Do you judge Facebook attention seekers?

In real life I get along with these people as friends, family and colleagues but their Facebook personas are irritating.

I've hidden quite a few from my feed 😆 Lovely people in real life, but online... Just, no.

I've got a couple on mine who have arguments through statuses.

Like she'll post a status saying "what's the point in cooking a meal for 6pm if some people can't be home to eat it"
Then he'll post "you'd think some people would check the family calendar and see I'm in a late meeting before cooking dinner"

and so on. I don't want to read it but I can't help watching the drama unfold.

I know someone like this. They make multiple posts a day. She posts a lot about her horses, her mental wellbeing and other personal things. It’s almost like she’s sharing an online journal of her daily life with friends and Facebook contacts. It all feels a bit much to be honest and sometimes I think she seems a bit wrapped up in herself.

I silently think how insecure and unhappy they must be, to feel the need to plaster this stuff on FB.

And then I mute them.

Haven't been on social media for about 2 years. Got hacked and Meta decided I wasn't me so I lost access. I ultimately have a lot more time on my hands and as an added bonus don't have to "know" so much about everyone I ever met. Getting annoyed about seeing someone I met at a wedding 5 years ago's dinner is no longer an issue for me.

It’s the ones who have an amazing Facebook life that irritate me , best night EVER ! Yet I know they are miserable unsociable people.
DH often says I want to go out with Facebook Sue rather than real Sue

I do think all SM is a bit attention seeking. I only ever post funny stuff on FB, literally nothing else at all. I find photos more attention seeking, usually because of pouting/filtering. My fave posts are the funny, ranty ones!

The people I know who do this are quite cool in the actual flesh - intelligent, cynical, funny, attractive, professionally outstanding…But oh my days they are a completely different personality on FB.

24/7 updates which look needy, cringey and lacking in self awareness - like they’re Kim Kardashian with millions of fans or something. I just can’t understand it. Why isn’t being great in RL good enough? They are very ordinary people but appear to be in some millennial time warp with uber-Americanised peppy positivity about mundane shit like going for a walk or having a coffee. In RL they’d say something normal and cynical, but on FB they bang on with some lame shit about dappled shade through trees being some deep metaphor for the universe telling them something or the foam on the coffee being an experience of self care that they deserve. 🙄

Jeez do they realise how insufferable it comes across? Especially for people who actually know how they really speak?

Not necessarily judge but I’m completely perplexed by an acquaintance’s posts on instagram. They are all along the lines of “leading a private life”, “not telling people about your successes”, “doing things for you, not the approval of others” etc. yet she posts at least 5 times a day about what she’s doing in the way of healthy habits, working hard, developing her business etc. Recently she posted complaining that her posts weren’t getting as much engagement as they used to. It’s like she can’t work out that the endless ironic posts and self-promotion might be putting people off. Which is really quite hard to believe because she’s clearly a VERY smart and successful businesswoman.

Completely baffling.

I ended up unfriending someone on Facebook, as she became too much and was embarrassing and people tried to drop her hints to why so many were taking her off. She could end up writing up to 10 statuses a day, with trivial things like was off to Supermarket , doing the laundry, having a fag. When people got bored and didn’t comment, asking if FB was playing up as couldn’t see people’s replies 😳
She was often moaning about her partner being no help around the house, then when people tried to put anything supportive she got defensive!!

Yep.
And mumsnet is the worse.

I came off FB/Insta/TikTok/Twitter two years ago. The way I saw it was I never needed social media growing up and I was perfectly happy. Everything about these apps annoyed me especially the checking in at A&E, the gushy posts about family and the relentless over sharing, it was all attention seeking. There’s so many people on these apps who attention seek, posting for likes and views. It’s just not for me. Some posters may say “oh but you come on MN”, yes I do but I dip in and out and I don’t spend hours on here. It’s easy to spot attention seeking posts and I scroll on. I remember looking at my screen time on apps one week and it was something like 23 hours, that was just scrolling and reading inane posts. I’m happy to do other things in these 23 wasted hours these days.

I judge and I know that says a lot about me. Same as op I have a lovely friend in real life but on FB she is so nauseating I cringe.
She posted pictures of her dgd at a Halloween thing with some other kids and in every picture the kid was pulling faces and spoilt every single picture. She put oh love her she's so individual. 🤮 I didn't comment because she ruined it for the other kids. She's one that loves her kids and dgc to the moon and back at every opportunity. Well so do i and they know it so not necessary to tell the rest of the world.
I never comment on checking in at a & e whover does it. Attention seeking bollocks.

Yes. I find the ones who use their children the worst. One in particular puts on check ins and details every time her DC is at the hospital. He is 14 and it has included details about him being suicidal and about him having bowel issues. I know her because our DC were friends, we're in a small town and she has lots of her DCs friends parents on there. Some parents may share that info with their DC, even if they didn't that is still very personal info she is sharing about someone else for attention.

I don’t like the vague messages implying something bad has happened, so they get people posting “You ok?” And they reply “I’ll PM you”.

No, I don’t and I think you are mean.
Many people use social media as a way to reach out when they are sad, lonely or bored or even happy. Let them! I would prefer a human element than all the dull reels in my feed. You sound really unpleasant, OP.

I don't use it much these days for these precise reasons:

• "airing dirty laundry in public " type posts e.g. rants about ex husbands
• cryptic A&E check ins with no context
• rants about a particular person without actually naming them (but the person concerned will recognise it is them)
• photos of what you are eating/drinking
• photos of family members crying
• posts like "Happy birthday hubs - you are my rock". You LIVE in the same house FGS! Have an in person conversation or send a PM!
• Heart if you love your mum
• "Share if you agree" etc
• Clickbait "news" articles

It's become cringe and tragic.

Meh, judge? Probably. Enjoy because it’s entertaining? Absolutely.

That’s the worst, when people ‘check in’ at hospital - WTF

Does it make me a bad person if I say I find it quite entertaining?. One of my aunties is a real drama queen and posts everything.
The Facebook philosophers, I tend so just scroll on by.

Very much so. I find a few people I know and their social media posting utterly cringe worthy and to be honest, a complete load of shit. In real life they say one thing social media tells another story. Social media isn’t real, people just post what they want you to see don’t they. One particular person I know is insufferable, I have snoozed her. Relentless posting with passive aggressive memes and recently writing poetry aimed at her in laws because she doesn’t feel they babysit enough. Desperate to be an SEN parent and posting about how hard it is (child has no formal diagnosis this is her self diagnosing) I say that as an SEN parent and I have had a lot of struggles with my child. One day moaning about motherhood and the next day best job in the world. Honestly I can’t keep up and it is really sad in many ways. When I look at the reasons she does it, is because she is sad and lonely, possibly also rather unwell mentally. There is a reason these people do it and their simply lacking something in their life.

Another one I can’t fucking bare. People recording themselves crying. Such a load of attention seeking

Yep especially those who tag themselves at a hospital to get loads of "What's wrong Hun" comments to reply "DM me Hun I cant say"

I feel like that FB guff of posters wistfully posting about how stoic and wronged they were, or a picture of them in the hospital, FML, peaked 10-15 years ago, and I've never taken to Instagram. Do people even ask if 'Hun is ok' anymore, or have I just blocked 'em sll.