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Andrew and social services

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autumnfallingleaves · 01/11/2025 08:30

AIBU to wonder if social care have become involved with Andrew Mountbatten’s daughters and Grandchildren? And if not, why not?
he’s clearly a sex offender of a very young woman and I’m not sure but possibly a paedophile. I guess he’s not been charged with anything as yet so that probably answers my question. Just sitting here and thinking about how different life would be for him if he’d lived in an ordinary family

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TheLocust · 01/11/2025 13:46

Phoenix1Arisen · 01/11/2025 12:15

What a pity that those screaming loudest in this witch-hunt haven't noticed what Sophie, Duchess of Edinburgh was doing during October in the Democratic Republic of Congo.

Perhaps if those people were to transfer their passion about not proven allegations (of admittedly sleazy behaviour) to provable, demonstrable fact, the unleashed fury would actually achieve something worthwhile.

See also Dr Denis Mukwege.

I don't understand. Please could you explain what you mean? Was there some scandal?

PaisleyGilmourStreet · 01/11/2025 13:17

This Andrew debacle is horrific. Paying £12m to someone he claims never to have met - do we know yet how he funded that settlement? And why does he think it's acceptable to refuse to answer questions in the US??? He should be falling over himself to answer and clarify matters, because isn't the very purpose of the royal family to set example, to be figureheads of integrity and propriety? If not, then what is the friggin point of them!?

I've always been a low key royalist, but i'm absolutely sick of the lot of them now. The level of privilege afforded them is entirely inappropriate in the modern age. I've tried to like king charles, but I just find him grumpy and cold. And both his sons seem to share his arrogant and detached manner. And the king is planning now on putting Andrew up at one of his palatial homes and bank rolling him? Nah.

lifeonmars100 · 01/11/2025 13:14

MidnightPatrol · 01/11/2025 09:40

I don’t think social services would become involved because an adult had consensual sex with someone over the age of consent.

He’s gross, but there’s nothing to suggest he’s a paedophile and a risk to children.

Virgina was trafficked so she could not consent. Here is a basic explanation of the lawConsent is irrelevant for a determination of human trafficking, as traffickers often use deception, coercion, or violence to gain a person's agreement. Even if a victim initially agreed to travel or work, that consent is legally negated if it was obtained through means that led to their exploitation. A person can be considered a victim of trafficking even if they are an adult and may have "consented" to their travel, as exploitation is the key factor. Due to her traumatic childhood she was a very vulnerable person and Maxwell and Epstein were very adept at targeting and recruiting young girls and women. I don't know about you but I find the fact that Andrew guessed her age as it was similar to his daughters' stomach churning

Illegally18 · 01/11/2025 13:05

MidnightPatrol · 01/11/2025 09:46

I don’t think that has been proven…

She was young and vulnerable and probably didn’t know what she was getting herself into - and no doubt was exploited.

But - I don’t think there’s any evidence that he knowingly trafficked her to the UK, or coerced her into it.

The whole thing is very grubby and I feel sorry for her, but there isn’t really any evidence he’s broken the law nor is a paedophile. Unacceptable conduct for someone in his position, yes.

If there was evidence of criminality - he would have been prosecuted. He hasn’t, because there isn’t.

Edited

I agree

OneBadKitty · 01/11/2025 13:02

YourAmplePlumPoster · 01/11/2025 12:56

They're an unsavoury family all round. Prince Phillip consorting with Stephen Ward and his circle in the Harley Street flat. His uncle Mountbatten and his alleged activities in a Northern Ireland care home for boys. Princess Margaret, an abusive drunk and her ex Snowden and his antics. QE2's uncle who abdicated and consorted with Nazis. Princess Ann slept with Parker Bowles the same time as Camilla. Then the RF duping an innocent young virgin Diana into being a brood mare with a man who had no intention of honouring his marriage vows.

😂@ princess Diana being portrayed as an innocent young virgin who was duped by the Royal family.

