. He and the young woman are very ill mannered and clearly have no understanding of etiquette when you’re being hosted.

He’s been watching too much Eddie Abbew!!

Just meet up at a carvery, he can have what he wants then.
Easier all round.

This isn't even your child's boyfriend its your sisters. Nah. Suggest you go out.

@MumWifeOther I think OP is already cooking 2 chickens and a gammon, I wouldn’t have space in the oven to throw in some extra drumsticks

Me neither. Butter, cream, honey, bacon in veg etc not needed weekly I don't think.

I think your sister is being weird, not necessarily the boyfriend. He exists in the world as a functioning adult I assume...very unlikely he expects to be personally catered for as standard wherever he goes. He's going for dinner at his girlfriend's aunt's house. I can't imagine HE put in a request for meat only and plenty of it.

Think your sister is being a tad over-zealous about making him feel welcome.
I'd be annoyed with her.

He wants to eat a whole chicken but is rocking up with avocado? That’s good of him. I can’t see them getting many dinner invites if this is how he expects to be fed. That’s crazy.

If money is an issue, ask her to contribute and just get some extra drumsticks or something. You can get the preseasoned ones from Waitrose that come in a foil tray to just bung in the oven with everything else

Smelly farts as well!

If he is a strict carnivore, he won't surprisingly enough. Both glucose and Vitamin C use the same transporter to get into the cell. If you eat carbs, you need more Vitamin C to allow it to get into the cell. And meat does have vitamin c in it. You only need trace amounts. Having said that, as a carnivore myself, I wouldn't expect someone to spend out on my diet. I only eat once a day, so would just eat beforehand

If someone is catering for others then it's usually based on a normal portion of food regardless of cost

Yes meat is expensive, and you would hope, as the Host that people had basic manners and to not overload their plate so others can enjoy a nice plate of food

My 16yr old is currently in the kitchen cooking peri peri chicken.
His ingredients are;
1 bottle Nando's marinade
1 kg chicken breast.

I asked if there would be any spare for me and he said "I doubt it".

Hmm, bloody protein hunters!!

He’s a cf and your DS is daft to encourage him, but for the sake of family goodwill on this occasion I’d just buy a couple of extra chicken pieces and/or some sausages a gammon steak and chuck them in the oven with the rest.

i am always very careful to make sure that guests are served the best of the meat - yes. Isn’t that just politeness?

Conversely if I’m at someone’s house and a plate of meat is passed round, I don’t take all the best bits - I make sure I take a fair portion and pass the plate on.

It’s not just the cost it’s also portion management - how much meat is this guy going to eat? I can usually guess how much an average adult man or woman will eat but if the plate only contains meat will it be a huge stack? What does “piling up the meat” mean?

Gosh, such bubble mentality. Newsflash - some people do have to stick to a budget or have space restraints, when hosting, and some people would like to see everyone getting their fair share of the meat part of the meal. Nobody should be going to someone's house with the 'fill my plate high' mentality.

But people host according to their budget. It doesn’t sound like an issue for OP, but can you really not understand that someone may have budgeted carefully to afford this and not be simply able to buy an additional chicken?

You are very kind to do this and to think to buy more meat for them. I do think it is very rude to only eat the meat if you are invited to someone else's house.

My DH is on the carnivore diet, it is the most disgusting, most disordered and Cheeky fuckery of a diet I have ever seen. It's expensive (my DH eats through £80 a week in meat and that is bargain meat packs). I expect DH to pay for all his own meat from his own pot - it does not come out of family money or my money. It's his stupid expensive diet, his pocket can take the hit. Highly impractical (meat and dairy and food high in fat and no carbs for every meal). His breakfast is quite frankly the most bizarre thing ever to have existed - this morning it was pork chop, with yoghurt, cottage cheese and ham. Plus it makes eating out with someone on it a bloody miserable affair. DH orders a couple of sides- chicken wings/ ribs ect, and I have a normal meal but look like an absolute pig because I've got a meal in front of me and the wait staff always put the sides in the middle.

I refuse to cater for it and refuse to ask any of my family to cater for it - expecting a whole chicken to yourself or enough meat to be cooked to allow you to have a plate of meat is blatant CF and even more so if you don't know the person. Me and the kids have our normal food and I fully expect DH to cater for himself including buying his own meat. I make sure that me and the kids have portions for ourselves before allowing DH to have any meat from a meal I have cooked for us all as he will pile his plate high with just the meat. Scarfing all the meat from the leftovers is also CF and inconsiderate. I have been very clear that if we go anywhere to eat with others he is NOT to hoover up all the meat. If he can't eat normally when out with others or invited to other people's houses then he will have to wait until he gets home or not come.

I'm guessing your sister thinks this is what her BF will do, and she's trying to forewarn you.