Redundancy announcement - furious with manager and colleague

Unfortunately it's seen as a legit source of work for women regardless if they want to or not.

I don't know if I would bother.

It should have been addressed by the manager. The laws relating to SH now pose a preventative duty on employers, so any manager who thinks it's up to them to decide comments that even stray in that direction can be dismissed as 'just a joke' is frankly a liability to the company and needs a training course.
And it might be 'funny' from a young lad. Not so funny when young lad becomes an older man with authority over female colleagues and says this sort of thing to young women, is it? This sort of comment regardless or age or circumstances needs zero tolerance and nipping in the bud.
That said OP, that's your managers failing and not something you can really address on your own unless you feel strongly enough to complain.

Don't report it to HR. It was a crass and thoughtless comment especially for people really worried about getting a new job and the financial implications and uncertainty.

I find looking blankly, blinking a few times, then saying "im sorry I dont know what you mean" or in this case "sorry, it sounds like youre suggesting we go on OnlyFans to make money. Is that correct?"

Highlight their sexist bullshit calmly and matter of fact. Every single time.

How would I know? I don't know this person.
I can only judge him from what OP has shared. This is someone reacting to some devastating news with some silly joke, not someone who has persistently shown abusive sexist behaviour.
We all have put our foot in it at some point. We all make mistakes.
Cut the guy some slack.

It was a joke. Maybe in bad taste. I've made similar ones myself. Another "optional" payment notification from the school - I'll have to go on the game at this rate! An unexpected plumbing emergency - Anyone know anyone that wants to buy a kidney?

I think you're upset because your job is at risk and taking it out on a colleague who maybe hasn't quite got the professional tone right. If you feel it's not in line with the office culture then pull him aside and say that you found it a bit hurtful and uncomfortable and you'd rather her didn't make jokes like that.

I am an adult, I would laugh about it. Be flattered that he thinks anyone would pay to see me in my knickers. Then we would both laugh and then go about our days
Because I am an adult, because I am not perpetually offended.

If he was trying to lighten the mod, why not at his expense and say 'At least I can moonlight as a rentboy.'?

Maybe as he's getting made redundant anyway he feels free to make with the sexist jokes. That would have infuriated me, but realistically they're not going to do anything at this point so I'd just leave it.

A good manager would have took him aside and said something like “you may have felt
awkward and not known what to say, or thought you might lighten the mood, but can you not see how that might come across as inappropriate etc etc and sometimes it’s best to say nothing”. I’d have realised it was a very poor attempt to defuse/ice-break and given him a few examples of beibg mindful etc. Less wordly-wise/experienced colleagues (male and female) do make gaffs like this - he might now be mortified, a lesson in itself @Robin85

@Lanzarotelady I know that many girls have to put up with horrendous misogyny in schools, and it is excused as banter, and boys being boys (and you can see from the posts on here that many of their mothers wouldn't be picking them up on it)

This is 100% displaced anger.

Yes he is some misogynistic little shit but likely you wont have to see him much longer.
If your role is at risk the last thing you want to be doing is mithering HR over a throw away comment evwn if it reveals what a sexist jerk he is

You should have told him the reality - there loads of men sucking dick on OnlyFans, he just needs to broaden his horizons (and maybe work on his gag reflex).

When they go low OP, you go lower.

I fucking love this response... 🤣🤣🤣
Keep it in your pockret in case it comes up again OP

@MyFlabbersAreGasted , Some school pupils are adults.

@Lanzarotelady , How would you feel if you asked your boss for a pay rise and were told to go on Only Fans to boost your income?

@MyFlabbersAreGasted okay, if they said this at college or university? Or do women once they are 18 have to put up with misogyny?

You should have told him the reality - there loads of men sucking dick on OnlyFans, he just needs to broaden his horizons (and maybe work on his gag reflex).

When they go low OP, you go lower.

I should imagine the conversation in many high schools is a lot worse than that! Have you no idea what teenagers talk about?

Jesus Christ I really feel for anyone working in an office nowadays, people are so easily offended!

I really do wonder how half of you get through life!

Not compatible at all. Child porn is very different to a bloke making a crass joke in a work place around ADULTS.

Even better, for gross misconduct

I can’t believe the amount of women minimising this. This is harassment of older female employees. HR bloody should well deal with it as they have an obligation to protect staff from this kind of nonsense in the workplace. It is vile to suggest in a professional workplace that women will be immune from the effects of redundancy because they can sell their body online, even as “bantz”.

I hope he gets sacked

@TodaRythm so you think this young man would only say something like that in a stressful situation?

Kindly, I think you are projecting your emotions onto him.

He's immature and doesn't realise the seriousness of the situation.

Ignore and move on, and dont give it another moments thought. Sorry to hear about your situation OP.

You can't be serious. How on earth is what you are you suggesting (children pornography) in any way comparable to some flippant joke in a stressful situation?

For those of you thinking it is funny, would you be happy if your daughters were told to go on Only Fans by boys at school?

So how many women said to the men facing redundancy 'you could always be a male escort'. Why is it funny to tell women that they could earn money in the sex trade (and the women who have said similar, do you say it to random female colleagues or ones you are close to?)