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UNHINGED woman screaming at me for “putting my dog in boot”

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Brouge · 05/11/2025 10:09

I don’t deny my dog was in the boot of my (saloon) car for 30 secs. BUT we get the dog to jump in the boot where we have towels to give him a wipe down before putting him on the back seat. The boot is totally self contained so OBVIOUSLY it would be very bloody cruel.

Did this yesterday and this nutter comes screaming over from the other side of the park’s car park asking if I was serious. I tried explaining to her what I was doing but she wouldn’t have any of it. It was really weird. I said go look at the backseat of my car where you will see a dog seatbelt and car seat cover. Clearly a set up for the dog. But she refused to look. Said I was only putting the dog in the back cause I got caught out. Took photos of my license plate and said she was going to post me online and report me. What the actual fuck. She was an inch from my face at one point.

It’s so bizarre!

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Sillysaussicon · 05/11/2025 13:01

My dog always travels in the boot. She is well trained to tolerate it and has very positive associations with it, she jumps in willingly and settles down in her bed. It's essentially a crate, so the same size rules apply, as long they dog can fully stand, sit and turn they should be okay.

On a side note, what I see all the time which annoys me is unsecured dogs. Lots of people sue doggy seatbelts for the protection of the dog, but actually they aren't going to do much in a big crash and unfortunately a dog cannot really be kept safe in any car travelling at speed. What they are for is to restrain any dog which could become agitated and/or dangerous in the event of a crash. My dog is as calm and controlled as they come but in a motorway crash I am realistic to know she would be confused, scared and protective of us, and would be a danger and possibly prevent paramedics from assisting my family. So the boot with a bar it is. Would never about at a stranger for it though lol.

user1471538275 · 05/11/2025 12:57

People can be strange. Be glad she's not your neighbour or family member.

Tiebiter · 05/11/2025 12:52

I'd put a note up where you were walking "warning, aggressive dog walker nearby" and then do a stick figure shouting near a car boot at the bottom.

Orangesandlemons77 · 05/11/2025 12:48

This reminds me of once when my DCs were small, I had to strap one in the buggy quite forcefully (as they were a toddler and going to run into the road otherwise) and I had similar from a nutter, across the road shouting and going on!

Comefromaway · 05/11/2025 12:47

I used to change my dd and ds's nappies in the boot of the car. She'd have had apoplexy at that!

Floatlikeafeather2 · 05/11/2025 12:47

JacquesHarlow · 05/11/2025 10:35

Oh goodness @carpedaim ...really? "It isn't possible" - just a blanket statement?

One of my best friends is a fleet manager so weirdly I know a bit about cars.

I can name off the top of my head several popular saloon cars where seats can fold:

  • Audi A6 has 60/40 fold seats
  • BMW 3 series can fold 40 / 20 / 40 depending on how you configure your seating
  • Mazda 6 SL has folding seats
  • Audi A4, Jag XE and Jag XF all had option of folding seats and the "ski hatch" thing which some people use to put down and allow access to boot

So I just wouldn't say in a blanket way that "in a saloon car the boot is completely self contained". This is not true for all saloon cars.

Well clearly it's true for OP's car so do give over. Nobody really cares how much you know (or don't know) about cars. It's really not important to this post.

Idontneedamigranetoday · 05/11/2025 12:46

I wouldn't worry about it. If anything is brought to your attention explain the situation but try not to give it any more headspace. I used to change DCs nappies when they were little in the boot and other school Mums do the same. I've certainly never driven off with them in there.

Floatlikeafeather2 · 05/11/2025 12:42

Figgygal · 05/11/2025 10:27

But it's not illegal to transport a dog in the boot 🤷🏻‍♀️ of a car
She crazy!!

Not all cars are hatchbacks or estates. Some people drive saloons (like OP) where the boot is a self contained box, outside of the rest of the car. A dog wouldn't be able to sit up or turn around, let alone see out, and air supply would be limited. If that's not actually illegal, it should be.

