I really do not like DH new look after having cosmetic surgery!

His decision was never just going to be based on what OP though so - my reply still stands. He made an informed choice based on facts. OPs reaction is not a fact & she hasn’t even given survey time to settle.

Not seen anything about her having cosmetic procedures- how would we know? Apart from her hair I havent noticed her looking any different or better. What are the rumours?

I completely understand. I felt the same when DH injured his face resulting a big, permanent scar - I absolutely hated it & it took absolutely AGES for me to be able to look at him without feeling intense rage!

He looks like a cross between Simon Cowell and Rasputin!

Definition of informed choice
(of a decision or judgement) based on an understanding of the facts of the situation.

Are you saying that he was fully informed about the possibility that his partner would find him deeply weird looking or unattractive after surgery, and that some people see evidence of cosmetic surgery as a depressing reminder of vanity or mental illness in the victim of predatory cosmetic surgeons?

It’s a bit dark but he looks like family members of mine in the chapel of rest now.

That’s not what informed choice is my love xxxx

@CoolFineDoneWicked, I'd imagine it's got more to do with the brief to the surgeon. As PPs have noted, freshly bug-eyed celebs seem happy enough so they probably asked to have their eyes 'opened up' or to look 'wide awake'.

Meanwhile, people cannot help but comment how much better does Kate Middleton look after all the recent and less recent cosmetic surgeries she's having.

If she's the one proving how to do it right, keep it light and natural, but how much better and younger does she look.

mentally well people don't mind aging 😂
brilliant

Stay away from hairdressers, teeth whitening, beauty salons and any beauty treatment if you like, it does not make you the only one mentally well, quite the opposite.

because the (HORRIBLE) pressure on others to meet ridiculous beauty standands
It was always obvious THIS was your issue. You are jealous and bitter, and staying "natural" is not making you look good in comparison with everybody else. How sad for you.

I googled Bradley Cooper, his entire face looks different and unattractive compared to before imo.

https://www.google.com/amp/s/www.dailymail.co.uk/health/article-15195205/amp/Why-does-Bradley-Cooper-look-different-Plastic-surgeon-gives-verdict-Oscar-winning-stars-taut-visage.html

I adore my husband's sleepy sexy eyes and I'd be devastated if he altered them. I guess it's about knowing he's happier even if you're upset. If he'd lost a limb you'd probably feel the same. He's the same person underneath and you just have to come to terms with the difference.

fear people may be also thinking this about him or talking behind his back about it.

The same way you are? People will probably talk whether it looks good, bad or different.

Why would you accept that your body is imperfect if you can change it?

Because all surgeries and other cosmetic procedures carry risks, because mentally well people don't mind aging and not being perfect, and because the (HORRIBLE) pressure on others to meet ridiculous beauty standands are increased the more people have stupid lips and turkey teeth.

Why should you resign yourself to age the worst way possible?

Looking older as you get older is natural. Please get mental health support.

My best life will get lived not wating time under the knife or recovering ort wasting money trying to look better and ending up looking stupid.

Just talk to his nose!

You are not being any less ridiculous the more you go on.

Why would you accept that your body is imperfect if you can change it? Why should you resign yourself to age the worst way possible? Life is too short for that. It must be a depressing life if you don't try to have the best life you possibly can, financially, at work and physically by being and looking the best you can.

One is refusing to accept that your body is not in a wheelchair.
and how would a body in a wheelchair be an improvement in any way? Are you insane?

I had to google Bradley Cooper. The photos are a good example of what you were trying to explain. It's not hard to pick which pic is more recent

I'm not anti cosmetic surgery in the least but I would NEVER have an upper bleph.

Lower bleph and endoscopic brow lift yes, but I’d never touch my upper lids.

I think it’s just a case of giving it time. It’ll probably settle and become less obvious, and you’ll also get used to it. I don’t think there’s anything to be gained by saying something. To be honest I’d just be grateful it all went well - I’ve seen some nasty complications from that surgery!

I had this done a few years ago. Although the swelling and bruising goes in a few weeks it takes around a year to see the fully finished look. You will find it does settle down. I started with a lot of lower eyelid on show and over the year it slowly settled. The startled look will fade.

Was OPs husband's choice informed? I don't think it was - he was not informed about what his partners reaction would be, because he could not possibly have been.

It's not exactly the same, but it is not completely different either.

One is refusing to accept that your body is imperfect or aging.

One is refusing to accept that your body is not in a wheelchair.

You are sick. BY definition I would have to be incredibly mentally ill to want to become wheelchair bound, and I cannot think of much worse that making a mentally ill person disabled because you are too cowardly to say "no" to an insane idea.

Well, there are three possibilities here:

1. your friends have indeed managed to find the holy grail of surgeons who can turn back the clock, as opposed to make people look the age they are, but with a slightly weird surgery-smoothness
2. Bradley Cooper and all the Hollywood stars use cheap surgeons (maybe they go to Turkey?)
3. Your social circle is so accustomed to having surgery that you can't see that everyone looks a little bit off

I can see your struggle, my husband shaved his beard once and I didn't want to kiss him because he didn't look like my husband.

If you're behaving differently and feel like you need to share them maybe you could say you're still getting used to it. I would avoid saying you don't like it, that's quite hurtful.

I do think you will get used to it though.