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Should guising/trick or treating have an upper age limit..?

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AmberRose86 · 01/11/2025 19:48

I live on a fairly small new build estate. Halloween is a pretty big deal here. Quite Americanised. Decorations are elaborate (for those who wish to participate. It’s quite well known in the area and families from surrounding areas travel to the estate to go guising there (another argument in itself but generally it does t really bother me).

Ive been taking my kids guising there since we moved in 4 years ago. There has always been a lovely, friendly atmosphere, just lots of families milling about. The kids absolutely love it.

Last night however I’d say the vibe was a bit different. Maybe because it was Friday night? Big groups of teenagers walking about in scream masks etc, pushing their way through crowds of small kids to the doors. I’m not talking 12-13 year olds. I mean 14, 15, 16. They looked like fully grown adults.

Someone (not me, for the record) has posted on the estate facebook page bemoaning these teenagers, too old for guising, intimidating, taking sweets that are for the wee ones etc. An argument has duly broken out. Surely it’s better that they are guising and not drinking in the park, who is this person to say that these teens are too old etc.

I’m kind of on the fence, but to be honest I did think the groups of teens were a bit on the ridiculous side. My eldest is 11 and understands she is at the upper end of the guising age scale.

The worst thing for me is that people tend to leave bowls of sweets outside when they take their own kids round the doors. These groups of teens have been caught on Ring doorbells emptying these bowls into their bags so the wee ones don’t get anything. But to be fair I accept that’s a hazard of leaving stuff outside (although this hasn’t been a problem in previous years).

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Rhaenys · 06/11/2025 17:09

My friends and I were in year 10 when we went out trick or treating for the last time. We did get some push back from people though saying we were too old. I personally think people who try and put limits on it like being too old, or not being local enough are so miserable.

someepeoplearenice · 04/11/2025 11:11

Namechangeforthis88 · 01/11/2025 20:07

From my local Facebook group:
Halloween Reminder:
Teenagers who seem too old to be out guising chose childhood over partying. Be happy and hand over the snickers.
Can’t wait for Friday!! 😃
🎃🕸️🕷️🧛🏻‍♀️🦹🥷🧟‍♂️🕷️🎃

I agree with this. Kids grow up too early. I'm all for them hanging onto childhood a bit longer. Give them a haribo and let them still be kids.

Wincher · 04/11/2025 10:58

My 12 year old felt he was too old this year, so he gave out the sweets instead. He did make sure to keep some back for himself and ate plenty while he was giving them out!

Suzjspik · 03/11/2025 11:41

Ive never heard the word guising before ! Always called trick or treating. Anyway Ive got an 11 year old and a 15 year old. My 15 year old came out with us, granted he went home early but he was with me so its not like he was causing any trouble. I dont see a problem with it. I think as your kids get older you may see things differenly and want to cherish those 'kid' moments.

FateReset · 03/11/2025 05:33

I think over 10 is too old for trick or treating. Around here, kids are accompanied by a parent (all in costumes). It's very much frowned upon for preteens and over to participate, unless they dress up and don't push in. It's all about teaching children manners in a way. If they're kind to the little ones and join in with the spirit of costumes, contributing by watching over younger siblings, not grabbing handfuls of sweets or charging about in little mobs, older ones are tolerated. The focus should be community, not candy-grabbing.

Mummadeze · 03/11/2025 05:20

Autistic 16 year old and her two neurodiverse friends got dressed up, watched The Witches and then went trick or treating. They are all young for their age and very polite. People were kind to them. No harm done. I was happy to see my DD enjoying herself and getting out of the house off her own bat.

MrsTerryPratchett · 02/11/2025 22:41

brunettemic · 02/11/2025 22:31

“All teenagers do is sit on their phones and PlayStations inside, they need they outside more”

Teenagers go outside to do something fun.

