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UNHINGED woman screaming at me for “putting my dog in boot”

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Brouge · 05/11/2025 10:09

I don’t deny my dog was in the boot of my (saloon) car for 30 secs. BUT we get the dog to jump in the boot where we have towels to give him a wipe down before putting him on the back seat. The boot is totally self contained so OBVIOUSLY it would be very bloody cruel.

Did this yesterday and this nutter comes screaming over from the other side of the park’s car park asking if I was serious. I tried explaining to her what I was doing but she wouldn’t have any of it. It was really weird. I said go look at the backseat of my car where you will see a dog seatbelt and car seat cover. Clearly a set up for the dog. But she refused to look. Said I was only putting the dog in the back cause I got caught out. Took photos of my license plate and said she was going to post me online and report me. What the actual fuck. She was an inch from my face at one point.

It’s so bizarre!

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Sweetleftfood · 05/11/2025 10:56

JacquesHarlow · 05/11/2025 10:35

Oh goodness @carpedaim ...really? "It isn't possible" - just a blanket statement?

One of my best friends is a fleet manager so weirdly I know a bit about cars.

I can name off the top of my head several popular saloon cars where seats can fold:

  • Audi A6 has 60/40 fold seats
  • BMW 3 series can fold 40 / 20 / 40 depending on how you configure your seating
  • Mazda 6 SL has folding seats
  • Audi A4, Jag XE and Jag XF all had option of folding seats and the "ski hatch" thing which some people use to put down and allow access to boot

So I just wouldn't say in a blanket way that "in a saloon car the boot is completely self contained". This is not true for all saloon cars.

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Missing the point much 😣

TorroFerney · 05/11/2025 10:55

Brouge · 05/11/2025 10:35

As in I don’t have SM accounts

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So you’ll never know what she does then? I think this is a case of she’s a nutter and move on. I wouldn’t have even engaged with her, she was never going to say gosh I’m sorry I overreacted a bit there. Royal family it - never explain.

HappyToSmile · 05/11/2025 10:52

I would be looking forward to her posting it tbh. (I know you said you're not on sM, but tell all your friends to keep an eye open!). I always like hearing the other side of a story, especially when it comes to pets !!

HelenaWaiting · 05/11/2025 10:48

JacquesHarlow · 05/11/2025 10:35

Oh goodness @carpedaim ...really? "It isn't possible" - just a blanket statement?

One of my best friends is a fleet manager so weirdly I know a bit about cars.

I can name off the top of my head several popular saloon cars where seats can fold:

  • Audi A6 has 60/40 fold seats
  • BMW 3 series can fold 40 / 20 / 40 depending on how you configure your seating
  • Mazda 6 SL has folding seats
  • Audi A4, Jag XE and Jag XF all had option of folding seats and the "ski hatch" thing which some people use to put down and allow access to boot

So I just wouldn't say in a blanket way that "in a saloon car the boot is completely self contained". This is not true for all saloon cars.

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Why so defensive? No one should put a dog in a self-contained boot; the potential for overheating is huge and you wouldn't be able to see if the dog was in distress. You should be welcoming this message, rather than trying to undermine it with a list of saloon models that are the exception rather than the rule.

Friendlygingercat · 05/11/2025 10:47

My grandmother used to say "What the eye does not see the heart does not grieve over". She was a very wise woman. If OP does not use the type of social media (which is largely a waste of time) where people slag one another off then she will not know or care if some mad random has published lies about her.

Balloonhearts · 05/11/2025 10:41

carpedaim · 05/11/2025 10:31

In a saloon car the boot is completely self -contained - it's isn't possible to remove a shelf or fold seats down to access the rest of the car.

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Oh I see, yeah you couldn't put a dog in there.

Dontlletmedownbruce · 05/11/2025 10:37

I suspect she posts on the dog house forum on MN. It's more bat shit than AIBU. To be fair some very helpful people too but I posted a genuine question when getting a new puppy and my God the nasty answers were unreal.

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Brouge · 05/11/2025 10:37

JacquesHarlow · 05/11/2025 10:32

Please remember @Brouge that you're writing an entire thread about something which might happen.

Not has happened, but might happen. She took photos of your licence plate which is a weird thing to do, but she didn't take pictures of you or your dog.

I am definitely captured in the images. She had her phone out and seemed to be videoing

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JacquesHarlow · 05/11/2025 10:36

Brouge · 05/11/2025 10:35

As in I don’t have SM accounts

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It's ok @Brouge I knew what you meant.

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Brouge · 05/11/2025 10:35

PollyBell · 05/11/2025 10:35

If you are not online how are you posting this?

