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Would you have told this woman that half her bum was hanging out?

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CalonHapus · 04/11/2025 14:35

DW and I were at a train station on Saturday which was full of people dressed up for Halloween. A bit ahead of us were two women whose costumes incorporated extremely short skirts. The woman on the left had got her skirt just long enough to cover everything but the woman on the right had the lower half of her bum showing.

DW wanted to say something to her, as she was worried she might not be aware and would appreciate being told. I said I didn't think this was a good idea, as she might have deliberately worn her skirt that short and therefore might react badly to someone bringing it up like it's a bad thing.

We ended up just carrying on to our train and not saying anything. Was I in the wrong to persuade DW not to get involved?

YABU - you should have said something to the woman

YANBU - you were right not to get involved

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CalonHapus · 06/11/2025 01:34

Munkyfuzzable · 05/11/2025 23:03

JFC people need to stop judging women and let them wear what they want. You were right to stop DW from intervening because she likely knew, it was deliberate and her choice to make.

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Just to be clear: DW wasn't judging. She was genuinely concerned that the woman hadn't realised - particularly as her friend was wearing the same outfit but her bum wasn't showing.

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SemiRetiredLoveGoddeess · 05/11/2025 23:50

How much had she had to drink?

I think it is really unsanitary to have half of your bottom parts hanging out, and be sat on a seat on train which other peope could sit on.

Hope it got a thorough cleaning by the train company at the end if the day
Doubt it

Same when US Prisoner style no belt jeans, were all the rage a few years back with teenage lads.

Have these people been deagged up?

Miaminmoo · 05/11/2025 23:25

Well if her friends weren’t going to tell her……..

Munkyfuzzable · 05/11/2025 23:03

CalonHapus · 04/11/2025 14:35

DW and I were at a train station on Saturday which was full of people dressed up for Halloween. A bit ahead of us were two women whose costumes incorporated extremely short skirts. The woman on the left had got her skirt just long enough to cover everything but the woman on the right had the lower half of her bum showing.

DW wanted to say something to her, as she was worried she might not be aware and would appreciate being told. I said I didn't think this was a good idea, as she might have deliberately worn her skirt that short and therefore might react badly to someone bringing it up like it's a bad thing.

We ended up just carrying on to our train and not saying anything. Was I in the wrong to persuade DW not to get involved?

YABU - you should have said something to the woman

YANBU - you were right not to get involved

JFC people need to stop judging women and let them wear what they want. You were right to stop DW from intervening because she likely knew, it was deliberate and her choice to make.

StarlightLady · 05/11/2025 18:27

Glasgowmama88 · 05/11/2025 18:02

Oh she knew her arse was out

some like the slutty look these days

Surely on what is a mainly womens’ forum we can avoid offensive terms like “slutty”?????

Glasgowmama88 · 05/11/2025 18:02

Oh she knew her arse was out

some like the slutty look these days

SpikeGilesSandwich · 05/11/2025 12:25

This was a very common look at Halloween where I live. I’m fine with it for grown women but some of the very young girls with their arses out made me feel very uncomfortable tbh.

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CalonHapus · 05/11/2025 08:12

StarlightLady · 05/11/2025 07:45

There was a lovely post on another thread recently, where some teens shouted out to the poster in a nasty way “we can see your bum”and that poster retaliated, “l know! Nice isn’t it”. 😀

Hahaha - love it 😂

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StarlightLady · 05/11/2025 07:45

There was a lovely post on another thread recently, where some teens shouted out to the poster in a nasty way “we can see your bum”and that poster retaliated, “l know! Nice isn’t it”. 😀

cottonwoolie · 04/11/2025 23:52

This is how some girls wear their skirts now - god knows why. Plus her friend could always tell her.

PumpkinSpiceCake · 04/11/2025 23:49

MidnightMeltdown · 04/11/2025 23:18

I saw woman the other day who was wearing a very tight pair of leggings which had a rip over the bum cheek. I wondered whether I should tell her, but decided not to.

She looked like the sort of person who was unbothered by what she looked like, plus she was with a couple of other people, so I thought I’d leave it up to them to tell her! I might have been more in inclined to tell her if she was in her own.

Ive seen quite a few women in leggings that are see through and I mean you can see underwear usually thong! They are always with other people so I assume they will tell them or it’s probably intentional

MidnightMeltdown · 04/11/2025 23:18

I saw woman the other day who was wearing a very tight pair of leggings which had a rip over the bum cheek. I wondered whether I should tell her, but decided not to.

She looked like the sort of person who was unbothered by what she looked like, plus she was with a couple of other people, so I thought I’d leave it up to them to tell her! I might have been more in inclined to tell her if she was in her own.

SparklyBlueDress · 04/11/2025 22:27

I saw quite a lot of full moon bum cheeks in skirts on teens at festivals this summer and also at Coldplay at Wembley. It is definitely intentional and (IMO) looks terrible regardless of buttock size - which varied quite a lot!

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CalonHapus · 04/11/2025 22:17

FullOfMomsense · 04/11/2025 22:08

It's not fashion, it's a halloween costume? You need to get out more honestly. What's next, someone flashed their ankle and you have to have a lie down?

