To have been patronising to the Doctor?

Some of them do like to assume that you’re pretty stupid and Need Educating.

A dd was referred for having her tonsils out, and the consultant immediately began telling me that nowadays it’s really not recommended….
I stopped him with ‘Can I just point out that I have not asked for this, it’s my GP who thinks it’s necessary.’
To be fair, he took one look at DD’s tonsils and said, ‘Well, I have to agree.’

Re the God thing, though, a lot of older people certainly used to look on the Dr as God. My long-gone DM certainly did, mind you she died at 97 so I dare say most of that mindset-cohort will be gone now.

When I went in to see the doctor I explained I had received a kidney transplant 10 years ago, and started to explain that I’d had some urgency around the toilet.

I totally agree, make sure there is no chance of the vital information being missed.

I have to sympathise with you, OP.

I gave up after seeing the doctors after I had seen the first three neurologists about my medication induced neurological involuntary movement disorder called tardive dyskinesia.

They all gaslighted me and I was fed up with their condescending attitudes.

I diagnosed my movement disorder myself but only the fifth neurologist agreed with me. It's extremely frustrating and I do empathise. Doctors aren't the fountain of knowledge.

what did the GP even mean by ' ‘bubububub'?

I’m a doctor and you are absolutely not being unreasonable. He was a twat

UANBU, OP! When I was last ill, I was misdiagnosed three times after COVID and prescribed the wrong medication

I’ve taken to writing a list of my symptoms on my phone and plonking it on the desk for the Doctor now, every time I visit, to save them time though, as it seems to me that if they spend any time on the PC, the information isn’t easy to find.

If I were on any medication, I would also add this to the list, but at the moment I’m not taking anything long-term…

Sorry you're unwell and I hope you are feeling better soon, but you seem to be implying its the GPs fault you are now in A&E? How could he have prevented that - you said he gave you the prescription you needed?!

It is the only way to get an appointment at my practice.

Just because you have never seen or heard of something doesn’t mean it doesn’t exist.

You are not being unreasonable in the slightest. They can be nightmares, they deal with so many people who don’t know their arse from their elbow they think all patients are the same.

Well done for telling him, he sounds like an arse.

But it was all in the online form OP completed before the appointment. The GP didn't have to read all the notes, he just had to spend a few seconds looking at the form, which would have save him several minutes during the appointment itself. What is the point in making people fill in the form if the doctor is going to ignore it?

I get that GPs won't have time to read a patient's full medical history before every appointment, but if they're not even scanning the information provided on the online form that is specific to that appointment then I think that really needs to be made clear. It is hardly an unreasonable expectation that this would be happening.

@HungerGamess

Except that @LiveTellyPhrase is now the one at A&E sleeping in a chair ….

A triage form was completed with the necessary info - that is how the appointment was allocated.

Are you suggesting that the GP does not even need to look at that before the patient comes in?

I am not quite sure what you are trying to defend, or why?

Interrupting is rude on any social norm level. Interrupting a patient trying to explain their symptoms is next level rude before we even get to the “bupbupbupbup” and “dear”.

What are you actually defending here?

Agree, you shouldn’t have to, but for ease I’d lead with this.

” hello I have a kidney transplant and I am concerned that I have a UTI as it’s very much in line with the ones I’ve had before…”

DH went to the GP with bilateral calf pain and tenderness. The GP listened and did what they were supposed to do, bloods were sent and showed high D-dimer so he was packed off to hospital where they did the complete opposite of listen and packed him off without so much as a scan. He was an oncology patient so that should've raised alarm bells but it didn't. A few days later he had a massive stroke.

I am sorry that you encountered this GP and would encourage you to make that complaint. I wish you well.

Yes, the number of doctors on here saying they don't have time to read patient notes who also clearly don't read the patient posts on MN is quite funny, in a depressing way. If you don't have time to read the notes, listening to the patient is the only option. You can't ignore the notes AND the patient.

I feel for you, OP, I hope A&E have you treated and back to normal soon. Maybe hide this thread, as the sheer number of people not bothering to read your posts must be adding to the irritation.

@LiveTellyPhrase go in wearing this?

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or make your own badge:
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The ‘dear’ bit would have tipped me over the edge!

The client doesn't always know what you need to know, sure, but I can't imagine that you would interrupt a client five words into their first sentence in a meeting, surely?

She did!!!

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Jeez, you're as patronising as the doctor.

Do you start all your conversations without any greeting?

Presumably if OP had used even the shortest and more basic courtesy to say "hello" first, by your logic she'd only have had four words left, so "hello, I have a kidney" wouldn't have been of much help?

OP - I agree that, even though he should absolutely have read your online consultation, it might be easier for you to just bring it up ASAP, but I completely agree you should complain to the practice manager - and I worked in medical complaints for years. I would include a sentence referring to the good service you've had over the years, ideally naming one or two particular drs/nurses and then say "which was why I was so disappointed with Dr x".

As you say there are many people not able to stand up for themselves who could have left with a completely incorrect prescription/nothing at all, which potentially fatal consequences.

I am prone to infections for urinary problems, they usually respond to one of two antibiotics. The Practice let's me keep a supply of one of them with me. This is very useful as often it has happened out of hours.
If I get an infection I start taking the tablets and then take a sample into Surgery ASAP. If after test they decide I need an other antibiotic they email the local pharmacy and phone me.
@LiveTellyPhrase Do you usually need the same drug?

Hope you're getting sorted now OP.
There are some batshit responses on here. Haven't read what you've written, but doesn't stop them jumping to conclusions.
Hmm, what does that remind me of?

Ok…the info in the NHs link is pretty misleading then.

I would complain, imagine a teen girl seeing him and being fobbed off!

I had a 10 min chat about blood results yesterday with a patronising GP who kept telling me I don't have anemia because my haemoglobin is high despite all others being on the floor. Like you, he barely let me talk. Finally got a word in and explained that I do have anemia because I already get B12 injections, so this result is quite odd and suggests there might be other deficiencies causing anemia. He still was trying to put me on antidepressants! I'm going in today because I told him that I would rather see someone in person, but you shouldn't have to fight to be heard when they haven't even read your notes.
Edit to add the reason for the bloods was bone tiredness, napping in the day, breathlessness after stairs - typical anemia.

Agree, there should be a space on the screen as soon as you open a file to note kidney transplant /allergic to XYZ/had cancer etc. Doesn't need anymore detail than that but the v important stuff is there for either the patient to elaborate on or the doctor to then trawl through to find. A Gp doesn't have time to be reading through every patients file in the very unorganised way they seem to be set out on many systems.
Much more minor than this a Gp had noted on DDs file that she had high pain threshold and not to use her demenour as an main indicator after bubbly 2 Yr old DD chatted away at her while I explained that she d had a high temp for 48 hours earlier that week and now I thought her voice sounded odd and wanted her throat checked as we were travelling and maybe I'd need a prescription as a precaution. I'd didn't blame her for thinking I was a over cautious mammy, but when she looked at DDs throat she was shocked, putrid was the word she used to describe her tonsils. I had to be v firm and direct doctors on a couple of occasions afterwards to go find that note when attempting to brush me off.