To not want to cook a full foreign Christmas spread for people I’ve only met once?

Could they stay with you but eat out at a restaurant on Xmas day at their choice of restaurant serving traditional foods from their culture ?

OP is, she is going to cook curry and DH is cooking a traditional dish.

Quite often in other cultures all the women in the family help to prepare the dishes. Never just one woman.

I agree. Get out now. It’ll only get worse. You do it once and you’ll be expected to do it forever.

He’s invited them so he can cook 🤷‍♀️ Don’t be such a doormat OP.

I hate to say it , but I don't like the sound of your relationship- who invites their whole family over and expects their partner to cook traditional dishes, having not asked them if they are up for doing it? There is no way you could live up to his childhood memories of those dishes even if you were a celebrity chef.
You need to be honest with him and say you are not confident to host them- you can go to theirs or have Christmas at home as a couple.
You are pregnant- you need to start as you mean to go on.

It is very unusual OP to cook cuisine for Christmas from another persons country. I am really sure that they will find fault with it all as it won't quite be what they are used to! When foreigners come to the UK for Christmas they should expect to eat traditional food from the country they are visiting. Or of course whatever you feel comfortable cooking. It all seems rather odd that your partner is asking you to cook their traditional food.

He 'compromised,' by eating a Christmas dinner (,cooked FOR him) from a different culture.
Likewise she will 'compromise' by eating a Christmas dinner (,cooked FOR her) from a different culture.

It's not her job to cook him and his friends and family Christmas dinner without even asking her.
That's the issue. It's the WORK that's just been dumped on her without even the courtesy of asking her or talking to her.

He's sabotaged your Christmas already..

Perhaps you could contract the work out and have the big meal cooked and delivered for you.

I understand how you feel, I bailed out when I realised I'd have to cook a Sunday lunch each week for someone who was never home from the pub in time to eat it.

Well that was a painful read...the answer is no no no and no. Please don't start your family life together like this. He is already happy to throw all of the heavy lifting and responsibility on you, from what you have said without any discussion on it?
Very entitled and disrespectful to give you a huge task like it's just your duty.
Tell him Christmas will be at their home for their traditional cooking or you will leave him to it and go to your parents.
Start your family decisions and priorities the way you mean to continue them x

Congratulations on the pregnancy

Good grief, what a knob. Even I would say no to this and I love experimental cooking.

I'm going to put my head above the parapet here and say you chose to marry a man from a different culture who has compromised on Christmas many times for you, I would be trying to reach a compromise with his wishes, just for once. If you can't face cooking could you all go out to eat, or could your guests bring some ready prepared meals and your partner help you with making some yourselves

God he sounds awful!
I'm sorry you're pregnant by him because it complicates your options. I can't bear women making themselves a doormat.
He won't cook, has unilaterally invited people over to eat the food he expects you to cook and in the knowledge you won't understand the conversation.
What do you see in him?

I am so confused as to why cooking is your responsibility and something for you to stress/worry about? By all means help him out with the cooking, but it’s not down to you. He invited them, he’s setting the requirements for the menu, he needs to sort it. You’re his partner not his mother.

This is a massive red flag op, I’d advise you to walk away. What else is he not going to like doing in the future? Changing nappies, settling a crying child… lazy man. Get rid.

I’m sorry that your Christmas plans are stressful. It sounds like you have come up with a good plan. I was just going to add that having a partner who refuses to cook is a big deal. To be responsible for the planning, provisioning and cooking for a family by yourself and FOREVER is a huge task, and in no way compares to doing the DIY. If it makes you feel better, you can work out how to use a drill, or mow the lawn so that you can share all the tasks, but sharing the cooking is absolutely essential for a happy partnership. And not just for when you’re poorly. It will be easier to establish your expectations now than a few years in. I’ve been married 16years and doing the cooking (and planning and shopping) is an exhausting task. I do most of it and it’s a big load, but would warn against setting up a relationship where the expectation is that you do it all. Good luck to you. Xxxx

None of us like the traditional Christmas dinner - we always have a huge buffet with everyone’s favourites - usually cold stuff as I’m not prepared to spend time preparing hot food.

Why would you feel the pressure to cook a big traditional Christmas dinner?

No one in my family likes Turkey, so I cook my favourite food on Christmas Day - Lasagne served with salads, and garlic bread starters are smoked salmon, prawns and crusty (part baked rolls) then cheese board and a Christmas pudding or chocolate cake!

cook whatever food you like… if you DP wants something then he should make it!

There isn’t any reason to cook anything other than your favourite food on Christmas Day! Let’s not forget Jesus definitely wouldn’t have had pigs in blankets in his lifetime!

I'd develop really bad "morning sickness " Every time you see raw meat or fish put your hand over your mouth and dash out of the kitchen

It’s endemic here. So many women with standards in the toilet bringing children into lives of misery. It’s utterly depressing.

“Now he has invited them he is expecting me to it on a whole spread of their traditional Christmas dishes…

im pregnant”

ok , as so often before, this means that you have a DH problem.

im afraid it’s going to be up to you to fix that one way or another. Can you have a sensible conversation with him?

if not, I’d suggest something drastic. Ann mention of his pregnant wife entertaining in this way, start laughing loudly in his face. Once you have recovered, say, no, seriously, stop joining. Tell me what you are really going to do.

repeat as often as required. Good luck.

how much cooking did he do as part of the ‘traditional British Christmas with your family. You do that much is none.at.all

honestly, this really is a ‘hill to die on’ or your life will be just horrible from now on.

Book into a hotel for whole there's still room to be had. Let your prize of a partner sort out his relatives. I think you're very restrained, I've a whole bunch of appropriate words for him. You can probably imagine some of them. Use them.🍽

We all know that. If OP decides to go down the 'telling him a few home truths' route, she needs to be able to point that out to him when he starts on about how much he does.

It is possible he does all the clearing up after himself work, and that the lawn is about three acres. I still suspect she puts in more hours per week.

I hope she runs for the hills.

Not even, unless your house is tidy all the time. It’s more like before if every time before he mows the lawn the op lays all the dirty washing out on it snd some random things and he has to gather up the washing, put on a load, pick up 30 things and put them away then mow the lawn. Repeat minimum weekly.

Cultural differences exist. Especially at Christmas. My extended family and culture is like your DHs, but I've been brought up multicultural and not in my family's country of origin. My DH says I am more English/British than he is. I'd prefer a quiet Christmas with close family.

And I'd never try to cook the traditional dishes, even from 5 star recipes on a normal day, forget Christmas, to guests who this is important to. That's exactly as you forsee it - disaster and you being miserable.

Get your OH to order the traditional meal in, from a 5star traditional chef. You won't win the cooking, even if you were Chef Ramsey.

Sit your DH down and tell him. The truth. He has to respect you, your needs, you as a couple, your needs as a couple first.
He will revert to cultural type in the situation where there's at least one other from his country of origin if HE allows it. There's a stupid norm of chauvinism / misogyny in too many cultures....

Only you know what will suit you now he's extended an invitation. Maybe he needs to take the cooked 5star traditional meal to his cousins home on Christmas Day?, etc.

So, there's a bigger question here. Is DH the man you know and love in any situation or is the side he's now showing you the true one?

Raise your standards for God's sake. This isn't a man who loves you.

I don't like the sound of him at all. I don't like the sound of any of them! If I were you I'd be going to my mum's and let him get on with it. For myself I would dump this prick. Do you really think things will improve?