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Anyone like to reconsider what they posted about the train attack on Saturday night?

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margegunderson · 03/11/2025 10:48

There were (to my mind) some horrific posts claiming that it MUST be a terrorist attack, demanding information on the attacker’s race and motivations NOW, shouting about Starmer censorship and picking fights with anyone suggesting it might not be cut and dried and to wait for more information. Hideously racist as well.
If that was you - any reflections today? What will you do if there’s a next time?

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RedTagAlan · 04/11/2025 03:47

Starconundrum · 04/11/2025 02:57

I don't understand what you mean.

I agree with your confusion re "one mans truth is another mans propaganda"

I think the alternate form, " one mans truth is another mans lie" works better. But this statement has issues too.

Because not all propaganda is lies. And at the same time, truth is supposed to be absolute.

And I think with subjects such as knife crime, the truth often can't actually be known.

Yes of course, police data etc is true, and is published, but we can never know for sure how well anti knife crime campaigns work. For sure, a campaign can show a reduction in recorded data, truth, but there will always be interpolation required for things such as lives saved by a campaign.

I am not referencing any PP here when I suggest this, but it's this interpolation part that conspiricists latch onto. They say "you do not know for sure, you made it up, you guessed, so it is not true"

My head hurts now. But seriously. propaganda is an armchair interest of mine. I have also debated a lot of flat earthers online, and the " one mans truth...." line is a classic gaslighting technique.

Starconundrum · 04/11/2025 03:22

Starconundrum · 04/11/2025 01:30

First they came for Muslims.

Then they came for 'illegals'.

Then they came for legal migrants.

Now it's second generation immigrants.

If anyone thinks they are safe from the supremacists they are nuts.

They will turn on all of you.

I have screenshots of posts saying all these things that have not been taken down.

Starconundrum · 04/11/2025 02:57

IsEveryUserNameBloodyTaken · 04/11/2025 02:55

One man’s truth is another man’s propaganda.

I don't understand what you mean.

IsEveryUserNameBloodyTaken · 04/11/2025 02:55

Starconundrum · 04/11/2025 02:43

This isn't the subject of my post, my posting history or this thread.

I don't even really know what you're talking about as you haven't made it clear in relation to anything. You just sound very angry that I have posted the truth.

One man’s truth is another man’s propaganda.

Starconundrum · 04/11/2025 02:43

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This isn't the subject of my post, my posting history or this thread.

I don't even really know what you're talking about as you haven't made it clear in relation to anything. You just sound very angry that I have posted the truth.

Savemydrink · 04/11/2025 02:20

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Mothership4two · 04/11/2025 01:33

I didn't see those threads but I initially thought possible MH until it was reported that there were two attackers and then I wondered if it was terrotism. From recent history those two outcomes would be the most likely. And didn't discuss with anyone except briefly with OH. It's not worth making conclusions about any ongoing investigation - recent history shows how some people can jump to the wrong conclusions.

Sadly now see that the suspect may be linked to other offences.

Starconundrum · 04/11/2025 01:30

Savemydrink · 04/11/2025 00:34

Well, after that massive sigh of relief you undoubtedly had, on hearing this person was a British national, you might want to consider that we may have a worrying problem with 2nd generation immigrants who wish to commit mass murder on the country that took in their parents.

Shouting the R word will not cure this problem.

Daylight is the best disinfectant, maybe taking a closer look at the parents of these criminals might clarify things.

First they came for Muslims.

Then they came for 'illegals'.

Then they came for legal migrants.

Now it's second generation immigrants.

If anyone thinks they are safe from the supremacists they are nuts.

They will turn on all of you.

TooBigForMyBoots · 04/11/2025 01:26

Do you need me to list white British born mass murderers with severe MH problems @Savemydrink?

The UK has a MH crisis and a male violence problem and those with a racist agenda are exploiting this to sow even more fear and division. Pretending this is a race problem is wrong. It is a UK problem.

Starconundrum · 04/11/2025 01:22

Tundeira · 03/11/2025 23:14

I hope other posters can see that you haven’t even bothered to read my posts properly or you are deliberately misrepresenting them.

I noticed.

I notice it a lot.

MrsBennetsPoorNervesAreBack · 04/11/2025 01:19

Savemydrink · 04/11/2025 01:09

Considering most of the criminals on my list (earlier post) had no discernible mental health issues, other than a blind hatred of innocent men/women/children of the United Kingdom, I would say the racist accusations you are so ready to hand out are aimed at the wrong people.

