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Will I ever get over this?

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Fmll · 04/11/2025 12:57

So I split with my ex a few weeks ago after 15 years together and he is already with somebody new (a co worker) I am literally heartbroken and he just seems to have got on with his life. Ending it was the hardest thing I have ever done but he was literally never at home/various hobbies/nights, days out. He has already introduced her to the kids and they have booked a holiday! Meanwhile I am in a heap on the floor trying to process it all.

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JudgeBread · 04/11/2025 13:02

Some people do just move on so much quicker than others. In my (limited) experience men tend to rebound sooner than women do.

I don't think there's a right or wrong way to move on from a relationship, but introducing a new partner this quickly is irresponsible imo

I'm sorry you're hurting, just keep reminding yourselves of all the reasons you ended it in the first place. It will get better 💐

marketday · 04/11/2025 13:01

The fact it's only been a few weeks and he's already booked a holiday with someone new and the kids means he either was seeing her already before you split or he's just trying to make you feel bad. It's sad he's got the kids involved which will be confusing to them. He doesn't sound very emotionally intelligent - is that something that came up in your marriage too?

ToKittyornottoKitty · 04/11/2025 12:59

Sounds like he’s been with her a lot longer than the few weeks, she indeed was the hobby. It will get better but it takes a long time, counselling was the best thing I did, I recommend it.