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DH talking about moving but I don't want to.

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AhBiscuits · 02/11/2025 09:58

DH has come into some money and thinks we should move and buy a bigger house. I think our house is big enough. Since living here we have converted the loft and extended. There isn't really anything else we can do to increase space. We have 2 kids who are 8 and 10. They each have their own large bedroom, as do we, and we have a box room which is my office. He wants a 5 bed so that we can also have a guest room / room where he can put exercise equipment and just generally to have more space. The location of our house is perfect and I don't think we'd find somewhere else that ticks all the boxes this house does, space aside. Even if we did find this unicorn house, I just can't be arsed with it. The moving, the redecorating, you can guarantee that we'll want a different kitchen and/or bathroom. I hate living in a building site. What if the neighbours are dicks? I like our neighbours, we have a nice community. Why do we have to be constantly looking to upgrade? My brother bought his house at 25, has never moved and had paid off his mortgage by 50. That seems like a good thing to do to me.
I'd rather invest the money and give it to the children for their houses when they are looking to buy.

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Tagyoureit · 02/11/2025 10:02

I'd feel the same as you.
What about a summer house in the garden as gym/guest room as a compromise?

Imisscoffee2021 · 02/11/2025 10:01

Agree with you, I'd much rather use that money to give my children a leg up in what will probably be an even harder time to buy in than move everyone for the sake of one extra room. In another decade you're most likely going to have empty bedrooms when the kids go to uni/move out so there'll be plenty of space, too much possibly!

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