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AIBU to not let Y7 DD walk home in the dark?

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Floorfeelslikelava · 05/11/2025 08:41

DD has over the last 6 months started walking home from school (with friends). She’s sensible and whilst it’s light, I’m comfortable that this is a perfectly age-appropriate thing to do.

Now that the clocks have gone back, however, I am reluctant to let her walk home in the dark. She usually finishes school clubs at 5.30. Whilst it’s only actually about ten minutes’ walk, it’s down a very dark, quiet side street and there are stretches which are pretty much pitch black. Her friends are still doing it, and DH thinks it’s fine, but I feel very uncomfortable about the idea. I was attacked in my 20s so I’m not sure whether my view is unreasonable. Would you be letting your Y7 DD walk home in the dark under these circumstances?

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Itsseweasy · 05/11/2025 08:51

If it was at 3pm and the whole school were walking out and lots of kids were still about I’d be ok with it, but not alone at 5:30pm
If she’s in a group with friends I’d allow it, but not alone for any part of the journey. Too many opportunist men about.

CrowMate · 05/11/2025 08:50

I’d pick up.

Laserwho · 05/11/2025 08:49

Lots of parents pick up yeat 7 children (and older) even when it's light. If you prefer to pick her up and walk with her that's completely understandable

OhDearMuriel · 05/11/2025 08:48

Theres No way I would let a 7 girl or boy walk home in the dark.
She wouldn’t stand a chance with a predator and that’s why so many DCs of her age have been abducted and murdered.

Cynic17 · 05/11/2025 08:46

Of course it's fine. We all have to do it, and learn how to manage this kind of situation, so this is a perfect time to start.
Bu refusing to let her do it you are telling her that there is something to be scared of - which there isn't. Please don't pass on your own anxieties to your child.

Bitzee · 05/11/2025 08:46

Is she walking with friends or on her own? With friends on a route she knows well would be fine I think. Come mid December it’ll be dark at ~3pm and that seems very early to not allow a 11/12 year old out by themselves. Maybe a compromise that if she’s with friends she can walk but if she’s on her own then you collect her?