To find my partners road rage disgusting?

Similar to when a football team loses. I know a couple of men who are horrible to be around when their team loses

I wouldn’t go in the car with someone displaying road rage and i certainly wouldn’t let DC’s.

People who fly off the handle at the drop of a hat aka road ragers aren’t safe drivers, either. Aggressive, unpredictable and can’t regulate their emotions/testosterone.
Dad was like this. And also if there was ever a disagreement with my mum, you could feel the anger in the way he would drive. All round frightening to be around and bewildering for children. I find it pitiful and pathetic and don’t respect him, but I also feel the same way towards mum for being so passive about his anger issues and not giving us a safer childhood.

Can you just refuse to get in the car with him.
Also embarrass him in front of friends and family, say how aggressive he is mimic his angry face.

People like this have anger issues generally. I got a lift from someone once & he had to give way at a traffic calming thing & as the other car drove past he suddenly turned into a raging animal and screamed and gestured madly at the driver because he/she didn't say thank you. It would be easy to get angry at bad drivers but I remain as calm as possible as everybody makes mistakes

I find taxi drivers are almost zen in that nothing fases them. Your partner will probably die of apoplexy very soon

I find taxi drivers are almost zen in that nothing fases them. Your partner will probably die of apoplexy very soon

My ex was exactly like this. He thought it was his "duty" to inform other drivers of their shortcomings

And unfortunately he was the DC's dad.

I hear you. I did the same thing but eventually left mine. I was forced to coparent with him and it did not end well. I just wish I'd never met the bastard

@Brmbrm - your choices are:

• stay and stand by as your child is exposed to his rage and abuse until she is able to leave home
• Leave him and bring her up in a safe environment.

• He’ll either not bother to see her at all
• or farm her off to his parents on his contact days
• or take her to McDonalds and the park for a few hours.

Do not let your fears stop you from doing what is best for you and your child.

My ex was like this. I knew him for almost a decade and not one time while driving did he not get road rage. It was every time, especially during his commute. It became very unattractive and after our relationship ended he tried to come back and we started talking as friends on the phone and he started ranting and raving while driving and it sealed the deal that I would never get back with him. It was one of the many things that made me lose all attraction for him. And when I think about it he was a very impatient and unkind person outside of driving as well, especially to people he deemed "lesser" or "annoying" - and I was included in that unkind treatment.

That level of rage impairs concentration and safe driving. I would be more worried about that than the language, but that of course is also unacceptable.

I would not get in the car with himn, nor allow my child to.

He will do it with the wrong person one day,all it takes is to do it with a coked up/steroid freak and he's bang in trouble.hopefully you aren't there when it happens.

I have no respect whatsoever for angry little twats in cars. It’s almost always men, and they are absolute morons with idiot level IQs.

First of all OP chose this man as her partner and also chose to have a child with him! I did also say I don’t agree with him swearing and shouting at people. I don’t need luck I just wouldn’t have a child with someone that does something that makes me disgusted with them

Don't be ridiculous. What about his behaviour. Terrifying a small child is just fine then is it? I grew up listening to lots of screaming and shouting and was absolutrly petrified. As an adult it made me extremely insular and untrusting of people. Get a grip!
Would you want to leave your child with a man who cannot control his rage? Good luck with that.

OP, my DH gets road rage - we live in an area with some drivers who park in ridiculous and dangerous places. But when 5 yo DC is in the car, the worst that comes out of his mouth is "you muppet/you idiot". He also toned it down a lot after he realised about a year ago that he had scared DC with a shouting match out the window at someone parked on double yellows on a curve... So yes, even road ragers are capable of raging in a PG manner when there are children in the car. The fact that your DH doesn't notice/try suggests that he doesn't care about the impact on your DC.

It just shows his lack of intelligence and maturity

Quote possibly there’s something wrong with it. My dad has been a keen cyclist for over 60 years, and as secretary of his local cycling club was sometimes asked to provide feedback on plans for cycle paths. Some of them are clearly designed by non cyclists. I’m a wheelchair user and it’s clear a lot of supposedly wheelchair accessible facilities have been designed by people who are equally clueless. A lot of these things are a box ticking exercise done as cheaply as possible without any consideration for them actually serving the purpose for which they were intended. Sorry for being cynical, it is a result of many years of experience.

Well, they're either all mad or there's something about the cycle path that you don't realise unless you try to cycle on it

in reality how much would he want to parent dd if you left?

i think it’s a terrible way to waste your life and I’m sure your dd would rather a happy parent and no doubt minimal time with her useless father

Why would they choose not to use the cycle path? I have no idea. There is a cycle path near me that’s named in memory of a cyclist who was killed on the road before the cycle path was built. Yet many cyclists still choose to share the road with fast traffic and lorries rather than using the far safer cycle path.

Staying with a man because you can’t trust him to be alone with your child is serious. You need to get help to get out. This isn’t going to get any better. It will do huge amounts of damage to your child to grow up in this environment.

Frightens the life out of me how many amped up angry men there are in charge of a killing machine because that’s what a car is, add rage into the mix and it’s terrifying and yes, it’s always men IME