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10 years service not acknowledged

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OneGreyBiscuit · 04/11/2025 09:04

I've worked for the same company for 10 years - on either 2nd or 3rd of November. Gone into work today and nothing. How petty some of you may think, but considering another employee got recognition for 5 years service not too long ago with a nice bunch of flowers and chocs aibu to not feel slightly miffed?

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ThirdStorm · 04/11/2025 10:33

My company recognises 5, 15 and 25 years. Not 10 years. Doesn't make 10 years any less deserving but it isn't part of a scheme or process. Much like birthdays aren't officially recognised but if an individual or team want to recognise and celebrate milestones that's up to them.

Sunflower459 · 04/11/2025 10:31

Surprisedavailable81 · 04/11/2025 10:27

Because it never ceases to amaze me how OP’s lack the insight that of after a decade of service not one colleague acknowledged the departure, whereas they always do for others… the issue, in all likelihood, very very much is because of the OP and her behaviour during those ten years

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Again, the OP isn’t leaving. In my experience it can also be the case that quiet weans get no sweets. Likewise there have been cases where we pulled out all the stops for someone leaving because we were so overjoyed to see the back of them. I don’t think we know enough about OP to assume she’s a nightmare. She sounds more hurt to have not been acknowledged, really.

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OneGreyBiscuit · 04/11/2025 10:31

Surprisedavailable81 · 04/11/2025 10:27

Because it never ceases to amaze me how OP’s lack the insight that of after a decade of service not one colleague acknowledged the departure, whereas they always do for others… the issue, in all likelihood, very very much is because of the OP and her behaviour during those ten years

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You're honestly making it up as you go along to be as much of a little bully as possible. Actually read my post - i am not leaving, it is 10 years service. And if I'm so awful how am I still employed there after 10 years? I'm not replying to anymore of your venom. So just jog on!

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BunnyLake · 04/11/2025 10:28

OneGreyBiscuit · 04/11/2025 10:01

Well if it does sound martyrish, so be it. Should I just go up and say where's my flowers and chocolates? And all 3 managers of my dept were in this morning.

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I would have. I’d have said Oi what about me, I’ve been here twice as long and have had diddly squat, what’s that all about then?

Surprisedavailable81 · 04/11/2025 10:27

Sunflower459 · 04/11/2025 10:24

I think it’s years of service rather than OP leaving. Respectfully, you are coming across as a bit malicious here. Not sure whether that’s your intention.

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Because it never ceases to amaze me how OP’s lack the insight that of after a decade of service not one colleague acknowledged the departure, whereas they always do for others… the issue, in all likelihood, very very much is because of the OP and her behaviour during those ten years

GehenSieweiter · 04/11/2025 10:26

OneGreyBiscuit · 04/11/2025 09:04

I've worked for the same company for 10 years - on either 2nd or 3rd of November. Gone into work today and nothing. How petty some of you may think, but considering another employee got recognition for 5 years service not too long ago with a nice bunch of flowers and chocs aibu to not feel slightly miffed?

Are they paying you every month?

Dancingsquirrels · 04/11/2025 10:25

TodaRythm · 04/11/2025 09:28

You what? LOL
I think you don't realise how unimportant and dispensable employees are for businesses.

But surely it's better for the company to pretend some loyalty to their staff, to generate goodwill?

OP, I'd be upset at inconsistent approach. This is why I'm not a fan of arbitrary birthday gifts etc in work. Someone always gets overlooked by accident and feels hurt. Need a proper system

Sunflower459 · 04/11/2025 10:24

Surprisedavailable81 · 04/11/2025 10:22

Fine with me

So it really is the case that no one was remotely inclined to acknowledge you leaving

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I think it’s years of service rather than OP leaving. Respectfully, you are coming across as a bit malicious here. Not sure whether that’s your intention.

Surprisedavailable81 · 04/11/2025 10:24

OneGreyBiscuit · 04/11/2025 10:24

Lucky husband! Do you really think Ive never had a leaving do or gifts from work? You're really quite pathetic!

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I bet these colleague are marking your departure in a celebratory fashion.

Gall10 · 04/11/2025 10:24

There’s a lot better ways to celebrate working in a job than getting a bunch of forecourt specials…good management, good holiday entitlement, good sickness policy, good pension, good HR….these far outweigh a bunch of flowers that drop petals after a few days or a certificate the boss’s secretary rustled up in a few minutes!

