Hello,
We (couple in our 20s) are lucky enough to be moving overseas for work next year. We have been together a couple of years, and recently started living together. We are really excited about this next step!
We have already had invitations/save the dates for various events in the UK happening after we’ve gone, such as weddings and honestly for the first 6 months post move there is something every 3-4 weeks. Many of these invitations are just to one of us. We love our friends and family and know their life events are important but aibu if we say we will only fly home (the flight is a couple of hours) to events we are both invited to?
if IANBU, do we tell friends this is the line we’ve drawn? Otherwise it might seem like we are favouring some friends over others (for example, two of my school friends are marrying next summer. One has invited just me, one has invited us both. If I took this stance, we would only fly to the U.K. for the second one. If you were the first friend, would you rather I was honest with you as to why?).
This isn’t meant to be a criticism of people who don’t give guests plus 1s - we are in the early early stages of planning our own and so appreciate how expensive this all is! Just interested to know what others would do in this situation. Thanks