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As in I don’t have SM accounts

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JacquesHarlow · 05/11/2025 10:35

carpedaim · 05/11/2025 10:31

In a saloon car the boot is completely self -contained - it's isn't possible to remove a shelf or fold seats down to access the rest of the car.

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Oh goodness @carpedaim ...really? "It isn't possible" - just a blanket statement?

One of my best friends is a fleet manager so weirdly I know a bit about cars.

I can name off the top of my head several popular saloon cars where seats can fold:

  • Audi A6 has 60/40 fold seats
  • BMW 3 series can fold 40 / 20 / 40 depending on how you configure your seating
  • Mazda 6 SL has folding seats
  • Audi A4, Jag XE and Jag XF all had option of folding seats and the "ski hatch" thing which some people use to put down and allow access to boot

So I just wouldn't say in a blanket way that "in a saloon car the boot is completely self contained". This is not true for all saloon cars.

thecalmsea · 05/11/2025 10:35

Haha I used to dry my kids in the boot at the beach! This seems totally normal to me and I would just think 'mad.dog woman's I saw anything about it on SM.

PollyBell · 05/11/2025 10:35

Brouge · 05/11/2025 10:26

I’m not online so worried it will be shared without my knowledge

If you are not online how are you posting this?

user2848502016 · 05/11/2025 10:34

Some dog owners are insane that’s all, they think they’re the only people in the world suitable for dog ownership. What you were doing was completely normal.
A woman shouted at me over the summer that my dog was at serious risk of dying from heatstroke and I needed to get him indoors at once - he had just come out of an air conned car and had a drink of water and it was only about 20c 😂 I would have found it funny if my kids hadn’t been with me and my youngest was upset thinking the dog was about to die!

Mollydoggerson · 05/11/2025 10:33

Everyone will think she is mad.

Doggy Vigilante Woman. Only dog lover in the village,...... Waaaa, will someone please think of the fur babies!!!!

HoppingPavlova · 05/11/2025 10:32

We had dogs when some of ours were young. We had 4wd/SUV type cars but we always called the back hatch area ‘the boot’. My eldest, a preschooler, at the time would always tell people we put our dogs in the boot. Obviously, I would clarify it was a 4wd/SUV style hatch not a sedan boot. But no doubt they told it to preschool teachers etc who probably thought we locked dogs in a sedan boot. To clarify why they spoke about it so much, they were always super excited when we loaded the dogs in to take them to beach/somewhere for a walk as it meant an exciting place for them also.

JacquesHarlow · 05/11/2025 10:32

Please remember @Brouge that you're writing an entire thread about something which might happen.

Not has happened, but might happen. She took photos of your licence plate which is a weird thing to do, but she didn't take pictures of you or your dog.

carpedaim · 05/11/2025 10:31

Balloonhearts · 05/11/2025 10:24

There's nothing wrong with a dog travelling in the boot anyway! My dog used to. You take the shelf out so they can sit up and look out the window, put their bed back there and they're happy as Larry.

In a saloon car the boot is completely self -contained - it's isn't possible to remove a shelf or fold seats down to access the rest of the car.

Moominmoko · 05/11/2025 10:30

Why can't a dog go in the boot!? Mine does, he has a seat belt in there. I'm baffled.

ThreePointOneFourOneFiveNine · 05/11/2025 10:30

Do you have any friends who are on social media who could do a pre-emptive post about you being verbally assaulted by an ignorant self righteous woman who refused to believe the truth?

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Brouge · 05/11/2025 10:30

Boot is like this. IMO it’s not acceptable to put a dog in this (unless you put the seat down like a pp described)

UNHINGED woman screaming at me for “putting my dog in boot”
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YodasHairyButt · 05/11/2025 10:28

But if you don’t see it and nobody who knows you sees it and shows it to you, why do you care? People post utter crap on the internet all the time, most people with half an ounce of intelligence can see through the rubbish and the ones who can’t are beyond help anyway. She was an idiot, forget about her and get on with your life.

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Brouge · 05/11/2025 10:28

Balloonhearts · 05/11/2025 10:24

There's nothing wrong with a dog travelling in the boot anyway! My dog used to. You take the shelf out so they can sit up and look out the window, put their bed back there and they're happy as Larry.

I agree. But tbf my boot does not have a shelf so it’s not acceptable for him to travel in the boot of my car. The boot is totally separate.

But my husband has a jeep so my dog does go in the boot of his car as we have taken the shelf out.

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Figgygal · 05/11/2025 10:27

But it's not illegal to transport a dog in the boot 🤷🏻‍♀️ of a car
She crazy!!

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Brouge · 05/11/2025 10:26

I’m not online so worried it will be shared without my knowledge

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