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17yr old boy found guilty of child abuse

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Ikeasucks · 04/11/2025 22:10

Aibu to be pissed at how many women here were so scathing and dismissive of those in the past who said we weren’t comfortable with our babies/toddlers/very young children having male carers in a nursery setting or as a nanny etc? We were told condescendingly how ignorant and bigoted we were - i don’t fucking care at how right in you are and superior i still feel the same way www.bbc.co.uk/news/articles/cze665j2y51o?at_medium=social&at_link_type=web_link&at_format=video&at_link_origin=BBC_Surrey&at_campaign=Social_Flow&at_campaign_type=owned&at_bbc_team=editorial&at_ptr_name=twitter&at_link_id=4FF97A8E-B8A8-11F0-A794-E0B1162F2AD3

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Unexpectedlysinglemum · 04/11/2025 23:36

Absolutely disgusting criminal. But I’m also wondering how on earth he was able to be private 1-1 with the children in loos etc without cctv or staff realising? Massive safeguarding fail there

DurinsBane · 04/11/2025 23:31

Yes, men shouldn’t do ‘women’s’ jobs like childcare. Like women shouldn’t do ‘men’s’ jobs.

Endofyear · 04/11/2025 23:29

This is one case. There have been cases of women abusing children in a nursery setting - should we ban all women working in nurseries?

Elsbethandduckfriends · 04/11/2025 23:10

That is one very sick individual who must pay for his crimes against children

the crimes of this man are sickening - but it doesn’t mean all men would do this.

individual women have also committed horrendous crimes against children.

it is over simplistic to say because one man has committed atrocities that ALL men are deemed unsuitable to work with children

where does it end if we over simplify the world like this? If one blonde women commits child assault do we then ban all blonde women from working with children? If one French childcare worker assaults a child do we ban all French people from working with kids?

Because some men do terrible things to kids - but that doesn’t mean all men are bad and shouldn’t be near kids.