Please or to access all these features

AIBU?

Share your dilemmas and get honest opinions from other Mumsnetters.

9 month old wakes every half hour

33 replies

sharkstale · 02/11/2025 20:49

Absolutely fed up with it now. He wakes half hour after putting him to bed, and generally roughly every half hour after that. Sometimes he goes a bit longer but it's usually around the half hour mark. He's in his cot but when I go to bed I end up putting him in with me because I can't keep getting up with him so frequently. I can't cope with getting such broken sleep anymore and fed up with never being able to unwind in the evenings now as I'm constantly running up to resettle him. I have other dc.
Nap times are the same, he does half hour then wakes. Most of the time I can get him down for a bit longer by resettling him, but recently thats been proving harder. He's also been refusing afternoon naps the last few days. He's not getting nearly enough sleep, and neither am I.
Dp works nights so can't help.
I will admit he feeds to sleep and I know this could be an issue but I can't break the habit. He'll very rarely be rocked to sleep and will just moan until I give in, which went on for 2 hours the other night.
It he's put in the cot drowsy but awake, or even if he's fast asleep but stirs as he's being lowered in, he'll just flip on his front and sit up and I have to start again.

He's been like it for months now and I'm at my wits end with it.

OP posts:
WhatAKnob47 · 02/11/2025 21:05

My daughter woke hourly till 4. It nearly killed me. I tried lots of things. Even cosleeping didn't work. She would sleep more but fidget so much that I wouldn't sleep. She also needed to have constant contact with he so I was totally touched out.

APatternGrammar · 02/11/2025 21:05

Although your partner works nights, does he have any days off? Stop feeding to sleep on a day you can have extra support at night. I also had a baby that woke up at the end of every sleep cycle and stopping feeding to sleep fixed it the first night. We went from waking up 12 times a night to sleeping through, instantly.

DrinkFeckArseBrick · 02/11/2025 21:05

My second was like this. We got a sleep trainer in who recommended the disappearing chair method. PM me if you like and I'll see if I cab dig out the details. One thing she said was it is easier for the dad to break the habit (for both you and baby), she suggested he did the first 3 or 4 nights and then I do it. Could your husband take some time off work or switch hours for a couple of days to help?

sharkstale · 02/11/2025 21:03

Dramatic · 02/11/2025 21:00

I had this issue with my youngest and I'm sorry to say that nothing stopped her waking other than her just growing out of it. I do remember crying frequently over it because I was so sleep deprived, it was torture. I never even bothered to consult a sleep specialist or anything because there is no physical way to stop a baby waking and she'd be crying before she was even properly awake.

What age did she grow out of it? I thought my dd was bad, she outgrew it around 18 months, but this is another level.

OP posts:
sharkstale · 02/11/2025 21:01

Scratch that, a couple of minutes is pushing it tbh, more like 30 seconds or so

OP posts:
Dramatic · 02/11/2025 21:00

I had this issue with my youngest and I'm sorry to say that nothing stopped her waking other than her just growing out of it. I do remember crying frequently over it because I was so sleep deprived, it was torture. I never even bothered to consult a sleep specialist or anything because there is no physical way to stop a baby waking and she'd be crying before she was even properly awake.

sharkstale · 02/11/2025 21:00

rainbowunicorn · 02/11/2025 20:58

Is he actually crying or upset when he wakes or is he just awake but happy and content? Both of mine would wake up atvtagt age but they would just babble away to themselves, occasionally have a little moan and the go back to sleep. If they weren't crying I didn't go in to them. They went through phases of this at different stages.

He will wake up and sit up, have a little moan and wait for me. If I'm not in within a couple of minutes, he stands up and cries.

OP posts:
rainbowunicorn · 02/11/2025 20:58

Is he actually crying or upset when he wakes or is he just awake but happy and content? Both of mine would wake up atvtagt age but they would just babble away to themselves, occasionally have a little moan and the go back to sleep. If they weren't crying I didn't go in to them. They went through phases of this at different stages.