To have been patronising to the Doctor?

In New Zealand women can get antibiotics at the pharmacy without going to the doctors. Is it different in UK?

They never read the bloody notes.

You were right to challenge him. He was rude and dismissive. It's appalling that he hadn't bothered to read your notes.

So how long has it taken you to train yourself to do that. Have you had to do that in a medical crisis when you feel like shit? Been quickly able to exactly explain your worry?

And none of being that being a perfectly concise person in a state of illness excuses the lazy arsed bullshit of not reading notes. It's pure arrogance not to listen to the person who is experiencing the issue. It's laziness to not read the notes. Its entitlement to expect that you get paid when you don't do your job properly. Acting as if you are superior doesn't make you good at your job. It just means you're playing a role rather than doing it.

I agree. I do this when I'm writing a lot - waffle the background and finally get to the point. I have had to train myself to bring my 'summary' up front and make it the intro. It's good to have this pointed out - start off with the big stuff and if he/she needs to know, explain details later.
My late husband used to do this too - launch into complicated history lesson before getting to the point.

I feel cross for you just reading that and I'd like to say I haven't had similar experiences with doctors, but unfortunately I have.

I would complain. I’d say he didn’t let me finish my sentence every time I tried to tell him what was wrong with me, instead suggested it was period pain (does he thinks
women don’t have any other kind of medical issues?) and then had the absolute nerve to tell me off for not having explained my medical history clearly enough. Which was because he kept cutting me off.

Regardless of how she started the conversation, the GP was in the wrong. A HCPs job is to listen and get the required information from a patient, whatever their conversation style. Not to raise their hands while the patient is talking with a "bubububu" to cut them off and not let them get a word in edgeways. He failed in his job as a GP there and he definitely wouldn't be passing any OSCE's at med school with that communication style.

I hope you don't work in family or mental health law or any other area where peoples emotions run high and they sometimes forget themselves due to the situation they find themselves in.

I had a lovely exchange in A & E:
"I have appendicitis"
"I really don't think so"
"Nausea, vomiting, loss of appetite, low grade fever, pain in lower right abdomen."
"Oh, did you Google that?"
"No. I listened when I did my medical degree."

I did indeed have appendicitis, and if that berk had peed about any longer, it would have burst.

I once had a ruptured ovarian cyst (my second so I was pretty sure I knew what it was) and had to convince the ER doctor that no, it wasn’t my gallbladder - as that had been removed 15 years earlier. As listed on my file - which he didn’t read

3 different Drs diagnosed my child with a viral infection. One called me an over anxious parent when I insisted that they at least run bloods. Bloods were refused and we were basically shoved out the door. Went straight to a&e, said viral infection was a rare tumour, 2 days later an operation and a multi disciplinary meeting between several specialists lead to a massive complaint to the GP. Ofcourse got the we will do better reply but yet to see any improvement in them!

I've previously had to ask my GP if she'd read my notes. She said they didn't have time to do that, so now I assume they haven't.
I did have an urgent appointment recently where I had written in and included pictures of my foot and leg. I asked if she had seen what I had sent in. She replied "I've just got "depression" written here". I felt it was her stock go to answer.

I've had one try to be patronising to me re DD2 when she was little, when I said what I thought her symptoms might be and apologise when I was right (inguinal hernia). I know they do get people reading Google and making up all sorts but it's also useful research if you use it carefully. I also said "I'm worried it might be..." rather than wading in as if knowing it all.

I had a GP like that. The appointment was always a discussion. The downside was that she spoke as if I was also a doctor, so she could be hard to follow. 🤣 She was amazing.

You’re my hero OP! You handed that condescending misogynistic prick his arse on a plate, and rightly so. He had it coming.

I had a meeting with a surgeon last week and left with the impression that doctors and other HCPs believe that patients are liars or stupid or both. It's extremely frustrating and insulting. I can definitely empathise.

Ugh, he sounds awful. He'd have known pretty soon that you had a transplanted kidney if he'd let you finish your sentence! I HATE people who interrupt, and it's happened a lot in my lifetime, usually from MEN.

How did you manage to stay so calm?

I have lupus nephritis and honestly the condescending manner of some Dr's us bewildering. I recently filled in the GP triage form saw a Dr I didn't know who was the same as yourswouldn't let me get a word in edgeways, gave me a fit note I didn't ask for, (and refused to use) sent me to my rheumatologist who said no not a rheumatology issue.

I'm under renal and rheumatology in one area but live in another. The difference in care is astounding.

So still got that issues but in the mean time due to lack of availability on my main drug my rheumatology swapped me to a liquid version. I got a very medical text message from my GP saying they can't prescribe. Next thing I know I've got a rheumatology appointment locally. Tried to find out why but got a wall of silence so have to go and am expecting not to be listened to and for them to try and change something that's be working for me for a long time. I'm usually calm vug I've been waking up angry since Saturday so if there's any sign of condescension I'm just going to leave.

She probably and reasonably expected him to have read what she’d filled in online.

@LiveTellyPhrase definitely make a complaint. A GP's arrogance led to my aunt dying. All of her complaints were dismissed for well over a year, well the ones she could get in as her Dr talked over her too. When she received her terminal diagnosis, with just a few weeks left to live, she did go back to him and made sure that he heard her when she said his ambivilance had killed her. Who knows whether that had any effect. It didn't really help her much. She lodged a complaint before she died though.

Some Doctors aren't worthy of the title. One asked my "end of life" mother, who was in a hospice at the time, "if your heart stops, would you like us to restart it for you?"
I mean , if only it was that simple 🤯

It doesn’t always
I start with “I am neutropenic”
it’s always followed by “why” so I explain it’s autoimmune
every single time “why do you have that”
usually with “well your bloods are fine”

I dunno why I have it! Isn’t that the case with most autoimmune conditions