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Ihateslugs · 05/11/2025 12:48

I don’t use any soap on my face, I’ve not found one after many attempts that does not irritate my skin. But I do use soap on my hands which fortunately are not so delicate!

I do though sometimes use cold water to wash my hands as the combi boiler takes ages to get hot water through to the kitchen and bathroom, I have to run the hot water tap for several minutes waiting for it to get hot. I’ve been told this is because the boiler is located in the garage some distance from the taps. I have done a bit of research though that says that is fine to use cold water providing you rub for a while using soap - like the singing of happy birthday during Covid!

RessicaJabbit · 05/11/2025 12:37

Porridgespoon · 05/11/2025 12:06

Too much soap makes my hands very sore so I only do it when I feel it's really necessary.

I'm sure it's "revolting" but I and people around me don't seem to get ill any more than anyone else.

But... surely when you've been to the toilet is one of the times it's really necessary...?

RessicaJabbit · 05/11/2025 12:35

hydrangeadangerea · 05/11/2025 07:41

In a nutshell it’s comes to light that my DH doesn’t use soap to wash hands unless he is visibly dirty. So after wiping his bottom, his logic is, he doesn’t make contact with his bum himself so it’s fine to just rinse with some cold water.
This is a massive, unforgivable ick to me and I don’t think I can over look it.
Im a HCP so hygiene is engrained in my every move!

Ask him this; if he watched a chef go into the toilet, rinse his hands under water, and then cooked him a meal, would he be happy to eat that food?

outerspacepotato · 05/11/2025 12:33

Runs away screaming.......

Fred the Fecal

Happyjoe · 05/11/2025 12:30

Tillow4ever · 05/11/2025 11:49

Slightly off topic, but feels a good place to ask. Does anyone know of a hand soap (preferably liquid as I hate the texture of bars) that either moisturises hands too or at least doesn’t dry them out so much? I suffer terribly with dry hands, have done since I was a teenager, but lately I am needing to go for a wee every hour instead of 2 or 3 times a day - it means my hands are getting drier and drier from the soap every time. I get through so much hand cream it’s ridiculous.

Sorry to steering the post away from the original question, it just didn’t feel worth its own post and you guys might be able to help me!

Sadly none really, just pop a bottle of hand cream next to the soap, like they do in post hotels? Hopefully replacing the moisture immediately will help.

Happyjoe · 05/11/2025 12:28

Pinkcactushouse · 05/11/2025 09:35

I think most men think like this.

I remember during covid being in the service station with my brother on way back from a funeral and he remarked that for the 1st time ever, he saw a queue of men washing their hands in the gents. So I suspect you're right...

Happyjoe · 05/11/2025 12:26

Utterly gross! How can be be an adult and not know what's what?! He'll be spreading those germs everywhere too..

I used to rent a room off an old childhood mate, who also happens to be a consultant. She never washed her hands after a wee and she really should know about bacteria!

KimberleyClark · 05/11/2025 12:12

Another slightly off topic question, but we just stayed in a hotel in the US where no soap or handwash was provided for the washbasi, we had to make do with shower gel. Which we didn’t mind, but it is unusual for there to be no soap or handwash for the washbasin. Is this normal for the US? It wasn’t an oversight, it stayed that way for the stay.

bigboykitty · 05/11/2025 12:11

Porridgespoon · 05/11/2025 12:06

Too much soap makes my hands very sore so I only do it when I feel it's really necessary.

I'm sure it's "revolting" but I and people around me don't seem to get ill any more than anyone else.

Yes it's revolting. Such a lack of care for others.

SpanielLover2023 · 05/11/2025 12:11

Soap does not kill pathogens, it along with water and scrubbing mechanically removes them from your hands.

plumclafoutis · 05/11/2025 12:10

I wouldn’t let him in the kitchen or my bed as he will be transferring all those germs all round the house, on his phone, remote control, door handles and so on. Revolting.

Porridgespoon · 05/11/2025 12:06

Too much soap makes my hands very sore so I only do it when I feel it's really necessary.

I'm sure it's "revolting" but I and people around me don't seem to get ill any more than anyone else.

Tillow4ever · 05/11/2025 12:05

MoreThanRubies · 05/11/2025 12:01

@Tillow4ever it’s a bar soap, sorry, but Johnson’s Baby Soap or supermarket equivalent baby soap (Sainsbury’s, Tesco’s) is the only thing I can use without my hands getting shredded in the winter. Cheap and found in the baby aisle.

Thanks - I’ll see if there’s any liquid soap suggestions and if not I’ll try to overcome my issues with the texture.

coldiris · 05/11/2025 12:04

I agree with all those who don't consider it washing without soap. Using his logic, there is no need for a shower or washing anything properly if it isn't in contact with any actual dirt.

NellieJean · 05/11/2025 12:03

Don’t let him cook anything.

HorrorAndHaagenDazs · 05/11/2025 12:03

Sheer grim bone-idleness.

MoreThanRubies · 05/11/2025 12:01

@Tillow4ever it’s a bar soap, sorry, but Johnson’s Baby Soap or supermarket equivalent baby soap (Sainsbury’s, Tesco’s) is the only thing I can use without my hands getting shredded in the winter. Cheap and found in the baby aisle.

gamerchick · 05/11/2025 11:56

Ecoli passes through several sheets of toilet paper. He will be getting shit on his hands.

I'm not sure what you can do but I wouldn't be letting those hands anywhere near my holy place. Hed have a choice to make.

notaweddingdress · 05/11/2025 11:52

hydrangeadangerea · 05/11/2025 11:17

Agreed. As someone who uses evidential practice in their every day job, handwashing being a huge part of it, I am absolutely livid. Genuinely might LTB.

Is he prepared to wash them properly going forward? I wouldn't be too upset about the past - no-one got sick (presumably)

Tillow4ever · 05/11/2025 11:49

Slightly off topic, but feels a good place to ask. Does anyone know of a hand soap (preferably liquid as I hate the texture of bars) that either moisturises hands too or at least doesn’t dry them out so much? I suffer terribly with dry hands, have done since I was a teenager, but lately I am needing to go for a wee every hour instead of 2 or 3 times a day - it means my hands are getting drier and drier from the soap every time. I get through so much hand cream it’s ridiculous.

Sorry to steering the post away from the original question, it just didn’t feel worth its own post and you guys might be able to help me!

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hydrangeadangerea · 05/11/2025 11:17

Agreed. As someone who uses evidential practice in their every day job, handwashing being a huge part of it, I am absolutely livid. Genuinely might LTB.

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bigboykitty · 05/11/2025 10:07

Does he then dry his shitty hands on a hand towel to share his germs with the whole family? He's disgusting, anyway.

Didshejustsaythatoutloud · 05/11/2025 10:05

The amount of women I see using public toilets and also using this method is 🤑 (including the Morrisons cafe employee😮)

childofthe607080s · 05/11/2025 09:37

get him to look at the science - it’s the soap that kills the bogies and poo particle turn up all over the place and even if you don’t poo washing your hands regularly reduces other germs getting around

it’s unscientific to not use soap multiple times a day

RabbitsEatPancakes · 05/11/2025 09:36

That's not washing that's wetting his hands.

Yuck!