I really do not like DH new look after having cosmetic surgery!

that's interesting, I have just had an upper bleph but because the skin was obscuring my eyesight. I can't imagine having it done if I didn't have loads of loose skin, it must feel really tight.

I don't wear much make up at all though - I wonder if people think I look weird.

Everyone has begun to look like AI and all exactly the same. Lovely individuality is disappearing.

Not to mention that when women with massive breasts have breast reduction surgery it is normally for genuine health reasons (eg reduce back problems) not for cosmetic reasons.

I think we should celebrate natural confidence and the PP who thinks it's good that people have the confidence to make themselves look better with surgery now is some sort of a good thing - utterly nuts.

I'm in a relationship, but if I was dating I think admitting to having had cosmetic surgery, saying you want it or having (for example) a face that really looks like it has had surgery would all be deal breakers. (And you can add tattoos to that list to).

I do think cosmetic surgery is being so normalised by social media that “upper bleph” & “deep plane facelift” will become part & parcel of ordinary ageing for our younger generations if we’re not careful.

That's for the individual to decide - it should be absolutely nothing to do with the law or anyone else.

OP can I suggest you think about how you would feel if you had the cosmentic surgery and he had a problem with it? If it was me I'd not even say i was struggling to get used to it, I suspect he's feeling a bit fragile about it.

I wouldn’t be able to keep my opinion secret. He was vain and stupid, and now he’s paying the price. I despise cosmetic surgery that’s done to try and turn back the clock. It’s fair enough if you have a specific feature that markedly differs from accepted norms and you find it distressing to live with (bat ears, massive/tiny breasts, huge nose etc). But I think it’s rather sad and pathetic when people whose features are perfectly fine, but ageing naturally, have expensive and risky surgery. You can’t turn back time, and a 50 year old who’s had surgery looks like a 50 year old who’s had surgery, not a 30 year old.

Is it an improvement if it harms or risks ending your relationship?

Is it an improvement if it harms or risks ending your relationship?

I think that having cosmetic surgery (to make ones basically normal self look better) suggests a willingness to take the risks of surgery in order to improve ones own mind (ie change your self image) or to change how others perceive you (because you care how they perceive you) could be regarded as demonstrative of poor mental health by definition.

I think having the confidence to not care how you look is clearly a sign of good mental health.

How is this even a question?

I think having cosmetic surgery to hide or eliminate a big defect (eg skin graft to hide a massive facial scar) is normal and not a sign of mental illness.

I think having cosmetic surgery when in a relationship and you have no idea how that is going to change your partners perception of you is nuts (and if your partner wants you to get bigger breasts or blow job lips then that's damn good reason to surgically remove yourself from the relationship).

So you think everyone who has cosmetic surgery is mentally unwell?

That's quite offensive if so.

I always think this look takes the friendly humour out of a man’s face. It’s like erasing a lifetime of laughs.

Wow. Rude.

I hadn’t looked at Bradley cooper til I saw this thread - he was so handsome, now he looks so unbelievably bad. What a world eh, where a man as rich and handsome as he is STILL feels the need to mess with their face. Maybe to keep up with his 30 yr old gf (I did not know he was dating Gigi Hadid…)

OP I don’t blame you for being sad - as a pp said, maybe he’ll be like Renee Zellweiger and it’ll drop over time - she looked totally different a few years ago but now looks more like herself again. I hope so for your sake. It’s difficult and I can see why you’re put off. But well done on him for making positive health changes on the weight loss.

I had it done years ago and loved/love it. It does take about a year to settle down, and I think I was a bit starey at first but that changed in time. He will settle into his new eyes soon enough.

Keep it to yourself! He can't do anything about it.

Give yourself time to get used to it, it won't be instant, but I bet in a few months it will be him all over again.

You might even prefer him that way. We have the luxury of being able to improve our appearance, well done to everybody who makes that step, life is too short!

I’d feel similar - I think it’s underestimated how much it can change a person. I guess the worst would be if he started to feel the same & then develop more insecurities. And that he may want to “fix” other aspects of his appearance cosmetically. I mean a new row of too big & too white teeth in comparison to their usual tooth size & shape, often don’t look great on a lot of people but they themselves feel all the better for them. Maybe because with most things they happen naturally over time, this is one that you will get used to & hopefully may drop a little. I’d feel the same though OP. It’s hard when what you see about a LO’s appearance, as alright as it is & what they see, can be so different.

Wow, Bradley Cooper now looks like Charlie Sheen. Not good.

I don't know what to tell you OP, how long does it take for the area to become baggy again? I am guessing with aging it will happen again? IS he happy?

bc looks awful was nothing wrong with his face

you cant really do much though you'll probably get used to ti as youre with him all the time

When the actress Pam Ferris had it done, it took every bit of character and ...dare I say it, beauty out of her face and just made her look generic and almost AI.

As he ages, it might reverse a bit though OP.

I completely understand what you’re saying but it’s still quite recent and so they probably look more extreme now.

You’re also so used to his other face that it’s a shock.
You’ll get more used to it.

You must say you like it though.
I’m sure there are things about your body of things you wear that aren’t the best but he would never say, especially with things you can’t change.

I looked at the photos of Bradley Cooper, the 'before' ones show a very handsome man with slight, really slight under eye bags.

There was no discernible improvement in his overall looks in the 'after' photo. Yes, the slight bags had gone but his eyes looked odd. And so did he.

I had jaw surgery to cure my sleep apnoea. It worked but I absolutely hate my face now. Not only do I look like a horse but it takes me ages to eat or even talking is an effort as my jaw feels so tight and prominent. I avoid photos and try not to look on the mirror and say a thank you everyday that my husband has never mentioned my face. I think I would be sent in despair if he did as I can't undo it. Please don't mention it to your husband.......

Look up Dr Subbio’s Instagram. He explains why men should never get an upper bleph.

I don’t think you should tell him you don’t like it but it is ok to say you’re struggling with the change. My DH had a drastic change to his appearance and it took me months to get over it. I still loved him but it was jarring and it took me a long time to get used to the new look.