To be terrified about telling the boss I’m resigning

This. No need to be so worried, you've done the work, they've paid you, but it just doesn't suit.

Dont. Say. Anything. Until you have your contract.

Oh, if you’re sorting a handover together then that’s different. I thought she was just attending to witness the discussion and try to deter heated comments. Arranging a handover makes sense.

I think you’re overthinking this too.

Why did someone offer to sit in with you during the meeting tomorrow? That audience would put more pressure on me to be honest, almost as if it may be a 2 v 1 scenario if your boss does take it badly. I think I’d rather just have a 1-1 chat where I tell the boss some lies about how wonderful my time has been but I am handing in my notice etc as to not offend them. I don’t think having a witness there would really help matters given you’re leaving anyway.

I’m really not understanding the angst. Sign new contract.
You just say to line manager you’ve secured a new role much closer to home. Check contract for how much notice to give and say you intend your last day to be x date. Follow up in writing.
Work notice. Leave.
People move jobs all the time and for all sorts of reasons. You haven’t done anything wrong.
Maybe look at getting some support with your confidence (my workplace runs all sorts of courses) or find a mentor or similar.

It’s a job, your life is more important.

Oh and I’m a manager. Wouldn’t dream of overstepping the mark like that. That’s bullying and discrimination and I’d probably get the sack
if that came to light.

OP is terrified of telling a random she has known for 7 months that she’s leaving (screw that manager and company) and sounds like the manager bullied and discriminated against her by overstepping the mark asking pregnancy questions (how is that even ok). That sounds pretty stressed to me.

I remember being terrified handing my notice in for my first proper job. It was a tiny company start up, he only employed 3 of us and I was convinced he was going to be angry / incredibly disappointed in me and I had so much anxiety about it. As it happened he barely gave a crap, agreed I could leave before my notice time was up and wished me luck

Honestly OP its a job - they arent your friends and if they needed to let you go they would, in a heartbeat

Do make sure you have signed your new contract before handing in notice tho

1. Sign new contract for new job.
2. Hand in notice at current job once start date at new job is confirmed.

No bridges burned and nobody left in the lurch. Sorted.

IF she is actually stressed and can get a Doctor to agree to it.
Doesn't sound like it

Resign and then go on sick leave for stress.

Do you think maybe you're catastrophising a bit?

Look, it could be awkward, but you're in a great position - you have another job lined up, you know you will be happy there and it removes the long commute.

Things are looking up - stop ruining a good thing for yourself.

Just tell boss you've been head hunted and the perks are such that you can't turn them down. Say it's a good career move and you are very lucky to have been offered it. Be regretful that it means moving on quickly but push the narrative of money and perks you can't refuse and thank her profusely for her support while you've been there.

If she's arsey or rude to you during your remaining period, WHO CARES? You don't need a reference and you'll be out of there soon. If they dismiss you, great. A few weeks off with pay!

Tear off the paster, OP!

I'm sure you'll be fine.

You’ve got to do what’s best for you and your family. It doesn’t matter if they are cross.

You tell them EXACTLY what u just said as there’s nothing wrong with it. You’re unhappy, it doesn’t suit your lifestyle and especially about your daughter. We only get one shot a life! Do what’s right for YOU xx

If they dismiss you on the spot they have to pay you your notice. So you'll have a wonderful time being paid and not working

If they cause any issues for you whilst you work your notice period, go on the sick

It's no biggie at all

Your current job employers are asking you to work for free all under the guise of flexibility. You owe them nothing and it really doesn’t matter what their reaction is as you are leaving. Keep it polite but to the point that you are resigning.

Tell the truth about the commute and how it’s affecting your daughter. Can’t go wrong doing that. Good luck with your new job

It’s a contract, resign as per the terms and congrats on the new role sounds much better.

As an aside which adult has care of your dc while you are commuting home? They need to not be waiting for you to get home for her essentials to be covered, as well as feeding and keeping safe she has educational needs and bedtime routine which could happen without you. Just exhausting for you to come home to undone basic care.

Resigning sucks but they'd sack you in a heartbeat if the boot was other foot. It's a business. People leave. Just resign and get it over with.