YourAmplePlumPoster · 01/11/2025 12:56

They're an unsavoury family all round. Prince Phillip consorting with Stephen Ward and his circle in the Harley Street flat. His uncle Mountbatten and his alleged activities in a Northern Ireland care home for boys. Princess Margaret, an abusive drunk and her ex Snowden and his antics. QE2's uncle who abdicated and consorted with Nazis. Princess Ann slept with Parker Bowles the same time as Camilla. Then the RF duping an innocent young virgin Diana into being a brood mare with a man who had no intention of honouring his marriage vows.

BoredZelda · 01/11/2025 12:51

OneBadKitty · 01/11/2025 12:43

Never heard of her? Do you live under a rock? - she's the wife of Andrew's brother Edward! How have you not heard of her? And it is very relevant!

Edited

The cynic in me suggests it’s great PR to have a working Royal championing the cause against sexual violence in war, at a time where the Monarchy is mired in a sexual scandal. The very savvy press teams would be aware of that.

But, better she’s there than not, I guess.

OneBadKitty · 01/11/2025 12:50

Andrew is a scumbag but he's unlikely to be a paedophile. He's just a bloke who (allegedly) slept with a pretty young girl because he was presented with the opportunity and she was readily available. There would be a hell of a lot of men who would have done the same in his position.

Portsmouthnappies · 01/11/2025 12:48

JLou08 · 01/11/2025 12:21

No, social services would not be getting involved if he was an ordinary man. There's nothing to suggest he is a pedophile and his children are adults. This isn't a defence of him, if what is reported is true he is disgusting but there's no role for social services.

Hi, there would probably be an assessment on any under 18s he has/had access to. This would be standard with any allegations, regardless of police investigation/convictions.

InLoveWithAI · 01/11/2025 12:47

AnAlpacaForChristmasPleaseSanta · 01/11/2025 10:28

This is nothing, on one of the other Andrew threads someone tried to claim that he had also been groomed by Epsteine and was every inch a victim as Virginia Giuffre.

Ah. We're not dealing with sane people.

I forget how the royal chat threads can be.

Muffinmam · 01/11/2025 12:46

The problem is the firm buried any investigation. He’s never had his electronic media reviewed. Because there were no charges he’s got away with what he did.

He’s untouchable.

We need to all be vocal for an end to the British monarchy. It’s time.

BoredZelda · 01/11/2025 12:46

dottiehens · 01/11/2025 12:41

Are you also as worried about Virginia G father who raped her according to her? there is not proof of the things you are saying. I couldn’t care less about Andrew but the obsession is beyond the charts.

Is her father still in the line of succession to the throne? Did his actions threaten the monarchical structure of the U.K and risk throwing us into a constitutional crisis? Was it part of a trafficking ring which has involved some of the most powerful people across the world?

3IATLAS · 01/11/2025 12:44

Portsmouthnappies · 01/11/2025 12:44

Would need a detailed forensic assessment to work out the risk. My view is that there are allegations that he has sex with a exploited minor. I would think that noone is off the table for him.

Totally agree

Portsmouthnappies · 01/11/2025 12:44

Blanketpolicy · 01/11/2025 12:28

Bit of a leap to go from the reported information that he likes young women and not caring if they are trafficked or prostituted for him (which is bad enough and deserves imo further investigation/criminal charges against him) and being a paedophile (prepubescent children)

Would need a detailed forensic assessment to work out the risk. My view is that there are allegations that he has sex with a exploited minor. I would think that noone is off the table for him.

3IATLAS · 01/11/2025 12:43

At the very least all his devices need checking by the police in case he ever dipped below girls who were over 16 but looked a lot younger.

OneBadKitty · 01/11/2025 12:43

Pharazon · 01/11/2025 12:22

Never heard of her and I doubt many others have either. Completely irrelevant to the topic at hand.

Never heard of her? Do you live under a rock? - she's the wife of Andrew's brother Edward! How have you not heard of her? And it is very relevant!

BoredZelda · 01/11/2025 12:42

sesquipedalian · 01/11/2025 09:56

“he’s clearly a sex offender of a very young woman and I’m not sure but possibly a paedophile.”