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Have you actually read anything I've written on this thread? I feel like you're arguing with something I haven't said / don't think. It's really weird.

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BringBackCatsEyes · 04/11/2025 22:12

FullOfMomsense · 04/11/2025 22:08

It's not fashion, it's a halloween costume? You need to get out more honestly. What's next, someone flashed their ankle and you have to have a lie down?

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Errr, buttock showing IS a look many (mostly) younger women are going for at the moment.

FullOfMomsense · 04/11/2025 22:08

CalonHapus · 04/11/2025 19:54

DW isn't an 'old dear' 😂 And she was concerned for the woman, not judging her.

But yeah, maybe we have been 'living under a rock' because neither of us were aware that this particular look is in fashion at the moment.

(And, to be clear, I'm not judging either. Not least because when I was a teenager, the fashion was to wear very low rise jeans with your thong showing...)

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It's not fashion, it's a halloween costume? You need to get out more honestly. What's next, someone flashed their ankle and you have to have a lie down?

JockTamsonsBairns · 04/11/2025 21:53

didntlikeanyofthesuggestions · 04/11/2025 16:37

Thank you for the valuable lesson. I found OP's comments to be a bit leery and creepy so I wrongly assumed they were a man. I would like to apologise for that and hope that by looking foolish I've given you a chance to feel a bit superior and smug and provide a useful reminder to everyone else that women can be creepy too.

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Where is the Op being creepy or leery? I've re-read her comments and haven't picked that up at all.

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CalonHapus · 04/11/2025 21:29

Lavender14 · 04/11/2025 21:23

I mean, you've essentially looked at this woman and thought - that's so short I'd never wear it so it must be a mistake, when really it's quite clear this was not an obvious wardrobe issue as opposed to being a more revealing choice. That is judging.

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How is it 'judging' if we didn't actually know that this is something people are currently choosing to wear?

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Lavender14 · 04/11/2025 21:23

CalonHapus · 04/11/2025 19:57

DW wasn't trying to 'police what women wear' - she assumed the woman hadn't realised and wanted to let her know. Neither she nor I were judging her.

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I mean, you've essentially looked at this woman and thought - that's so short I'd never wear it so it must be a mistake, when really it's quite clear this was not an obvious wardrobe issue as opposed to being a more revealing choice. That is judging.

Friendlygingercat · 04/11/2025 20:55

I had a wardrobe malfunction once in a foreign airport. I had just come out of the toilet when a woman came up and told me that my skirt was tucked up at the back. She disappeared before I could thank her but I will always be grateful to that woman. I could have been walking round for hours with my skirt tucked into my knickers!

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CalonHapus · 04/11/2025 20:06

MissDoubleU · 04/11/2025 15:53

The woman knew how short her skirt was. After telllinf her, what was she meant to do? She obviously doesn’t have a spare on her. She was heading out to begin her evening. She can’t grow more skirt.

Telling her would do nothing but appease your own moral outrage and piss off this lady who frankly, likely wanted her bum on show.

Minding your business was the correct call. And maybe eyes off other peoples bums.

Where are you getting 'moral outrage' from?

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CurlyhairedAssassin · 04/11/2025 20:00

mellicauli · 04/11/2025 14:42

I saw a lot of this in Liverpool a few weeks ago on a Saturday night. I think it's just the fashion .

Yes, I was going to mention Liverpool. I assume it IS a fashion, even though it looks bloody awful. I always just think about the poor person who has to sit in the seat they've just vacated....

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CalonHapus · 04/11/2025 19:57

Lavender14 · 04/11/2025 16:18

Absolutely this^ it's not for anyone else to police what women wear ffs. Would I wear a skirt that half covers my bum- no. But lots of women are happy with this. Their call.

Unless it's an obvious malfunction eg skirt tucked into pants or a period leak then I wouldn't say anything, especially if someone can't do anything about it when they're out in town. I think it's very likely she knew and picked a short skirt because she wanted to feel sexy. I think saying something would have come across as rude and judgemental which it kind of is.

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DW wasn't trying to 'police what women wear' - she assumed the woman hadn't realised and wanted to let her know. Neither she nor I were judging her.

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CalonHapus · 04/11/2025 19:54

FullOfMomsense · 04/11/2025 17:48

Are you 90 years old? Do you live under a rock? It's halloween, tis the season for wearing skimpy outfits, and usually not getting old dears asking if you're aware your bum is 'hanging out'. Unless she's wearing smart clothes and has her skirt tucked in her tights, or has walked out the door in a blouse, shoes and no trousers, and you can safely say it's not a halloween costume, and is in fact an error she would like to be aware of, leave women alone!

DW isn't an 'old dear' 😂 And she was concerned for the woman, not judging her.

But yeah, maybe we have been 'living under a rock' because neither of us were aware that this particular look is in fashion at the moment.

(And, to be clear, I'm not judging either. Not least because when I was a teenager, the fashion was to wear very low rise jeans with your thong showing...)

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CantBreathe90 · 04/11/2025 18:48

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Oooh, I remember being one of these a few years ago! Always had an absolute blast, wish I could go back in time for a night & do it all again...

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