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Possible to not upset people over getting married without any family

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narnia2025 · 04/11/2025 20:41

We are planning to get married next year. We want to do a no thrills statutory wedding . Can only have two witnesses. Not even able to have dc there due to restrictions. So to not upset people we are thinking of having non family there so a co worker of dp and a friend of mine. We have even considered having random people from local fb page etc.

although I very much want to do it this way. I’m slightly worried that it is gonna cause fall out and upset especially dp family. Has anyone got married and not had family there? Was there fall out? Was everyone ok with it?

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cestlavielife · 04/11/2025 20:46

No one needs to know .

If it comes up.in conversation you can mention.
No need to change names for example.

FunnyOrca · 04/11/2025 20:44

in my experience as a bystander, it has only been awful because “no family” has translated to “no family except X and Y” which creates bad blood. If it’s genuinely no family, it should be easier.

Sillysoggyspaniel · 04/11/2025 20:44

You can do it that way, and if it's what you want then that's fine. But people may well be very disappointed that they weren't included or even told about it, and that's justified too.

TowerRavenSeven · 04/11/2025 20:43

Can’t you just elope? Tell no one until you return.