Redundancy announcement - furious with manager and colleague

I'd put in a formal complaint and get one or more of your colleagues to do the same. It was a sexist 'joke' at a time when nobody wants jokes.

I wouldn't, OP, but his card would definitely be marked in my head.

I’d be furious with that colleague as well, that it even occurred to him says volumes about where he spends his money and how he sees his female colleagues. Just one of his female colleague needs to it offensive makes it sexual harassment and management shouldn’t be laughing it off.

But HR won’t peruse this in midst of redundancies.

I’m sorry you (and many others) are being made redundant.

Did they tell you why they’re making so many people redundant?

Maybe his emotions and concern are heightened as well. I mean you could just have a conversation with him about how he feels and then ask why he said what he did. Which would allow you to explain how you feel about the redundancy and comments like the one he made.

There’s always the possibility you two end up staying and having to work together. There are lots of other outcomes that involve the manager, you and him.

The best course of action, for the whole redundancy period, is to play things close. And to be honest 20 years experience and a nice redundancy package puts you in a way better position than him in this job market.

I would take it as a joke and wouldn't be offended, although it's not the kind of banter you'd get in my workplace and wouldn't go down well.

Sorry to hear your redundancy situation. I am in a similar position at work and it is so stressful.

Not a tasteful remark by any stretch of the imagination BUT like you the guy is looking at unemployment and UNLIKE you, I imagine he will get very little by way of a redundancy payment given how short a time he's been employed there.

I'd put it down to the stress of the moment and let it drop if I were you. Plus, do you really think either HR or him are actually going to give a damn?

Ugh I would have been livid too. Utterly misogynistic and inappropriate.

And I would suspect we are a lot happier in our every day lives as a result!

He made a shit job at trying to lighten the mood, try not to hold it against him. To be fair, he will be one of the first ones to go as they won’t have to pay him redundancy…

I would probably have said something back like 'what in the casual everyday sexism do you mean?' and left him to think about how inappropriate a joke it was. Even as a tension breaker, it should never be being suggested that other people have got a default back up career on OnlyFans. If someone chooses to make those jokes about themselves, crack on, but not about others.

It was a joke; wouldn’t worry about it.

Get a grip, clearly trying to lighten the mood

Why didn't you say ' have a day off knobhead'
( our standard phrase at work when someone's being a dick!)

Same! I can't imagine being so terminally offended all the time. And hating every single word that comes out of a blokes mouth. Must be exhausting.

If that is true, then this forum is a misogynist cuntfest given that many of us find that joke funny.
Maybe it is. 😂

It was totally inappropriate but in the circumstances I would let it go. I have been made redundant three times, people react in different ways. Some were laughing and cheering (those that wanted to leave anyway), some were crying, some shocked and silent. If he says anything like that again, tell him what you think of such immature jokes.

He sounds like a misogynist cunt, but you won’t do yourself any favours reporting him right now. Ignore it and concentrate on you

I've worked with men and women. Far prefer working with men as they aren't seeking to be offended by every last little thing, then escalating, dragging every one in. Accept a bad joke that reflects badly on him and move on. No workplace needs the perpetually offended.

I am so happy and relieved that comments like this would wash over me (or I might even break a smile actually!)

There are women on this thread who've said they would have or have made similar comments

OP, you need to cut this guy some slack. People do stupid things when they are stunned by some terrible news like redundancy. I have seen all sorts: breaking down entirely, hysterical laugh, glaring into the void...
Just let it slide this time.
I hope everybody keeps their job. Good luck.

He's an ass but now isn't the time to pursue this tbh with redundancy on the horizon. Normal times yep but at moment nope

Actually yes, I've heard women say things like this and much worse in the workplace.

Let's not pretend women have halos and men have horns. Both sexes are perfectly capable of being idiots at times.

Next time tell him straightaway what an utterly disgusting comment he's made. Challenge it straight away.

Right now...HR will have their hands full so I doubt they'll make much time for this, esp as he's relatively new to the company so likely to be one of the first to go as it will be cheaper for them.