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Do you judge Facebook attention seekers?

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pittapat · 02/11/2025 21:33

Just a discussion, not a rant. I know a couple of people who are genuinely lovely in real life but the biggest attention seekers on social media. Constant navel gazing and ‘inspirational’ posts about how much they’ve learned, how much they’ve improved themselves and in one case, very very long statuses about family and how proud they are of their kids blah blah blah.

I read it and eye roll because it really does seem to be purely for likes and validation. Why else post? In real life I get along with these people as friends, family and colleagues but their Facebook personas are irritating. I don’t post often and mainly use Facebook to find out about local events and news. I don’t engage but then feel bad when I see mutual friends gushing in the comments because it’s almost like not saying anything is a snub.

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FullOfMomsense · 02/11/2025 22:21

Yes, especially the "we had ar highs n lows but I still luv you my solm8" followed by a break up a few days later and the "just me n my kids now 2 meny snakes xxxxxx"
Or the ones that tag themselves at a hospital and say something vague like "back here again" or "I'm sure they know me by name now!"

The worst but best are the ones who post a very vague statement about knowing who to trust and being thankful for their true friends. Usually following or followed by a profile picture change and their relationship status changed to complicated.

I love and hate them

youalright · 02/11/2025 22:18

Bluevelvetsofa · 02/11/2025 21:50

Posts of different holiday locations every couple of weeks are a bit tedious. OK, you have enough money for multiple holidays, but the photos all look the same.

I love seeing holiday posts and people being happy and enjoying life. I don't like the moaning, the cryptic messages and the a&e check ins but not telling anyone whats wrong the pm hun🤮

Btowngirl · 02/11/2025 22:18

I silently do. A big ick for me is parents posting pictures of their sick and/or hospitalised children!

pittapat · 02/11/2025 22:17

I think one of them in particular does it for the likes. She is a lovely girl but always glued to her phone and always knows what people are up to. She writes very in depth statuses about her feelings and how life has been so difficult but she’s coming through the other side now and so on. To be honest, a lot of what she puts on social media doesn’t go hand in hand with what she tells me in real life but that’s another story.

Either way she inevitably gets loads of likes and supportive comments and I guess that sort of validation can become quite addictive especially if you’re not in a good place mentally.

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Mirroredcushion · 02/11/2025 22:15

I have a close friend I genuinely like and who is a really nice person but her facebook drives me crazy. It’s not woe is me but it’s so over earnest and virtue signalling. I just don’t understand what the motivation for it is. I hide her mostly. I like to hear her news and views in person when we meet.
I also have a friend who I don’t really like who still posts overtly attention seeking posts. It’s things like “had the worst day ever.” I just ignore, it’s beyond embarrassing.

themerchentofvenus · 02/11/2025 22:07

I only use it to post a few photos of a fun weekend/holiday because i like the memory pop up it does years later.

Some people have really low self-esteem and need that feedback from others to make them feel heard. It's quite sad. Especially when they post something super emotional but of their 100s of friends only a couple like it.

BallerinaRadio · 02/11/2025 22:06

Just don't let it bother you, if that's what they want to post they're free to post it. Just scroll on. If it makes them feel good then God knows we could all do with a bit of that in our lives

JipJup · 02/11/2025 22:04

YANBU

And sometimes it's the unlikeliest people who are the culprits.

I've often had friend requests from elderly volunteers at work and a few colleagues, and been really surprised at what their FB personas are like 😳

Pricelessadvice · 02/11/2025 22:03

Yourinmyspot · 02/11/2025 22:01

I’ve finally un-friended someone as fed up of all the woe is me posts. The final straw this week is her posting a photo of her clearly unwell 13 year old cuddling his teddy (not that there is anything wrong with a child cuddling their teddy). But why plaster it all over Facebook. Then she posted again to say sat in A&E with him, that was it for me.

I have a friend I grew up with (don’t see her now really) who posts pictures of her children when they are unwell. It really doesn’t sit well with me.
Awful pictures of the poor things having just been sick, with a high temperature, half undressed etc. It’s all for attention and I find it really sad for those poor kids that they are being plastered on SM when they are their lowest.

Redpeach · 02/11/2025 22:03

pittapat · 02/11/2025 22:01

A lot of it is. But I think people use it for other reasons. Genuine connections, information, purely to be nosey but yeah, bragging and attention seeking are probably among the top 5 reasons why people use it.

I have some people (I.e old school mates or colleagues who I haven’t seen for years and don’t care about) who I’d just unfollow or delete. But it gets a bit more complicated when people you actually like in real life are completely tiresome and annoying on social media.

Just dont look

pittapat · 02/11/2025 22:01

Redpeach · 02/11/2025 21:53

Isn't all sm attention seeking?

A lot of it is. But I think people use it for other reasons. Genuine connections, information, purely to be nosey but yeah, bragging and attention seeking are probably among the top 5 reasons why people use it.

I have some people (I.e old school mates or colleagues who I haven’t seen for years and don’t care about) who I’d just unfollow or delete. But it gets a bit more complicated when people you actually like in real life are completely tiresome and annoying on social media.

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Yourinmyspot · 02/11/2025 22:01

I’ve finally un-friended someone as fed up of all the woe is me posts. The final straw this week is her posting a photo of her clearly unwell 13 year old cuddling his teddy (not that there is anything wrong with a child cuddling their teddy). But why plaster it all over Facebook. Then she posted again to say sat in A&E with him, that was it for me.

Arrrrrrragghhh · 02/11/2025 21:56

Yes.
Especially as it’s well documented what people see as annoying behaviour on Facebook.

Pick Me Drama Queen GIF
Redpeach · 02/11/2025 21:53

Isn't all sm attention seeking?

Bluevelvetsofa · 02/11/2025 21:50

Posts of different holiday locations every couple of weeks are a bit tedious. OK, you have enough money for multiple holidays, but the photos all look the same.

B1anche · 02/11/2025 21:48

Yes, i see a very different side to people on Facebook.

OhFeyreDarling · 02/11/2025 21:38

I've unfollowed so many freinds on Facebook beacuse their post are all just navel gazing shite. One freind posts multiple times a day, about anything and everything, literally just her daily comings and goings. I don't get how people have the time.

I hardly use FB anymore, it's handy for a few pages for local businesses and events happening but thats about it

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