I’ve never read such nonsense.

  1. At seventeen, it is not illegal to have a sexual relationship.
  2. He denies the allegations.
  3. He is not and has never been accused of being a paedophile.

What on earth would “social care” have to do with his adult daughters and their husbands? Quite apart from the fact that one of his daughters lives abroad, don’t you think they’re quite capable of looking after their own children? It has never, ever been suggested that Prince Andrew is anything other than a devoted father and grandfather. As for “thinking about how different life would be for him if he’d lived in an ordinary family”, all of our lives would have been different had we lived in a different family. Prince Andrew has been shown to be entitled and ill-advised, but the witch hunt against him, and the baying mob howling for retribution is nothing short of vindictive.

Even if he did not know at the time, he knows now. He, at the very least, knows there is a chance the rumours are true. He has names, dates, locations. He is a font of information that could allow a proper investigation put this thing to bed one way or another.

Whether he had sex with Virginia is largely irrelevant. He now knows what she claims she endured at the hands of Epstein. If Epstein was his friend, he should want to do that to clear Epstein’s name. He could do that whilst still protesting his innocence. He could do the decent thing and make a statement that supports the victims of abuse, that he is saddened about what happened to Virginia and if it turns out she was in fact trafficked by his friend for sex, that he abhors what he did.

Andrew has never done that. Now that he has been freed from the shackles of the Royal Family, and his role in protecting the firm has been removed, he should be entirely able to do that. I can’t fathom what his reasons would be not to do that, if he is indeed innocent of ever knowing anything.

dottiehens · 01/11/2025 12:41

Are you also as worried about Virginia G father who raped her according to her? there is not proof of the things you are saying. I couldn’t care less about Andrew but the obsession is beyond the charts.

Portsmouthnappies · 01/11/2025 12:41

Hi, I am a child and family social worker. In circumstances like this, a referral woukd be made, usually from police. Social workers would assess and work with the family, usually safety planning, such as a safe parent (usually the mother) would ensure children are not left alone with alleged perpetrator. It doesmt matter if there is a conviction or not.

Blanketpolicy · 01/11/2025 12:28

Bit of a leap to go from the reported information that he likes young women and not caring if they are trafficked or prostituted for him (which is bad enough and deserves imo further investigation/criminal charges against him) and being a paedophile (prepubescent children)

twosandwiches · 01/11/2025 12:28

Horrible, pompous, entitled man who didn’t stop to think that a clearly trafficked teenager might not want to have sex with him - yes.

Guilty of sleeping with countless women under the same circumstances - probably.

A paedophile posing a threat to children - no evidence whatsoever.

Pharazon · 01/11/2025 12:22

Phoenix1Arisen · 01/11/2025 12:15

What a pity that those screaming loudest in this witch-hunt haven't noticed what Sophie, Duchess of Edinburgh was doing during October in the Democratic Republic of Congo.

Perhaps if those people were to transfer their passion about not proven allegations (of admittedly sleazy behaviour) to provable, demonstrable fact, the unleashed fury would actually achieve something worthwhile.

See also Dr Denis Mukwege.

Never heard of her and I doubt many others have either. Completely irrelevant to the topic at hand.

Elizabethandfour · 01/11/2025 12:21

TheignT · 01/11/2025 11:03

Do you know any pedophiles? They don't come with a sign so you might not know.

Give me a break. Everyone knew Saville was a paedo. You think Charles’s highly sophisticated security team had no idea? What was the attraction I wonder? The Royals are huge snobs and Saville was so uncouth.

Also Charles’s favourite uncle was another one.

Something rotten in the state of Denmark.

JLou08 · 01/11/2025 12:21

No, social services would not be getting involved if he was an ordinary man. There's nothing to suggest he is a pedophile and his children are adults. This isn't a defence of him, if what is reported is true he is disgusting but there's no role for social services.

cardibach · 01/11/2025 12:19

neverbeenskiing · 01/11/2025 09:44

Aren't his daughters adult women in their 30's??

Were they always? Born that age were they?