Anyone have 4 boys and not have gender disappointment?

@4boyfamily I'm sure you’ll be over the moon once he’s here. It’s too late for you now and I realise you didn’t think you’d have any sort of disappointment but I think generally if you think you might it’s best not to find out. I did really want a girl second time and when I was having the baby I didn’t care … I just wanted to meet my baby.

I do think on these threads they actually massively perpetuate stereotypes which is interesting as usually on threads about wanting a particular gender women are sternly rebuked about wanting a girl to dress up or go shopping with, even if that’s not really the driving force behind it, yet it’s considered acceptable to dismiss all little boys as ‘affectionate, like dogs, just like football and dinosaurs’ which I personally think is just as damaging as the ‘girls like princesses and hairstyles’ stereotype.

Until we can start seeing children as individuals we aren’t going to get very far on this topic.

4 boys here, happily!! Wouldn’t change our house for the world! A friend of mine has 4 girls and we both joke about the similarities between our houses- people assume things about both boys and girls but we have very similar households!!!

I am not sure that is why your cousins are avoiding you to be honest.

I have sons and no daughters. I am definitely not 'melancholy'. I am just doing the best I can by the fantastic children I am lucky enough to have.

OP, I am certain that your fourth boy will be a wonderful child who will make you happy, proud and exhausted exactly as his three big brothers do.

A friend has 4 sons and I remember being very jealous as she conceived each one easily and I could only have one (daughter).
We were jealous of each other in different ways - it's a funny thing isn't it.

I always assumed I would have boys and had two girls - it was a shock (no idea why), but love being a girl mum. I suspect I would have loved being a boy mum too though. All kids are different - it’s not as simple as girl or boy. Enjoy your beautiful boy!

Pre motherhood I worked with someone who had four sons. I so wanted to be in her shoes.
My first child was a boy. Wonderful! Second child was a boy. Equally delighted (and if I’m being honest relieved). I was two and done but I still think of her now. Imagine the fun you’ll have with your four. Sons are amazing.

I have 3 DS’s and my DH jokes that we’ll have 9 DGS’s one day.

I have 4 boys, all very different and all very close to me, they’re adorable

I am in my seventies and have three sons. In those days I was never offered any scans and didn't know till they were born what sex they were. I was extremely disappointed not to have a daughter but of course I loved my third son and tried my best not to allow my disappointment to affect him. I certainly remember comments such as "What a shame!" from a few people after he was born, which was upsetting but reflected my own feelings. I stopped thinking about it after a while but felt pangs of jealousy if anyone I knew had a third child who was a different sex from the first two. What has given me great happiness is to have three wonderful granddaughters, one from each son. They fill me with joy and I realise how lucky I am to have them in my life - as well as five wonderful grandsons!

What a horrible post.

In the 1960s when some people had large families , one of our friends was youngest of 7 girls and next door had 7 boys , until the mother had a baby girl eventually! Don’t give up 🤦‍♀️

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I have two boys. I actively wanted the second one to be a boy, I think I’d have been a bit disappointed if he was a girl! I do get a lot of ‘will you keep trying for a girl’ comments but I just shut them down by saying I wanted the second to be a boy. Boys are amazing! Congratulations OP.

I'm the mum of four sons, no girls. No gender disappointment for me. I adore all of them for who they are.
Two sisters have a mix of girls and boys. Brother has 3 sons, no girls.
it's other people who often have a problem with it, not me. I have been told it's a shame that I don't have a girl by others as if I should be disappointed that it didn't happen

Congratulations on your fourth son 😊

I remember when their third boy was born their team reported ‘it’s fair to say they were a little disappointed’.

They said that? Ugh!

It reminds me a bit of all the fuss about Rihanna 'finally' having 'the girl she'd always wanted' after two beautiful boys. I hope they're not going to grow up believing they were just the curtain raiser for the golden child.

This baby boy is going to be every bit as lovely as your first 3 boys 😊

Look at the Beckhams. All that pressure on the much wanted daughter, the fourth child Harper. It’s so obvious she’s the favourite with her parents draped round her at every opportunity and Victoria saying how she asked David ‘for just one girl’ ( I believe they used gender selection). I think there’s no way the boys aren’t aware of this and wonder how they feel deep down. I remember when their third boy was born their team reported ‘it’s fair to say they were a little disappointed’. Awful. I have two boys, now young adults and what time has taught me is that for us as a family and them as individuals, having two of the same gender has been absolutely the best outcome.

It took them 'years' to 'come to terms' with having a healthy child because he was the 'wrong' gender?

I feel sorry for these poor boys.

I have 4 boys (now age 20-10). I remember being a bit disappointed when #1 was a boy as I always imagined I’d have a girl first lol. I didn’t find out with any of them until they were born as I don’t think I’d have believed it if they’d said it was a girl anyway! I’ve had many comments but generally they were positive. I’ve loved it, it’s been much easier with regards to passing down clothes and toys, sharing rooms if needed on trips etc. Other people seemed to want me to have a girl more than I did!

Maybe you'll luck out and one of them will be transgender?

I don't know anyone with multiple boys who wasn't disappointed when they had yet another boy sorry @4boyfamily I have 2 cousins who have all boys - one has 4 and one has 5. Both cried for a week when the 4th and 5th ones were boys. They came to terms with it after a few years, and love their sons of course, they just wish they could have had a girl as well.

They don't wish any of the boys away, but there is a melancholiness in their life though, like a feeling of being bereft, at having no daughter, but they have accepted it. There is a divide and a distance though, between those 2 and the other 4 cousins (including me) who all have at least one daughter. They distanced themselves from us some years ago, because they resented us having girls. But it is what it is.

Wow you so are blessed, 4 children how lucky are you!!. I hope to be blessed with just 2 children, I have one boy right now and pray life gives me another healthy child

congratulations xx

You are going to be laughing like a drain when all the mums of daughters are having fucking awful times when they're in year nine.
Also if you've got four boys highly likely that one of your potential daughters-in-law (if they're straight) will want you to be very heavily involved in the wedding because of maybe an absent mother figure. You are so lucky and I'm really jealous because I've only got three.