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Rude people in the theatre

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Katrinawaves · 02/11/2025 08:34

What goes through people’s heads when they behave poorly in the theatre? We go quite regularly but it’s becoming more and more common to have people chat through the performance or arrive late or leave early.

Last night we went to see Punch at the Apollo which is a really emotionally challenging play which relies heavily on the audience investing in the main characters. There was a woman in the row behind us who had dropped her phone just as the play was starting and was loudly asking everyone around her if they had seen it over the top of the actors performing and moving around and craning in her seat. When she finally found her phone she didn’t bother switching it off, so of course mid way through the first act, it rang loudly and then she couldn’t find it again to silence it quickly so she swore loudly and huffed and puffed until she could! After the interval when she got back to her seat, she again chatted loudly to her companion for the first few minutes of the performance.

it’s so rude and disrespectful both to the performers but also to other theatre goers who have paid £150+ for a seat to watch the play not to listen to somebody’s mundane life dramas!

There was even a spoken announcement at the beginning of the show asking people not to talk or eat noisy food and to switch their phone off so in the unlikely event she didn’t know what normal social etiquette requires she was actually told seconds before she started to act like a toddler.

AIBU to think the theatre staff should ask anyone who makes such a disturbance in the first half of a play to leave at the interval as a deterrent to others and to ensure that they don’t spoil the whole play for others.

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grafittiartist · 02/11/2025 09:06

The last times (recently) that I went to the theatres here- people were challenged quickly about their phones, by members of staff.
was good to see.

dontlikethings · 02/11/2025 09:05

Behaviour at the theatre has definitely deteriorated, but I guess that it's in line with general public behaviour, which is also worse than 20-30 years ago. My partner usually leans towards the annoying person and asks them to stop, but it's possible that one of these days the annoying person will start an argument while the performance is still going on.

I agree with the PP who said that you're only safe if you go to Shakespearean performances, because some people wouldn't want to go.

I'd also advise people never to go to a play featuring someone from Tv or the world of films. The audience, in my experience, couldn't care less about the play, they are just there to look at the famous person 'in the flesh' so to speak. Yes - some people are that idiotic.

Ablondiebutagoody · 02/11/2025 09:02

YANBU. Sadly this type of behaviour is to be expected so venues should have the backbone to expel people.

EmpressaurusKitty · 02/11/2025 09:02

Bladderpool · 02/11/2025 08:56

No, they can tell them to leave. I’ve had the misfortune of being in the audience THREE times where this has happened. On each occasion the performers stopped what they were doing, then there was an announcement that the show would stop until they had dealt with the problem. One time I could just hear a woman shrieking that “under no circumstances will I be leaving” but then the audience around her started chanting and she clearly didn’t have a choice. Then a big cheer went up….the show restarted after about 15 minutes. It was a right carry on but sent a clear signal to the audience that they won’t put up with nonsense.

I think that’s the only way.

Warn people at the start that if they don’t turn their phone off, and it makes a noise, or they disturb anyone with it, the play will stop & they’ll be removed without a refund. And then do it.
If people absolutely have to be able to check for messages they should be in the very back row, at one end.

Bladderpool · 02/11/2025 08:56

pizzaHeart · 02/11/2025 08:38

And how they would reinforce that? I think at a max staff could remind her personally to switch off her phone before the second half but otherwise not much they could do,
It’s very annoying for others though.

No, they can tell them to leave. I’ve had the misfortune of being in the audience THREE times where this has happened. On each occasion the performers stopped what they were doing, then there was an announcement that the show would stop until they had dealt with the problem. One time I could just hear a woman shrieking that “under no circumstances will I be leaving” but then the audience around her started chanting and she clearly didn’t have a choice. Then a big cheer went up….the show restarted after about 15 minutes. It was a right carry on but sent a clear signal to the audience that they won’t put up with nonsense.

Justputsomeyoghurtonit · 02/11/2025 08:48

She should have been asked to leave. That's appalling.

Also a regular at the theatre, the worst behaviour I've seen is at big shows, so the people (quite obviously tourists) at Charlie and the Chocolate Factory on Xmas eve, in the 8th row of the stalls, all on their phones BOOKING NEW TICKETS FOR THE SAME SHOW after xmas! The attendant spotted them and had a sharp word. I would Hve done, but I had a child on my knee! (and yes I could see what they were doing, they kept leaning in to compare seats!)

The man on his phone under his coat at Hamilton at the front of the Royal Circle, meaning that his companion couldn't see his phone screen but the whole royal circle could see if from behind. On that occasion I waited until the interval and asked him to put his phone away, pointing out it was disturbing us all. They were £180 seats!

I do find it's better at shakespeare, maybe because no one goes who doesn't want to?!

SumUp · 02/11/2025 08:39

YANBU. That was rude and thoughtless behaviour.

On a separate note, I’m stunned by the high price of theatre and concert tickets these days!

pizzaHeart · 02/11/2025 08:38

And how they would reinforce that? I think at a max staff could remind her personally to switch off her phone before the second half but otherwise not much they could do,
It’s very annoying for others though.