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Hen party drama

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Horsingabout2 · 04/11/2025 22:42

My two best friends are in charge of my hen weekend. I’ve given them free rein within a couple of paramaters (including not to exceed a certain cost so as many people as possible can make it given it’s quite close to Christmas).

I am not in the WA group but I know they were putting the itinerary in there earlier. One of my friends has called me to say one of the attendees (my cousin) has kicked up a fuss about one of the meals being a butlers in the buff style evening. Said they won’t go on the weekend if that’s the plan. No one else has said they’ve an issue.

My cousin hasn’t contacted me directly. I don’t want my friends to have to rearrange things given the efforts they’ve gone to in order to arrange. AIBU to say that if she wants to be stubborn and not attend, that says more about her and how highly she must regard me?

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Onemorestepalongtheroad · 04/11/2025 22:46

Sounds like a hideous, cringy evening I wouldn’t pay to be part of that either to be honest. Doesn’t sound like you regard her that highly either or you would be wanting all your guests to be happy with the plans.

DetoxedAlcoholic · 04/11/2025 22:45

How odd that you see this as an insult to yourself. I would instead allow cousin not to attend and respect her right to not enjoy that style of activity.

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