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Teen sexy halloween costume for girls only

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larpsadtime · 04/11/2025 09:59

AIBU to think the whole sexy halloween costume for girls only is getting worse each year.

I am not a prude honestly and there are bigger problems in the world I know but….

So many youngish (year 10-12) teens posting on social media dressed in push up basques, micro minis, micro shorts bare legs and pouting at the camera and worse. Then the boys all dressed in jeans t-shirts and normal costumes not a pout in sight.

Don’t get me wrong women should wear what they want but it seems social media is dictating that girls should be more and more provocative and boys can just be boys.

AIBU to think in 2025 this is pretty sad.

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Imanautumn · 05/11/2025 08:57

Needmorelego · 04/11/2025 10:02

I don't many teenagers that dress up for Halloween.
It's not really a thing 🤔

Do you know any teens???!! Halloween parties wear they dress up are very common.

Needmorelego · 05/11/2025 08:56

larpsadtime · 05/11/2025 08:44

Well it’s not just boys that do their hair is it? So boys aren’t doing other things

What I was meaning (I think) was it's all about attracting a mate essentially.
Females feel they have to dress in skimpy clothes, show off their boobs, wear make up etc.
Males feel they need to look nice (the fancy hair), smell nice , have desirable clothes and shoes.
Is it society that's made it that way?
Probably.

Neurodiversitydoctor · 05/11/2025 08:55

How old do you reckon Twiggy is here ? and how old do you think she looks ? I'd say late teens.

Teen sexy halloween costume for girls only
Swiftie1878 · 05/11/2025 08:48

Gottocopebymyself · 05/11/2025 08:46

There is a difference between getting dressed up and presenting yourself purely as a sex object.

Wearing a basque and pouting at the camera is all about a child or a teenage girl thinking her only worth is that of a sex object.

I mean your previous posts refers to Beatles concerts. I don't know what footage you are watching but I don't think you will find any young girls or teenagers wearing basques or overtly sexualised clothing the young girls and women of today are wearing. The point about the girls at those concerts was about their screaming and their obvious sexual desire for the members of the band. So they were actively experiencing awakening sexual feelings themselves. They were not presenting their bodies for men to sexually lust over.

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That generation literally invented the mini skirt.

TheaBrandt1 · 05/11/2025 08:47

Some of dds friends mums are from other cultures and they think very differently to English mums. The Spanish / Brazilian / US mums view is if you’ve got it flaunt it! This thread is very Anglo Saxon!

Gottocopebymyself · 05/11/2025 08:46

Neurodiversitydoctor · 05/11/2025 08:13

Really ? I absolutely loved getting tarted up at 16- 19 or so, young women dressing in a way which adverstises their sexually maturity and fertility is as old as human society. But would agree that it is inappropriate for primary school children absolutely.

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There is a difference between getting dressed up and presenting yourself purely as a sex object.

Wearing a basque and pouting at the camera is all about a child or a teenage girl thinking her only worth is that of a sex object.

I mean your previous posts refers to Beatles concerts. I don't know what footage you are watching but I don't think you will find any young girls or teenagers wearing basques or overtly sexualised clothing the young girls and women of today are wearing. The point about the girls at those concerts was about their screaming and their obvious sexual desire for the members of the band. So they were actively experiencing awakening sexual feelings themselves. They were not presenting their bodies for men to sexually lust over.

larpsadtime · 05/11/2025 08:44

Needmorelego · 05/11/2025 00:44

I really don't know to be honest.

Well it’s not just boys that do their hair is it? So boys aren’t doing other things

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Neurodiversitydoctor · 05/11/2025 08:31

5128gap · 05/11/2025 08:16

Girls presenting themselves as mini versions of what is considered desirable for adult women isn't really new. This used to be 'demure and pretty' and has now evolved into 'sexy' alongside the evolution of how adult women present to be seen as 'attractive'. We will never stop girls looking at women as role models and copying their styles and behaviour. It's part of the journey to being an adult woman. So really, the problem here is with what has become the trend for adult women. But its very difficult to be critical of that without falling foul of the Lib Fem women's choice arguments.

I agree with you but 17yos aren't really mini anything. In our society they are considered children but physiologically they are close to their peak fertility.

5128gap · 05/11/2025 08:16

Girls presenting themselves as mini versions of what is considered desirable for adult women isn't really new. This used to be 'demure and pretty' and has now evolved into 'sexy' alongside the evolution of how adult women present to be seen as 'attractive'. We will never stop girls looking at women as role models and copying their styles and behaviour. It's part of the journey to being an adult woman. So really, the problem here is with what has become the trend for adult women. But its very difficult to be critical of that without falling foul of the Lib Fem women's choice arguments.

Neurodiversitydoctor · 05/11/2025 08:13

Gottocopebymyself · 05/11/2025 07:55

I read that as 10 - 12 year olds.
I don' t understand why anyone refers to children in school years.

14/ 15 year olds are still children and it's still down to their parents that they are allowing them to sexualise themselves.

And that 16 / 17 year olds have learnt that their role in life is to display their bodies for male approval is just wrong.

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Really ? I absolutely loved getting tarted up at 16- 19 or so, young women dressing in a way which adverstises their sexually maturity and fertility is as old as human society. But would agree that it is inappropriate for primary school children absolutely.

Gottocopebymyself · 05/11/2025 07:55

Neurodiversitydoctor · 05/11/2025 05:33

She said yr 10 (14/15) to yr 12 (16/17) that isn't sexualising children. It is young girls experimenting with their nascent sexual attractivness. Perfectly normal and nothing new. Look at footage of a Beatles concert.

I read that as 10 - 12 year olds.
I don' t understand why anyone refers to children in school years.