“well we can’t have that, we need to pass a law or something to prevent this”

Quite

brunettemic · 02/11/2025 22:31

“All teenagers do is sit on their phones and PlayStations inside, they need they outside more”

Teenagers go outside to do something fun.

“well we can’t have that, we need to pass a law or something to prevent this”

Figgygal · 02/11/2025 22:31

My 13yo took our 9yo trick or treating this year around our village he loves it but said it'd be his last year.

MrsTerryPratchett · 02/11/2025 22:28

Tiredofwhataboutery · 02/11/2025 22:20

I said no my 15yo trick or treating he’s six foot and wanted to go out in ye olde plague mask and claw hands. I thought he’d give someone a heart attack!

I’d have given him sweets!

SeriousTissues · 02/11/2025 22:26

My 14 year old went trick or treating. Spent time making an outfit, had a great time. Loved seeing everyone out and about and seeing the houses decorated. Some others from her school year went to a Halloween party and got drunk. Glad she chose to do the latter really!

OnlyMabelInTheBuilding · 02/11/2025 22:25

They are just toddlers in giant bodies, especially the boys

Oh god.

WonderingWanda · 02/11/2025 22:23

I work with teenagers and they get a very bad press. They are so young still and want to have fun. We complain when they try to grow up to fast so we shouldn't moan when they want to hold on to fun traditions. Of course there will always be a couple of silly ones with poor judgement. They are just toddlers in giant bodies, especially the boys. In our area the teens are generally lovely and polite. We' s had the odd incident, I recall last year someone's pumpkin was stolen but mostly they are great
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Tiredofwhataboutery · 02/11/2025 22:20

I said no my 15yo trick or treating he’s six foot and wanted to go out in ye olde plague mask and claw hands. I thought he’d give someone a heart attack!

SurvivalInstinctsOfABakedPotato · 02/11/2025 22:14

I had some really lovely chats eith older kids on my doorstep this year

Including. A couple who were about 17. They'd learned to do stage make up snd had wanted to show it off to people
I happily chatted and gave them all sweets regardless of age and a lot of parents too

Yes some dicks ruin it but a lot of teenagers are actually pretty nice given half a chance

stargirl1701 · 02/11/2025 21:42

Yup. My DC were told that guiding is for primary school children. As teens, they can have a film night with friends.

SemiRetiredLoveGoddeess · 02/11/2025 21:31

Teenagers being drunk and behaving badly..Definitely out of order. Under age drinking? A real excuse for a piss fest?

Post their latest idiot shows on Snapchat.

They really spoil it for younger children

Way back when. The Police might come out and sort out legless idiot rowdies. But now they don't have the resources and we have Community Policing.

If you want a quiet Halloween
Go.out

Or stay in turn the lights down low. Pull the curtains. On no account leave bowls full.of sweets.

Turn off door bell and intercom and get a chain and padlock on.you.front gate.

Never mind you have Bonfire Night to look forward to in a few days

Have spent last half hour listening to massive firework.noise from the local park.

Truly thought there had been a real explosion.when.the first one went off!

Wow!!!
Or maybe the 3I/Atlas comet had.crash landed.l

Bon.Nuit

🎃👎🍻🧌🎉🚫❓

x

JayJayj · 02/11/2025 21:06

ColdWaterDipper · 02/11/2025 19:27

My (just) 14 year old went trick or treating with a small group of his friends (also 14 and one 15 year old) in our local town. They went round a few estates and several of my friends who live there messaged me to say how polite the boys all were. They wore skeleton costumes and said please and thank you, and in fact contrary to your experience when they came across a bowl of sweets they took just one each. In fact one of my friends said she was coming back with her own children having left a bowl outside her house which was by that point empty. She said the boys were coming back down the path as she approached her house and said to her children, “oh this house looks like it’s run out of sweets, would you like some out of our bags?” She said when she looked back at her ring doorbell, the bowl had been emptied not long after she went out by a gang of little tiny kids whose parents were stood at the gate chatting.

leave the teenagers alone, they aren’t all bad. In fact I remember years ago long before I had children, I answered the door to a big group of teens on Halloween and was surprised that they were the politest children that called all evening! People want kids to grow up so quickly these days - I prefer my teen and tween to still enjoy normal childhood things, play games, jump on trampolines, ride their bikes, and not to be into make up, gaming and YouTube.

