To not want to cook a full foreign Christmas spread for people I’ve only met once?

This man is not a keeper. You probably already know that. He'll get worse, inch by inch.

What a horrible man. He invites relatives that you don't know and then announces that you will be cooking their Christmas food, that you are totally unfamiliar with, for him and his family.
Either he cooks or they can all be grateful for a British Christmas. Considering you are in early pregnancy, when many women feel horribly sick and unable to cook at all, he should be grateful if you cook any sort of Christmas meal.
Frankly, I'm worried that this relationship won't last. He thinks he can dictate you and has decided to 'forget' how to cook now that he is living with a woman.

say you are too, and can't wait to see what he will be cooking!

Your "partner" is a cunt.
I'm pushing 50 and never, ever hosted anyone in my house, Christmas is just my husband (no kids) and myself.
I could never understand, since early teenage years, why should I be expected to put myself out for others.
It was good to stick with "gut feeling".
I would lose him, now or 25 years ago.

@KatieBenoiteee You are ignoring excellent advice and instead choosing to compromise when you should not,

But you can't help people who won't help themselves.

Yes but why are you cooking? Tell him he’s cooking or it’s not happening. This is not a good indicator of his character or attitude that he’s just sitting back expecting you to do all the work.

Just get rid of him. His expectant manner and thinking that you exist to provide whatever he wants, whenever he wants - is that what you want your life to be?

He thinks you are beneath him and should do as he says. So does his family.

Don't do this to yourself.

Why are you with such a disrespectful and obnoxious man?

So he's well on the way to having you trained isn't he?

He's invited people without asking you & you are still cooking for them all.

Oh well.

Having looked at the Polish Christmas menu posted earlier, I wish you good luck in ordering your fresh carp from Sainsbury’s.

spend Christmas with your family and let him host his. Done .

YANBU, don't. I speak as someone who did exactly that. My DH (also not from UK) told me his cousin was coming to stay for a night, he turned up with four generations of his family, some vegan (we're not), one on a "high protein" diet, who all stayed for five days. I was run ragged at the end of it. Let them tell you exactly what they want and draw your boundaries. I wouldn't mind doing them an English spread - they're in your country so why not? Let them sample our local delights. And eat out a lot.

Did he cook the "British" Christmas Dinner?
I doubt it - is he a selfish misogynistic twat in general?

Add me to the chorus of ‘get rid of this man’ and reconsider the pregnancy. He will make your life miserable. The sooner you do it, the better.

She shouldn't even CONSiDER cooking ANY eastern European delicacies for this mysoginist bloke and his rude cousins.

Difficult or not, she's pregnant, they talk in their own language and she didn't invite them and therefore she is not the host!

I would say you're either helping me with the cooking or we're not doing it. You always have the option to say you've decided to go to your parents after all and he can stay behind with his relatives if he wants.

He is putting too much stress on you.

OP you may think you've sorted this issue out but the red flags are still waving. He didn't respect you enough to run the idea of hosting his relatives past you before he did it. He still assumed you'd do all the cooking and would be happy to be "on the outside". (Inviting them without asking you first might - only might - have been acceptable if he'd said he'd do all the cooking.) And he sulked when you reasonably expressed doubts.

There are deeply ingrained misogynist assumptions that he's leaning into there.

I'm the one in my relationship who doesn't cook because I hate it (and luckily DP loves it and is very good at it). I'd never dream of ordering him to cook something specific, even if it was just us - and certainly never something he wasn't comfortable cooking, while hosting a bunch of people he didn't know well. That's just hugely disrespectful.

Why on earth have you married such a sexist prick? If my husband invited a load of people and expected me to cater for them without discussing it first, I’d be having serious thoughts about our future together!

Op is in for a horrific time, honestly. I've lived it😖.

Who is this man. Why on earth are you with him? Are you a trad wife? I cannot for the life of me understand how you could possibly think this is a good plan for the future.

I am African and I know how African men can be. You are in for a tough time. Since you are already pregnant I advise you to get relationship counselling now. Your man has a lot of ingrained views that you are going to find extremely difficult to deal with. I'm Nigerian and that is how Nigerian men reason. Once they have a partner, they stop doing things like cooking and cleaning because they believe its the woman's sole responsibility. They believe men are "polygamous " and therefore allowed to cheat. Good luck 😔

If he wants them there, he can do all the cooking and take on all the extra work. You put your feet up and let him crack on. If you are in charge then you go right ahead with your plan of ordering M&S ready stuff. He needs to decide where his loyalties lie. Is he part of a team with you, always having your back and always on your side against the world, or has he not actually made that commitment and in a choice between his family and you, you are demoted to someone unimportant whose needs and wellbeing can be ignored?

(Edited to remove the word "wife" - don't marry him - get rid!)

Dump him now!

You will regret this massively if you waste any more of your precious youth with this loser.

He’s not a partner but a USER as he’s only thinking of himself and didn’t include you in the discussion about what you’d like Christmas to look like this year.

I read your update about him not caring for you properly when you were sick. This is a massive RED flag 🚩

There have no doubt been others but you keep ignoring them. When will you listen to your inner voice?

Men who start off being selfish in a relationship don’t magically change and become kind as they get older. They grow even more selfish and mean.

He's a twat. Leave him. You'll be better off, I promise.

What xenophobic post? Have read all of op's posts. People who don't exclude by not using a language she understands is horrible.