If we accept your premise that these people had no discernible mental health issues, other than a blind hatred of people from the UK, then perhaps we need to dig more deeply into the question of why those people might have ended up hating the UK so much - the country where their parents proactively chose to build their lives.

Savemydrink · 04/11/2025 01:09

TooBigForMyBoots · 04/11/2025 00:59

You might want to consider that we may have a worrying problem with a lack of mental health resources. Because we do.

Ignoring racism will not cure this problem.

Considering most of the criminals on my list (earlier post) had no discernible mental health issues, other than a blind hatred of innocent men/women/children of the United Kingdom, I would say the racist accusations you are so ready to hand out are aimed at the wrong people.

TooBigForMyBoots · 04/11/2025 00:59

Savemydrink · 04/11/2025 00:34

Well, after that massive sigh of relief you undoubtedly had, on hearing this person was a British national, you might want to consider that we may have a worrying problem with 2nd generation immigrants who wish to commit mass murder on the country that took in their parents.

Shouting the R word will not cure this problem.

Daylight is the best disinfectant, maybe taking a closer look at the parents of these criminals might clarify things.

You might want to consider that we may have a worrying problem with a lack of mental health resources. Because we do.

Ignoring racism will not cure this problem.

TooBigForMyBoots · 04/11/2025 00:38

defrazzled · 03/11/2025 11:19

@Bagsintheboot where have I suggested that? Why the argumentative condescending tone. I have not made any comment on any thread about this, except the one above.
Scolding middle class voices are not helping ethnic minorities at all, they are deepening the divide and creating hatred, exactly like the racists do.

Away with your Scolding middle class voices nonsense. Reductive, patronising rubbish.Hmm There are plenty MC racists. And plenty of non racist working class people like me.

If posters don't like their racism being challenged, they shouldn't post racist shite. Being silent in the face of racism does no one any favours.

Savemydrink · 04/11/2025 00:34

MrsBennetsPoorNervesAreBack · 04/11/2025 00:16

What has any of that got to do with my post?

Who exactly is claiming that British people have (or should have) a free pass to commit mass murder?

Well, after that massive sigh of relief you undoubtedly had, on hearing this person was a British national, you might want to consider that we may have a worrying problem with 2nd generation immigrants who wish to commit mass murder on the country that took in their parents.

Shouting the R word will not cure this problem.

Daylight is the best disinfectant, maybe taking a closer look at the parents of these criminals might clarify things.

MrsBennetsPoorNervesAreBack · 04/11/2025 00:16

Savemydrink · 03/11/2025 23:19

Well here are some more facts for you

Lee Rigby killers. UK born
Southport child murder. UK born
Manchester Arena bomber UK born
London bridge attack UK born
Shoe bomber. UK born
7/7 bombers UK born
Huntingdon Stabber UK born

Being UK born is not a free pass to commit mass murder on the streets, trains, planes, bridges, concert halls of this country.

What has any of that got to do with my post?

Who exactly is claiming that British people have (or should have) a free pass to commit mass murder?

plumclafoutis · 04/11/2025 00:03

KenAdams · 03/11/2025 11:59

Once again it was another man. Perhaps Rwanda or someone will take all our violent men? Just suggesting an alternative narrative rather than the colour of their skin.

He appears to be mentally ill. Perhaps we need to provide better treatment for people with mental illnesses.

Beeinalily · 03/11/2025 23:57

I didn't post, but I sure was confused. There were a group of perpetrators/2 acting together/a lone attacker, they shouted "allua akbar" (sp?)/get rid of the demons/were silent, the perpetrators escaped/were arrested/were dead. I read or heard all of these, no wonder people were getting it wrong.

Savemydrink · 03/11/2025 23:19

MrsBennetsPoorNervesAreBack · 03/11/2025 13:14

I had to stop reading the threads the other day because they were making me feel sick.

Sadly, none of the racists will reflect on how wrong they were, let alone apologise for their behaviour. Most of them are probably still in denial about the facts and thinking it's all part of some grand conspiracy/cover-up.

We need to stop thinking of these people as reasonable and rational human beings. They are fuelled by hatred and prejudice, and facts don't matter to them.

Well here are some more facts for you

Lee Rigby killers. UK born
Southport child murder. UK born
Manchester Arena bomber UK born
London bridge attack UK born
Shoe bomber. UK born
7/7 bombers UK born
Huntingdon Stabber UK born

Being UK born is not a free pass to commit mass murder on the streets, trains, planes, bridges, concert halls of this country.