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OneGreyBiscuit · 04/11/2025 10:24

Surprisedavailable81 · 04/11/2025 10:21

That’s what my colleague said (£150 JL voucher, big bouquet of flowers and manager took the team out for a farewell lunch)

Still in touch. In fact 3 came to my wedding

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Lucky husband! Do you really think Ive never had a leaving do or gifts from work? You're really quite pathetic!

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Sunflower459 · 04/11/2025 10:22

I’m not convinced that whether OP is ‘nice’ to work with, or ‘only’ working part time, really enters into it. If the company has a policy they should apply it consistently. If they don’t, they would be wise to consider the kind of team-level ballache that comes from being seen to celebrate the loyalty of some and not others.

2GreatFatSquirrels · 04/11/2025 10:22

I’d be annoyed if other people were being recognised. However I’d never expect this to be recognised tbh.

Surprisedavailable81 · 04/11/2025 10:22

OneGreyBiscuit · 04/11/2025 10:21

Which is the same hours the majority do in my dept if that's ok with you?

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Fine with me

So it really is the case that no one was remotely inclined to acknowledge you leaving

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OneGreyBiscuit · 04/11/2025 10:21

Surprisedavailable81 · 04/11/2025 10:19

You don’t think working very part time 4am-8am may impact how at the forefront in people’s minds you are for a send off?

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Which is the same hours the majority do in my dept if that's ok with you?

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Surprisedavailable81 · 04/11/2025 10:21

OneGreyBiscuit · 04/11/2025 10:19

Wow a whole four years!you're a keeper🥳

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That’s what my colleague said (£150 JL voucher, big bouquet of flowers and manager took the team out for a farewell lunch)

Still in touch. In fact 3 came to my wedding

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OneGreyBiscuit · 04/11/2025 10:19

Surprisedavailable81 · 04/11/2025 10:17

When I left after 4 years, my colleagues treated me to the most wonderful send off 😊

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Wow a whole four years!you're a keeper🥳

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Surprisedavailable81 · 04/11/2025 10:19

OneGreyBiscuit · 04/11/2025 10:15

You're not a very nice person are you? What has my work hours got to do with you or this thread??

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You don’t think working very part time 4am-8am may impact how at the forefront in people’s minds you are for a send off?

Zebedee999 · 04/11/2025 10:18

OneGreyBiscuit · 04/11/2025 09:04

I've worked for the same company for 10 years - on either 2nd or 3rd of November. Gone into work today and nothing. How petty some of you may think, but considering another employee got recognition for 5 years service not too long ago with a nice bunch of flowers and chocs aibu to not feel slightly miffed?

In a large corporate it becomes an onerous task to remember all such anniversaries and the fall out if one if forgotten is huge.

However I do think a decent line manager would mark such an occasion within their team. So OP is not unreasonable.

Surprisedavailable81 · 04/11/2025 10:17

OneGreyBiscuit · 04/11/2025 10:09

You sound like an absolute arse yourself, if you can't offer any constructive criticism just go away

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When I left after 4 years, my colleagues treated me to the most wonderful send off 😊

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OneGreyBiscuit · 04/11/2025 10:15

Surprisedavailable81 · 04/11/2025 10:08

You’ve worked part time
4-8am
4 days a week

the other person… similarly very part time?

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You're not a very nice person are you? What has my work hours got to do with you or this thread??

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OneGreyBiscuit · 04/11/2025 10:11

Surprisedavailable81 · 04/11/2025 10:08

Anyone else getting the impression the Op is a…. Tricky colleague?

Anyone else getting the impression this person's a bit of a wind up merchant?🤔

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RubySquid · 04/11/2025 10:09

OneGreyBiscuit · 04/11/2025 09:45

Nope and a lot of others haven't but this is a new manager who rewarded the five year service. Looking at the poll it seems 50/50. Id like some opinions on why I'm being unreasonable? I turn up, I'm never late, I do my job, achieve my target every shift. It screams of favouritism to me.

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Well if it's a new manager then maybe they dont even know the date of the 10 year anniversary

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OneGreyBiscuit · 04/11/2025 10:09

Surprisedavailable81 · 04/11/2025 10:06

But if you’re an absolute arse to work with, then an equal send off is unlikely! 😆

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You sound like an absolute arse yourself, if you can't offer any constructive criticism just go away

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Surprisedavailable81 · 04/11/2025 10:08

Anyone else getting the impression the Op is a…. Tricky colleague?