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To ask where would be an option to move to?

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Wheretogotonow · 04/11/2025 13:44

We’re starting to look into moving abroad for a better lifestyle and improved safety, and I’d really appreciate any advice from those who have already moved or are considering it.

Our situation:

  • My husband is a top 1% earner.
  • I don’t currently work (child care around school) but I have a master’s degree so can look to go back into work.
  • We own a 3-bed semi-detached house with a mortgage, in an expensive area due to my husband’s job we need this location.
  • We pay privately for healthcare and for our children’s schooling.
  • We don’t receive benefits (or receive reduced child benefit).
  • We consider ourselves community-focused—we volunteer, are involved locally, and have nice children.

Despite all of this, we’re being priced out. Food costs have increased, VAT is being added to school fees, and with Rachel Reeves’ upcoming budget, it looks like we’ll be taxed even more.

We also don’t feel as safe anymore. There was a stabbing of a teenager at the end of our road—not something you expect in what’s meant to be a nice area. It’s getting worse and I’m fine to say I don’t feel safe walking the dog on my own anymore.

So, for those who have relocated or are planning to—where did you go, and why? What should we consider?
We won’t be a burden to any country we move to—our intention is to continue paying for schooling and healthcare privately and to contribute positively to the community.

No need for negative comments- we love England and are both born and bred here but it’s not the same as when we were children and I just don’t want this for our children. We know it’s time to go.

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childofthe607080s · 04/11/2025 13:56

Being a top 1% earner but you need to live where you do for your husbands job- how easy will it be for him to get a new job? At anything like his current salary ? That should be your starting point

do you have basic maths skills? It might be that you can make your money go a lot further if you brushed up on some basic skills

most of Europe have fewer very high paying jobs as they have - less income inequality and obviously the states is a much less safe place to live

JacquesHarlow · 04/11/2025 13:54

Despite all of this, we’re being priced out.

Priced out of what, exactly?

Food costs have increased, VAT is being added to school fees and with Rachel Reeves’ upcoming budget, it looks like we’ll be taxed even more.

I'm sorry to hear that you feel you need to keep even more of your wealth, so you can afford all the discretionary services you feel you're entitled to, inexorably, forever.

Sincerely, another fellow "1% top earner" who doesn't have an issue with paying tax.

Wheretogotonow · 04/11/2025 13:53

Foxyloxy89 · 04/11/2025 13:48

Do you speak any other languages? Do you have any contacts in any other countries? Does the weather bother you?

French and German fluently. And happy to learn anything and will go with good language level.

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PflumPfeffer · 04/11/2025 13:52

I would find out where is hiring your professions/which skill shortage lists you are on first before just picking a country. You will need a work or investor visa to move abroad. And the investor visa for most countries is serious ££££ so if you’re struggling with col in the uk you’re probably not in the right income bracket for that. Personally we’ve gone to East Asia for the time being because COL is much cheaper and jobs in our field are abundant. But you have to prepare for the culture shock especially for kids, and the language barrier, and generally in non-English speaking countries you need to account for school fees per child as international schools are never cheap.

JustReacher · 04/11/2025 13:50

Well I like the look of Portugal and was looking this up yesterday:

nomadsembassy.com/digital-nomad-visas-that-lead-to-permanent-residency/

Foxyloxy89 · 04/11/2025 13:48

Do you speak any other languages? Do you have any contacts in any other countries? Does the weather bother you?