Isobel201 · 05/11/2025 12:41

TheNightingalesStarling · 05/11/2025 11:09

You mean you didn't collect your dog in a chauffeur driven limousine with on board canine physical therapist to help him recover from his walk?

😂😂😂
if she was filming you, I would have carried on towel drying the dog and then put his harness on and let him into the back seat as normal. if you are not on facebook then don't worry about it.

Sez1990 · 05/11/2025 12:37

Even if she posts you online, people will not pass you in the street thinking “Omg that’s the lady who put her dog in the boot!!”. They will forget you in an instant because immediately next there will be a photo of a local weirdo knocking doors or a paedophile or someone who scammed someone else on Facebook.
If you are worried you could take photos of your back seat and get a friend to look out for posts where they could post the truth for you. If she really is unhinged then people will get that vibe from what she says. But I don’t think is something to worry about too much, especially as you haven’t done anything wrong

Soggyspaniel · 05/11/2025 12:34

Even if you were popping the dog in your boot which is a sealed box, they would have been absolutely fine for a short while. They would have just had a lay down whilst you drove home!

I adore and have always had dogs, but have noticed people are getting more and more bonkers about them. They’re dogs. Not people. They will survive.

lurcherlove · 05/11/2025 12:23

There’s some absolute nutjobs about there. I had someone post about me and my dog, something that was completely made up but really awful. It upset me for a long time. I didn’t know about it until my SIL sent me a screenshot asking if it was about my dog. I asked the page owner to take it down. It is their responsibility to make sure there are no libellous posts on the page they run. Or was at the time.

That will sound OTT to some, but there were several pitchfork comments by the time I saw the post.

RandomMess · 05/11/2025 12:13

Well if it gets back to you with who has posted on line etc you can report her to the police for her behaviour.

opencecilgee · 05/11/2025 12:12

People are unhinged where dogs are concerned and need to mind their own business

piscofrisco · 05/11/2025 12:12

My dogs travel in the boot without the parcel shelf so they see what’s going on. They have a big basket in there. Can’t see the issue.

gamerchick · 05/11/2025 12:11

Don't worry OP. The load of us who are on SM would probably be happy to step in if it pops up. You met a loon, there are a lot of them about. Don't give it any more thoughts

Frugalgal · 05/11/2025 12:11

Brouge · 05/11/2025 10:09

I don’t deny my dog was in the boot of my (saloon) car for 30 secs. BUT we get the dog to jump in the boot where we have towels to give him a wipe down before putting him on the back seat. The boot is totally self contained so OBVIOUSLY it would be very bloody cruel.

Did this yesterday and this nutter comes screaming over from the other side of the park’s car park asking if I was serious. I tried explaining to her what I was doing but she wouldn’t have any of it. It was really weird. I said go look at the backseat of my car where you will see a dog seatbelt and car seat cover. Clearly a set up for the dog. But she refused to look. Said I was only putting the dog in the back cause I got caught out. Took photos of my license plate and said she was going to post me online and report me. What the actual fuck. She was an inch from my face at one point.

It’s so bizarre!

Jesus, she's sounds like an absolute nutter..

Katiesaidthat · 05/11/2025 12:08

usedtobeaylis · 05/11/2025 11:00

Just as well she didn't see me sitting my daughter in the boot at the beach to get the sand off her feet or she would have combusted.

Edited

Hehe I do the same, since she was tiny. She´s now 7 and seats herself in the boot!

BerryTwister · 05/11/2025 12:07

I assume you're thinking the photos will go on a local facebook page. Do any of your friends have Facebook accounts that might see it? I'd ask them to look out for it, and if she posts, they can reply "I'm glad you've posted. My friend wanted your name to report you to the police for threatening behaviour, so now I can pass on your name".

xSideshowAuntSallyXx · 05/11/2025 12:05

There are so many bloody busy bodies around these days. So many cats being picked up as stray or lost when they aren't. Then so many people jumping in to offer said non-missing cat a home, like Barbara dear it probably has a home stray cats aren't usually well fed.