I had a group of teenage girls, all dresses in matching pirate costumes. They looked amazing, my daughter (toddler) was so fascinated with them. They spoke to her, and were really polite.

JayJayj · 02/11/2025 21:04

I still went trick or treating at 15. I really enjoyed dressing up and seeing all the houses done up.

When I was out with my daughter there was an adult out, I’d say in her 30s, she was trick or treating. She was with a carer. She was having fun and was excited. So I’d definitely say no age limit.

ColdWaterDipper · 02/11/2025 19:27

My (just) 14 year old went trick or treating with a small group of his friends (also 14 and one 15 year old) in our local town. They went round a few estates and several of my friends who live there messaged me to say how polite the boys all were. They wore skeleton costumes and said please and thank you, and in fact contrary to your experience when they came across a bowl of sweets they took just one each. In fact one of my friends said she was coming back with her own children having left a bowl outside her house which was by that point empty. She said the boys were coming back down the path as she approached her house and said to her children, “oh this house looks like it’s run out of sweets, would you like some out of our bags?” She said when she looked back at her ring doorbell, the bowl had been emptied not long after she went out by a gang of little tiny kids whose parents were stood at the gate chatting.

leave the teenagers alone, they aren’t all bad. In fact I remember years ago long before I had children, I answered the door to a big group of teens on Halloween and was surprised that they were the politest children that called all evening! People want kids to grow up so quickly these days - I prefer my teen and tween to still enjoy normal childhood things, play games, jump on trampolines, ride their bikes, and not to be into make up, gaming and YouTube.

Peridoteage · 02/11/2025 19:24

My kids know - no trick or treating once they start secondary. If they want sweets they can buy them, I'm happy to host their friends for a halloween party or a scary film might, but I don't want older children out begging neighbours. I don't love trick or treating generally but tolerate it for young kids who like the dressing up etc.

Lokiswife · 02/11/2025 19:18

My 2 girls (17 & 18) 2 friends (17 & 18) & youngest daughters boyfriend (17) all went out dressed up. However, they only go to look at the decorations people have out & hand out sweets to younger kids on the way. They only take sweets from certain houses who offer & insist but they then get added to the ones they hand out anyway. They just like to dress up & see all the decked out houses!!!

Wooky073 · 02/11/2025 19:10

I have no issue at all with teens / older teens doing trick or treating. They are still young and are just trying to join in the fun. No one knows whats going on in their lives. Ive seen some pathetic costumes and also some great ones from older kids. If they are willing to go to the effort of dressing up and knocking houses door to door im willing to reward with some treats. There is no harm in it. Restrictions and boundaries shouldnt be forced onto them by others. Ive never heard or believed that halloween is only for younger kids. I think the kids will decide themselves when they feel too old for it. All kids (older and younger) have been well behaved and polite.

Sickdissapointed · 02/11/2025 18:55

Last year, ages after our last group of children ,2 youths - at least 20 with plastic masks knocked at our door. I had run out of sweets / cakes. I did not feel comfortable offering anything at all tbh. I was flabbergasted when they said have you got any money !!!

I immediately pressed the button to let the dogs out and they left smartish.

Put us off taking part tbh.

Whyamiherenow · 02/11/2025 18:29

I think it depends. We took our little one out. He’s 3. We dressed in family matching costumes because that’s who we are. However there were lots of older teens out too. They were so lovely and so polite. They always let little one go to the door first and were really sweet and complimentary with him.

I don’t think there’s an upper age limit but I think there’s a politeness requirement.