I really do not like DH new look after having cosmetic surgery!

OP, please try not to worry - it’s still very early days after surgery, and your DH’s eyes will continue to settle over the next few weeks. I went through a disastrous upper blepharoplasty myself where too much skin was removed. I couldn’t fully close my eyes and the shape of them completely changed. But 18 months on, the skin has stretched, and my eyes both look and function much better. I’m sure your DH’s eyes will soften and improve over the coming weeks and months too.

No, some of my friends have had brilliant ones. Their eyes look exactly like they used to. They did spend a small fortune with London surgeons, though.

Agree with everyone else - YANBU but it'd be madness to say anything harsher than "You look amazing, very different though! I'm still getting used to it."

I keep seeing women on TV who've clearly had a bit too much taken out of their upper eyelids. They look kind of haunted, with big eyes in cavernous sockets. It will still settle a bit, though, OP, and ageing will continue.

I sympathize, I would hate for my DH to change anything about his face but especially his eyes, those are what makes him, HIM. I look into those eyes every single day.

I’m sorry OP but this isn’t about you, it’s about what makes your DH happy. Why would you hurt him by saying anything?!?!

I had upper eyelid surgery in 2023 because it was affecting my vision, especially on the right eye so both were done so I would look even. I looked excessively wide eyed after and I didn’t like the look of it at first but after 6 months it looked much better and now 2 years later that wide eye look has gone and my eyes look normal, just without any sagging skin.

For the people commenting about being mentally ill to have it done? I just can’t agree, the fold of skin used to get sore, dry, swollen- it even split once in very cold weather. It was definitely a medical need even though I had to pay for it privately.

Just googled BC - yikes imagine those intense eyes staring across the breakfast table. Sorry OP but you’ll just have to get used to it. Buy him some nice shades for Christmas.

I have a friend who had the eyes done along with a full face lift and i was the same….i thought she looked weird and hated it. However i think its your brain just adjusting to the change, after about a year (and it was as long as that), i forgot how she looked before and she looks amazing now (20 years later!!)

I understand its difficult for you but it cannot be undone. No point in being neggy openly as it will impact his self confidence which is new and fragile. At most say it will take you a little while to get used to it - and it probably will take a while. But you will get use to it. Meanwhile he will continue to age and probably the folds and bags will return. No one stays looking their same throughout their lives. Thats nature regardless of surgical interventions.

Once he puts a bit of weight back on, he should look better.

@cinnamontroll this is a very valid point!! Can you imagine if your DH discovered how you really feel about his surgery by seeing it in the DM?! Not knocking you for seeking support & posting - just unfortunately as @Dery says, the DM use it for stories.

And Catherine Zeta jones has lost one of her features. I don’t like it either, they look like mannequins and just don’t look like them anymore.

I hope you didn’t speak to your patients like that.

it can take months to settle down. He will get a bit of relaxation of the lids.

I think that was a mistype. The poster seems to be saying that she wouldn't say they were mentally ill - not would - but they were insecure and sometimes coerced into procedures.

It’s so sad.

I sincerely hope you are not obese, or smoke, or eat rubbish food or diabetic, if so you should be dumped by the NHS. I work in vascular and its these people who are crushing the NHS with their lifelong, self inflicted problems not the odd facelift that has gone wrong.

What nonsense, I too worked in plastics for years at East Grinstead. I am certainly not mentally ill, Im single and don't want a partner again and have nobody influencing me yet here I am having a deep plane face and neck lift. Im sick of my turkey neck and how it digs into the neckline of everything I wear.
There is nothing wrong with wanting to look good for my age, for me.
Your attitude is dangerously patronising. How dare you say we are all mentally ill.
Do you wear nice clothes? Don't be so vain, get the sack cloth out.
I've also had a breast uplift without implants and Im very happy with it.

Those are captioned wrongly.

ooh you would die at our family - eye lift, boobs, nose job, pstotis ( that is between four of us so far)

Had to google. I don’t see the diff in the pics of brad tbh

regards your dh. Don’t say anything. It can’t be changed and if he’s happy with it , then all that matters

@cinnamontroll

As PP have said, it will likely relax over time. You can’t say anything negative to your DH about it beyond saying you’re still getting used to it.

On another note, some tabloid journalists trawl MN for stories and the details you have posted are quite identifying so you might want to see if MN HQ will delete your post.

i wish people didn’t feel the need to get their eyes done. A school mum had it done and she looked so wide eyed afterwards. The irony was that she was absolutely stunning before the procedure. The procedure made her look scary.

mentally ill?