Annoyeddd · 03/11/2025 23:17

I didn't post earlier but I thought the perpetrator was someone with a serious mental health problem and possibly also a cannabis user.

As for travelling by train I still think it is safest way to travel - most deaths or injuries on the railway are of people taking their own lives. Think of the number killed or injured on the roads each year.

Tundeira · 03/11/2025 23:14

BundleBoogie · 03/11/2025 21:10

And racial discrimination is still unlawful. Why don’t white boys from deprived backgrounds deserve a chance too? If it is an initiative to combat poverty, why would you seek to exclude white boys that live in deprived areas? What about mixed race boys?

www.bbc.co.uk/news/uk-66060490?app-referrer=deep-link

I hope other posters can see that you haven’t even bothered to read my posts properly or you are deliberately misrepresenting them.

PerkingFaintly · 03/11/2025 22:43

WTF?!!!

I've just seen my post has been deleted. What on earth for?

Are we not allowed to mention even the existence of trolls on MN now? Angry

I made not the slightest attempt to identify any. From what I can remember, I just reminded people that they are here and some seemed to have targeted that thread.

Oh, and was generically sympathetic to ordinary MNers who'd been caught up in the frenzy.

Was that a deletion error, MNHQ? I haven't even had an email about it, which I think are automatically generated? (It's not like I get deleted much, so not sure.)

WonderfulSmith · 03/11/2025 22:10

The initial thread was dreadful, the one before there were any details about the attacker. So many people saying that this had to be illegal immigrants, one person even said that we should bomb the small boats crossing the channel. When it was announced that two British born black men had been arrested they went quiet for a while and then it turned into ‘well they aren’t really British are they’.

It was dreadful, however, I do see why HQ didn’t shut it down. If they had then there would have just been another thread. But I do think they should have come onto the thread and reminded people not to be twats.

BundleBoogie · 03/11/2025 21:10

Tundeira · 03/11/2025 20:46

Tundeira · Today 06:55
There was a thread posted a few weeks ago decrying summer internships that try to improve diversity in some workplaces. The general theme was, ‘My white son can’t get a place so these schemes are bad and need to be abolished’. Do we want people from deprived communities to see these jobs as realistic options, reducing involvement in drug dealing and crime in general, or do we want to keep them as an underclass we can look down on and complain about?

I’m originally from an African country. I don’t have that mental block that many black people growing up in deprived communities in the U.K. do. All the top politicians, most of the senior management, the professionals, the music and film stars are all black in Nigeria. It never occurred to me that aspiring to be a doctor was ambitious because that level of social achievement is standard among the people I grew up with.

It was shocking to realise how some white Britons see me and how many black people growing up in the U.K. without roots elsewhere see their prospects in Britain. It was a white nursing sister who made the ‘ambitious’ comment when I turned down her offer of a permanent job as a healthcare assistant on her night team because I was going to university. It was the way she said it. She’d put me in a box and wasn’t too happy to see me climb out of it, though others were very supportive.

Representation is important. Young black kids from poorer communities need to see black people in those bog-standard professional roles that are much more achievable than footballer, actor or music star to begin to aspire to these careers in significant numbers, which is one reason these diversity schemes are important.

As an aside, it’s not just ethnic minorities that get put in a box. I was also dismayed to hear one of my two biology teachers at college tell a student that professions like veterinary medicine were not for people from colleges like ours. This was a further education college in leafy Surrey, for goodness sake! I wondered why he had to speak up and depress his students’ ambitions, even if he genuinely believed what he was saying.

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And racial discrimination is still unlawful. Why don’t white boys from deprived backgrounds deserve a chance too? If it is an initiative to combat poverty, why would you seek to exclude white boys that live in deprived areas? What about mixed race boys?

www.bbc.co.uk/news/uk-66060490?app-referrer=deep-link

Tundeira · 03/11/2025 20:56

Tundeira Today 11.07

Diversity isn’t restricted to ethnic diversity. Those schemes try to attract people from more deprived backgrounds too. Those complaining are from more middle class backgrounds. They say the schemes don’t pick up enough white working class boys and favour ethnic minorities so they should be abolished.

So the end result will be the maintenance of the status quo. White middle class people who come from high-achieving backgrounds will get most of the places. Some posters pointing out that there are usually a number of these internship schemes at the companies that offer them didn’t seem to convince these mums that their sons still have sufficient opportunity to get good jobs if they are good enough. You have at least one scheme that’s open to everyone and then others that target specific groups.

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