I get fed up with the patronising posts about walking dogs in the heat the moment it gets above 20c. Then the ones about dogs barking etc.

Mollydoggerson · 05/11/2025 12:01

A woman approached me on the green yesterday attempting to engage in some tiny, cute, doggy rivalry. It was v odd indeed.

Is it midlife madness? The Internet? Everything is a virtue signalling, self obsessed panto.

Nowt as queer as folk!

REP22 · 05/11/2025 11:56

dailyconniptions · 05/11/2025 11:51

You're not understanding the type of boot OP is talking about. It is a CLOSED BOX. You cannot put a guard on the seats becauseits not set up that way. But OP wasn't shutting him in there anyway.

Thanks, yes, got it - I have edited my post. Closed boots and saloon cars are not something I encounter very often, hehe

bridgetreilly · 05/11/2025 11:54

Worst reading comprehension thread on the internet?

It DOES NOT MATTER what the boots on other makes of car are like. The OP has posted a photo of hers. I do not understand why this has become a thread about car design, rather than nutters in real life and online.

dailyconniptions · 05/11/2025 11:51

REP22 · 05/11/2025 11:48

What?!? My beloved dog travels in the boot as a matter of course. He has a bed in there and a dog guard fitted to the rear seats by Halfords to prevent him jumping over. He has a seatbelt attachment that would enable him to sit on the rear seat securely, but he doesn't like it and prefers the boot. In actual fact, I adopted his predecessor from The Dogs Trust - they will not allow you to take home your adopted dog in a car unless you have a seatbelt attachment OR a boot dog guard - similarly the Blue Cross, from which I adopted my present sidekick. So they advocate secure boot travel.

A lot of my colleagues (farm and country park rangers) have canine colleagues. It is workplace policy that these dogs travel securely in the boots of work vehicles.

Police dogs travel in secure crates in the boots of the squad cars.

This lady was, indeed, entirely unhinged. Any posts she makes on social media are likely to highlight her utter wingnuttery to whoever sees them and should reflect on you only as a caring and responsible dog owner.

Edited - I didn't appreciate it was a closed-boot situation. But I stand by my view on her nuttiness. If she'd filmed you actually shutting the boot on a whimpering and trembling dog - well, OK. But it will have been obvious what you were doing. Plenty of people towel off their dogs in the boot before putting them in the main part of the car. Or even their small children - I can remember my brother and I being sat on the back of the car coming back from the beach when we were little, while mum or dad towelled the sand off our legs and feet. Some people are determined to be angry. Don't let them get to you @Brouge x

Edited

You're not understanding the type of boot OP is talking about. It is a CLOSED BOX. You cannot put a guard on the seats becauseits not set up that way. But OP wasn't shutting him in there anyway.

spoonbillstretford · 05/11/2025 11:49

CatkinToadflax · 05/11/2025 11:34

There are some very strange people out there. I expected to be put on SM a couple of years ago when I completely accidentally drove a bit too close to a horse - I didn’t even know it was there because it was behind a bend in the road. The man on the horse and the woman leading him screamed and shouted and gesticulated at me and I had to turn round and go back past them because I’d missed my turning. I stopped on the other side of the road and asked them what the problem was, and while the woman continued to scream and shout at me, the man walked the horse over to my car and kicked the car. It was bizarre and upsetting, but I figured that if they put me on SM then the video they took would be of them going completely bananas while I spoke to them calmly. Don’t worry about it OP.

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I thought I was going to end up on there - got yelled at by a horse rider for jogging really slowly at dusk with my hi vis and running light on (pointing at the ground) on the other side of the road to the horse. Not sure how the horse would cope with a car and headlights coming past if it was getting upset about someone going at walking speed with a light.