To not want to cook a full foreign Christmas spread for people I’ve only met once?

Oh god you’re also pregnant with his baby. You need to nip this in the bud one way or another. Either put your foot down and tell him he’ll be cooking. If you think he won’t accept that you need to look at your future with him- will he be expecting you to cook everything for him when you’re 8.5 months pregnant or when you have a newborn.

He sounds awful.

Portugal or Italy...

What an utter arsehole. Does he think he's your boss or something, declaring what work you're going to do for him?

From the abusive mans textbook.
The minute she pshes back he makes a fuss, dismisses her, calls her unreasonable, tells her she has spoiled the evening.

Imagine just how awful he will be, how stuck you will feel with a baby in your arms, his friends taking about you in a language you don't understand, as you skivvy for them.

Bloody hell, what a life to volunteer for.
Don't buy a house with a man who thinks you are nothing more than a skivvy.

I would be thinking about what life will be like for your baby if she’s a girl, or what values he’ll internalise if it’s a boy, if you go ahead with both pregnancy and relationship and let this man treat you in this way.

Quite a lot of people have pointed out the inherent unfairness in the situation he has created. Gently, I think you should take on board what they have said.

So many red flags here sorry OP I think you have some hard serious thinking to do

Oh OP. Honestly, do yourself a favour and just tell him to fuck off.

And 5 weeks pregnant… so at Christmas you’ll be 12 weeks! I couldn’t be in the kitchen at that stage without being violently ill. The smell of cooking would trigger sever vomiting. Morning sickness can be very debilitating for some women and you’ll be peak.

Good luck… With him, with Christmas, with the baby. Just set boundaries now or you’ll regret it.

I am trying to think of a Christian culture with a variety of local traditional Christmas dishes where part of the tradition is the woman does ALL the preparations and cooking with zero help from her husband or family.
Nothing comes to mind. Unless it was 150 years ago maybe?
WTF OP, this is totally unacceptable. He is also doing his vest to make you feel guilty.
You either tell him he does the cooking. Or you do the cooking you originally planned the m&s job. Tell him you can't cook s Christmas dinner and you don't want to learn how to do it now. You were looking forward to having a nice cozy day at home just the two of you before the baby comes and he has ruined your plans and dream and made you upset.
I honestly think he's showing his true colours here and this is only the beginning. They do say a lot of men behave differently, not in a good way, from the first pregnancy. I think this is what is happening here. As far as he's concerned you have now become the breeding mare who will take care of all his demands without any prior consultation.
You deserve more that this.

Tell him you're going away for Xmas. He invited them, he can cook and host.

He's treating you like a maid. Tell him to get to Fuck from all of us.

Stand up for yourself or your life will.be a misery with this prick.

It would have been fair if HE cooked British Xmas food for your family, but I bet you cooked it? Tell him either he cooks himself, orders it from somewhere - or it will be fish and chips/ pizza for the whole holiday.

But really, who the fuck are you with... You know you can get a home grown misogynist - there is no need to import one? (joke)

OP you sound like a door mat and he sounds horrible. I suggest you change the dynamic between you now before you end up with a very miserable life.

What country then?

I don't understand why you think he's got you over a barrel, unless he cooked and hosted a British Christmas for your parents? He's enjoyed hospitality from your culture for a few years, now, fair enough, you have a Christmas celebrating with his cultural traditions, which he or his cousin hosts. Otherwise it's not remotely fair.

If you are crazy enough to put up with this and not say he needs to cook then make sure you do a shit job cooking the meals he has decided you will cook. At least if you are going to stay with this misogynistic asshole he won’t ask you to do it again!

OP, you've really not explained why you will be doing the cooking. He arranged it, they are his friends, the food will be from his culture. Do you do everything he demands? Stand up for yourself and tell him to cook the Christmas dinner himself. All this shit about him being 'traditional' is just code for misogynistic and controlling.

He invited his friends without agreeing it with you first.
So he cooks and hosts. Plus all the prep, shopping, cleaning etc.
Ditto in the he expects his Christmas dishes - that's lovely, he can cook them. Or whatever else he wants, it's his turn this year.

Afraid this is another one of those threads where you need to stand up for yourself and state boundaries, and then stick to them.

I wouldn't be going to my parents, but neither would I be bullied into catering for people I didn't invite/agree to, and I also wouldn't be making dishes I didn't wish to for anyone.

I would tell him in person, and I would follow it up with a text/email so that it's in writing and there's no possibility of him trying to distort reality later and claim you never said something you clearly did.

And TBH, on the very brief snapshot you've provided, I would be strongly reconsidering whether I wanted to continue a pregnancy with such a man as co-parent.

I feel for you.... this is just the beginning

Simply, if someone comes to my home and I offer to cater, I'm cooking the food I choose to cook, which will almost certainly be of my own culture because that is what I am best at. Anyone demanding that I cook food from a culture that I am unfamiliar with will be told that it is not a fucking restaurant and if they want something special they are welcome to cook it themselves. I suggest you say the same.

Fuck me. I like cooking, and never minded hosting my DH's family at Christmas. But it was my menu. The thought of catering for people from an altogether different culinary culture, with no previous experience or current guidance gives me the shivers. I agree with the pp who says that he's setting you up to fail here. You were nervous enough about doing a special meal just for the two of you.

You don't want to do this; he wants it to happen. Therefore he needs to step up and get the recipe books out, or he's going to look like a right idiot.

Stop acting like you have to do the cooking. You do not. I repeat ..you do not need to do this.
He may well felt he wanted to have his family around for Xmas and some traditional food. That's understandable. But it's not your job to do all the work for this Christmas he's concocted.

Tell him now. Or write the script for the rest of your time together

No no, no no no no, no no no no, no no there’s no Christmas ~ unless he shops, cooks and cleans it all himself. Don’t be a slave to anyone’s expectations x

He sounds like a misogynist. Tell him to cook his own food.

Nothing wrong with inviting them or having his traditional dishes but he needs to be doing the cooking! If he won’t step up and cook one meal I would be urgently reconsidering if he’s suitable to be the father of your child

WTF is he not cooking???

Your stance needs to be, "you invited them, you shop, cook and do the laundry/cleaning for the visit."

He sounds like a walking red flag @KatieBenoiteee