14/ 15 year olds are still children and it's still down to their parents that they are allowing them to sexualise themselves.

And that 16 / 17 year olds have learnt that their role in life is to display their bodies for male approval is just wrong.

Needmorelego · 05/11/2025 07:04

Pharazon · 05/11/2025 06:57

Yep that was Comic-con. It was fab.

I love it when all those in their costumes are getting on the DLR.
So funny watching someone dressed as something ridiculous like a vending machine having to be shoved on by their mates who are dressed as Godzilla or something.
Must look most bizarre on CCTV.

shellyleppard · 05/11/2025 06:59

My teenage son and his friend's went trick or treating as characters from a cartoon series so I don't think all boys are the same....

Pharazon · 05/11/2025 06:57

Swiftie1878 · 04/11/2025 11:00

Was up in London the other week when Comicon (or similar!) was on at the Excel. The costumes were BRILLIANT!

But all of my teen’s friends are massively into Halloween and had a huge Halloween party last weekend. The event of the year.

Yep that was Comic-con. It was fab.

Needmorelego · 05/11/2025 06:55

PersephonePomegranate · 05/11/2025 06:47

I'm sure there's no school regulation that states pupils should wear a shirt two sizes too small or a skirt that's too short though. The children are bastardising the uniform, no-one is forcing them to wear it in that way.

It's the style.
Those ruddy pleated kilts - type "sexy schoolgirl" into Google and that's what you get 🤢
The shirt thing is often because if a teenage girl happens to have big breasts then a formal school shirt simply doesn't fit. She can't buy a shirt that actually does fit because they don't exist in the school uniform section.

PersephonePomegranate · 05/11/2025 06:47

Needmorelego · 04/11/2025 12:04

Yes. That was my point. Teenage girls are sexualized daily because the current popular style of school uniform that most schools use is the one that has become practically fetishist and the "sexy schoolgirl" cliché.
I hate it.

I'm sure there's no school regulation that states pupils should wear a shirt two sizes too small or a skirt that's too short though. The children are bastardising the uniform, no-one is forcing them to wear it in that way.

TheaBrandt1 · 05/11/2025 06:29

I agree with uniform but it’s the uniform itself is the problem. Blazers and hideous skirt that gets hitched up. Much preferred the days they coukd wear pe kit smart unsexualised black tracksuit. They should just all go with that everyday.

Strawberrryfields · 05/11/2025 06:17

MeatsAndCheesesAlwaysPleases · 05/11/2025 02:34

Completely agree. Uniform should be abolished, I cannot think of one good reason why a child should need to wear a uniform - and the reasons that I have been given in this debate hold no water, as you say.

But that’s another thread in itself goes off to start said thread and cause chaos Grin

Just to offer a different view, I liked wearing a uniform so didn’t have to think about what to wear each day (I’d probably be glad if my job had a uniform!) non-uniform days were an event picking what to wear.

I’m sure I saved my parents a fortune too not having to clothe a teen in different outfits 5 days a week. I’d imagine that’d be even worse now with social media and not want to be pictured wearing the same thing all the time.

Putthekettleon73 · 05/11/2025 06:14

Putthekettleon73 · 05/11/2025 06:13

There very different to 16-17 year olds. I think..I was a very different and more knowing young woman at 17 to my 13 year still a child self!

They're

Putthekettleon73 · 05/11/2025 06:13

Putthekettleon73 · 05/11/2025 06:12

Yup. Lots of 13-14 year old girls in corsets and tiny skirts round here.

There very different to 16-17 year olds. I think..I was a very different and more knowing young woman at 17 to my 13 year still a child self!

Putthekettleon73 · 05/11/2025 06:12

Yup. Lots of 13-14 year old girls in corsets and tiny skirts round here.

Strawberrryfields · 05/11/2025 06:03

I do cringe a bit with some of the skimpy outfits but think it’s just a phase for lots of older girls/ young women. I’ve definitely worn similar stuff as costumes or on nights out in my late teens/ twenties and thought nothing of it. I had an amazing figure and bags of confidence. Some of my female friends would go more scary or silly and others more sexy.

Wasn’t particularly interested that men weren’t in a skimpy equivalent as men’s clothing is often not very interesting to look at anyway. I have seen young men before in lifeguard or army type costumes which were quite revealing (not as commonly as young women) but only really guys who clearly spend a lot of time in the gym.

I think with teen girls it’s a balance between wanting them to feel confident and proud of their bodies and free to wear what they like (within reason), without feeling pressured to dress in a provocative way if they don’t actually want to.

Neurodiversitydoctor · 05/11/2025 05:33

Gottocopebymyself · 04/11/2025 10:18

I've never seen this myself.
And yes it is sad if this is what happens.

But. You are talking about children and presumably their parents are ok with seeing their children sexualised. They must be complicit in their children dressing up in this way. So perhaps you should be directing your concerns to parenting that is badly letting down their dds.

She said yr 10 (14/15) to yr 12 (16/17) that isn't sexualising children. It is young girls experimenting with their nascent sexual attractivness. Perfectly normal and nothing new. Look at footage of a Beatles concert.

firstofallimadelight · 05/11/2025 05:23

Yes I agree, my (adult) dd and her friend went to a party as sexy princess peach and sexy Daisy the lads dressed as Mario and Luigi. (Normal costumes)

im torn between feeling like women (although i appreciate op said teens which is slightly different) should wear what they want regardless of male gaze and feeling like they are just playing into men’s hands.

Wethers121 · 05/11/2025 02:59

I’ve noticed is this year OP. What was more surprising to me that it was the parents posting the photos of their children dressed inappropriately (IMO).