To feel shamed by this question?

I was going to say this, as is stretchy skin

In which case, I’d have trusted that the question was not asked for any other reason aside from helping you in your quest for better health

Aside from the question, do you feel like you are being taken seriously, listened to and treated well?

As I say, I’ll leave you to it

I think the odd thing is that when I posted my opinion that people should ask questions in a medical appointment about the questions they were being asked that you interpreted it as an attack on health care professionals.

I was merely saying that people should be prepared to speak up and voice what they dont understand in an appointment.

That you see trying to make sense of your medical condition as an attack on health care professionals is very strange and worrying.

It has resulted in your very personal attempt to diminish me as a person worthy of an opinion.

sweet Jesus. Life must be full of so much… drama with this kind of hyperbolic response

This! Stretch marks unrelated to weight gain are a marker for EDS, Marfan syndrome and all sorts of other things that can cause hip pain.

Clinicians really should explain why they’re asking this sort of thing to avoid misunderstandings.

I am presenting the possibility of an alternative explanation based on the information provided

and you have gone from 0-100. Accused me of denying you, belittling you, discrediting you.

all very odd so I’ll leave you to it

I'm taking offence because you are determind to deny my experience.

You are determind to put your own interpretation on something that happened to ME.

You weren't there. You have no idea of the apoalling way women like my self were treated, even in the 1970s, if we were immoral enough, in the eyes of society , to give birth outside marriage.

So yes I admit to being irreversibly damaged by my experience.

But that doesn't detract from the point of my original post on this thread. Which was in medical appointments if you don't understand why a question is being asked of you then quiery it. Ask why the question is being is ask. Ask what relevance it has to your current problem.

It was a very straightforward point. Not controversial at all. I really don't understand why it has resulted in your attempt to diminish me as a person worthy of an opinion.

A hairy line on your stomach may indicate PCOS

Good grief
i said the hairy question may have been probing for an underlying health issue that may be relevant to choice of contraception

I am very sorry you lost a baby and how it was handled by this hcp

you, however, have very decisively chosen to take offence and see shadows.

which I suppose given your stance on HCP questions, isn’t a surprise

I see you are determind to excuse the inexcusable.
You are denying my experience.
You don't know how this woman doctor behaved.
You weren't there to see her body language and her attitude.
You weren't a young woman who had recently given birth out of wedlock at a time when that was considered a moral and social sin. And you hadn't experienced alone the very recent death of your baby.
But hey ho, what do I count for in the scheme of things?.
If I say the hairy line on my tummy had nothing to do with the coil becoming embedded in the wall of my womb then I'm sure you will find some reason to excuse this doctor's nasty unnecessary questions.

Why are you so hairy? Thoughtlessly worded as repent as could indicate a health issue.

How did your baby die? I am so sorry.

Really?
So when I was in my early twenties I went to the then Family planning clinic re problems with my coil and I had questions such as Why are you so hairy? How did your baby die? thrown at me. For absolutely no reason .
I count those questions as not only intrusive but downright vindictive. And I just lay there with my legs akimbo in a very vulnerable position and inwardly died a death. There was no medical reason for these questions and to my eternal regret I didn't protest

So that's why now I" m older I will put pertinent questions in my medical appointments and make sure I'm counted as a person.

Pregnancy and weight gain can impact hips! Really sensible of her to ask

I assumed it was to do with EDS. I have it and have a lot of problems with my hips, I also get stretch marks breathing in too hard! I'm exaggerating but I get them easily, I can actually feel them forming.

You said any times you felt that the questions you’d been asked had been very “intrusive”

You went to said HCP for a health issue
They were asking “intrusive” question to get to the bottom of said health issue

Well yes . I understand you were referring to my post.
But I still don't understand what you are trying to say other than we are supposed to sit there and accept what people say to us in medical situations without us having an understanding of what is going on.

I dont know what that emoji means because I communicate in words not pictures. But I'm assuming you're are trying to be sarcastic?
Yes of course I understand brain fog and forgetfulness. But if I had a medical appointment about a specific issue - in OP's case an issue about her hip - and the medical professionals started asking questions about something she totally hadn't any particular concerns about at that time - in this case stretch marks -then brain fog or forgetfulness doesn't even enter into the equation.
It's about people's reticence to advocate for themselves.

I think it’s fine. I understand that it feels like a sensitive topic but they need to establish your medical history to help solve the problem. Things like pregnancy can have massive effects on hips, lower back, core muscles. Similarly weight loss or gain can cause issues too. I think it’s just part of the diagnosis and treatment programme.

The OP has hip problems. A physio would need to see that part of the anatomy, and see how it moves, without it being completely covered with clothing.

I was specifically referring to your post
not the OP’s

I think it's strange that your physio didn't explain why they were asking, which might have made you feel less uncomfortable. There is nothing wrong with asking for clarification if you don't understand.

My physio is fantastic but she's ex-Royal Navy and scary as fuck. Sometimes you have to be a bit assertive with them, you are paying after all.