‘Just the meat for me please’ Sunday Lunch issue ’

I still don't understand what diet he is doing and why? Can you ask @Mondaytuesdayhappydays ? I'm invested. I need to know.

Also, YWBU to buy him extra chicken, it is greedy and unnecessary. Sis was very, very, very unreasonable to even ask.

Oh good one! I'm totally getting the Marks catalogue when I swing by to pick up The Smyths one at the weekend.. my son & I can start marking off our wishlists 😂

Plate up beforehand so he or sis don’t steal all the meat for him. Cheeky fuckers.

I’m low carb so eat more protein but I manage my needs myself and don’t take more than my share.

Absolutely stealing the phrase sexy veg. I feel sorry for the girl marrying this man.

Are you reading a different thread or playing on semantics because your point is unsustainable?

And what if all 11 guests demand an entire chicken?

Just plate up the meat in the kitchen

I think I would make sure I wasn't skimping when it came to the meat and that there would be plenty for the planned 11 adults generously but not purchase and cook extra separate stuff for him.
I would make sure there was also lots of plain and inoffensive veg, steamed broccoli and carrots etc.
Then you can point out the steamed veg for the fiance and say, I've kept these vegetables simple as I was told you have a diet for your training, and there should be seconds on the meat too :)

He's probably polite enough to be happy with that and the sister is making it a bigger deal!

It’s very different, meat is expensive, why on earth would you expect to go to someone else’s house and pile your plate high with the most expensive part of the meal? I’d be plating the meat up

Yes I would do the same. Just let people.serve themselves the side dishes then nobody ends up short changed with the meat.

Scrontch!!
Lol

I wouldn’t change anything and wait and see what he actually takes…I know whenever I’ve been on a low carb diet that if it was me I would take a normal amount of meat and veg (whatever isn’t covered in butter) and be happy with that, I wouldn’t even mention it unless someone was to ask why no other sides and would at that point say something along the lines of I’m trying to cut carbs so this is perfect for me, she may well be putting him in an unfair light while trying to make sure no one over scrutinised him…if he knew he would probably be mortified

Only if the OP is sure he won't turn up with his own big plate, like Alan Partridge.

And often they spoil it for those of us with serious health issues. So many people now think coeliac disease is just a fad, a way to lose weight (not entirely wrong there if untreated to be fair), a little bit of gluten is harmless etc.

I have a BIL like this. He always takes more than a fair portion of meat from a buffet. We have to be tactical and let ladies go first and I also keep some back in the kitchen otherwise he’d take most of it! Funnily enough when he hosts there is barely enough to go round!

Make sure everyone gets plenty of meat before he helps himself.
I'd keep a bit back too for nibbles later.
Reminds me a bit of dh and me sharing a bag of liquorice all sorts.
He hated the coconut ones and there always seemed to be lots of them.
They weren't my favourites either but i was buggered if I'd eat just those and let him have the nice ones

Surely to god just cooking a pork chop or some extra chicken is easier then setting up this thread? Honestly we need a “think before you Mumsnet” tag. Things are getting out of hand. Your niece’s boyfriend doesn’t eat carbs, they’ve given you a heads up. Alright it’s a bit annoying but it’s hardly the biggest deal, expense or effort. You simply buy some extra meat. Get a rotisserie chicken if you’re that put out. You don’t ask people to bring some extra pork chops cooked. It’s tight and it’s weird,

I'm imagining this guy rocking up for Sunday lunch.

100% - vain gym bunny wants to load protein - he can do it at home. As a guest, you eat what's there... unless potato causes you to need epipen, you eat a potato.

Right, based on another thread actually (a woman who wanted to do a 1kg chicken for Xmas for 5 adults) I bought a 1.5 one this Sunday and did an experiment. I am on my own at the moment (DD is at her dad's) and I love chicken, so I have had it for every lunch and dinner since, counting.

I finished it just now. So that is seven meals from a 1.5 chicken (plus the cat had some bits). I am not an enormous eater, but the meals were mainly chicken focused (one roast, but otherwise salads or paninis). It lasted me 7 meals.

So I would confidently say a 1.5 chicken can feed 7 normal people 1 meal each.

Therefore, if you have two chickens + gammon, even if the meat guy wants a disproportionate amount of meat, providing he isn't mental, I think you will be fine.

I think you have meat enough for 20.

Just don't sweat it!

I imagine the poor fella would feel gutted if he realised that he is causing all this angst. Just let everyone have the meat they want, let him tuck into any other available meat, and if he doesn't feel he has had enough, I have no doubt he can source his own meat later.

I think your dsis may be a little bit of a stirrwr, TBH. Or maybe you are a slightly anxious host (i know I can be) and have panicked about a throw away comment unnecessarily.

Either way, just stress less and enjoy the meal. You will have plenty meat (and I don't think you even need to add in the thighs you have mentioned! But if you feel they will make you comfier, by all means do it!).

I hope it goes well, and that you all have a lovely meal.

And if all 11 people expected "only another tenner" to be spent on them? So fucking rude!

The smaller dinner plates, if you have them.

Grrr, this post has me reminiscing about a Xmas way back when my Sis, her DH & DC’s rocked up to my home for lunch, contributed nothing more than a green salad, and we all watched her DH pile his plate sky high with the roasted boneless turkey breast and the best bits of the beef. Greedy cheeky bugger took so much there wasn’t much left to go round for the rest of the family 😖

Sausages probably wouldn't be 'pure' enough protein for him.

It’s just so rude, and sils follow up makes it sound like he really would be that rude as to take his and 5 other people’s share of the meat and eat it. The op has 3 adult boys, I’m sure she’s done years of ‘have you left enough meat for everyone else’ then along comes someone who apparently was never parented. (Cannot believe the cf stories on this thread about guests literally taking all the meat)
anyway, I’d feel quite sorry for the niece as this sounds expensive and unreasonable and presumably she has to help fund it (or she will) and treat it like it’s normal. My nephew power lifts competitively. He can lift 6 of me at once. Hes a lovely young man who eats a healthy range of food, of course he loves meat and eats a lot of protein but he doesn’t take everyone else’s.
if you were going to theirs for dinner any time soon one of your sons should decide they are vegan and call ahead to let them know. I’d mention it before hand so they can make a few leading comments so it’s not such a surprise when you text to say fyi Bobby is vegan now.

I’d be giving the 16yo girl someone has on this thread the little house in the big woods series. Beautiful descriptions of food, a good read, and it’s blindingly clear that you spend your life working really hard to have unseasonal food in winter so you don’t all die.