Awful neighbours or me? Finally moving

Ah, the woman in your street sounds a bit like an elderly woman who lives opposite my parents. Her husband used to be a local councillor, and died a few years ago now. She has cameras on her own property overlooking a proportion of the road - nothing wrong in that - other than she uses the footage to ask intrusive questions to other neighbours, including my parents. It's almost as if she thinks she's special because her husband was a councillor (by all accounts not a very good one from what I've heard!) and she's 'Queen Bee' of the road, poking her nose into other people's business. We had a woman with 3 children living in a rented house that backed onto ours - her youngest would be outside shouting/screaming at 6.30 am whilst in the garden and she'd be telling her mates on loudspeaker on her phone, the latest drama in her life (of which there was a lot!) whilst sat in the garden. The child isn't SEN, he's noisy because Mum spends all her time glued to her phone, whilst chain smoking, and he's ignored. So I have sympathy for you OP. Be grateful you are moving and hope your new neighbours will be more considerate and respectful.

How long until you move ?

I don’t find this normal conversation - but I do think a lot of people have very different boundaries. You might share this as you get to know someone but this woman is asking for specific details - the reason they moved there? What actual company she works for? Why her husband is away? Why is it any of her business? None of the info is necessary for her to know, she’s already answered her own questions pretty much anyway & according to OP she uses it as information to gossip about her behind her back. I think we’ve all been on the receiving end of nosy busy body’s who pump you for information that doesn’t feel conversational & more an information finding exercise for them.

That really does prove you are not the only one that thinks this neighbour is a complete pain and pest. I think you were wise to not get caught up in it or say why you were moving. I wish you all the best in your new home OP it will be a weight off your shoulders.

I wish you every happiness in your new home.

It's difficult to get a managed move unless the ASB involves repeated police reports.

I haven't read the whole thread but the Ring doorbell recording you could be a breach of GDPR or harassment. There's some useful information on this page:
https://www.medwayadvice.org.uk/news/smart-doorbells-cctv-and-tenant-rights

Is that not normal neighbourly conversation?

Still at it? Tedious.

if you’re moving to private, the HA doesn’t view your reasons for the move as such that they will authorise and support a move to another HA property presumably?

Op I'm in your position I have a housing association new build well now 4 years old lived here since it was built and neighbours are neighbours from hell I literally don't talk to them never have suffer ptsd myself due to previous dv and still having issues now literally graffiti sprayed on my wall recently and contacted police who said no evidence no witness tough shit basically giving up my house in December to leave the hell and people will say oh you going private it wont be cheap lol my housing association is £850 a month I'm not in a city or major town either

People dont really understand unless they live next to a feral family however 13years ago I left a dv relationship moved and my neighbour complained constantly she said my bin was overflowing attracting rats , I sent pictures of said bin and the fact between us 6 cats were there ! She posted on a local group my son was left screaming in bed on a night when we co slept the final straw was her reporting my mams staffy as a pit bull when he was in every way shape and frm the definition of a staffy I bred him myself 🙄 i left after less than a year .

Overdone cabbage has overdone her point.
Ignore the negaive posts op, good luck with your move.

don't listen to the posters attacking you. there are a lot of weirdo / incel / red pill men and odd women here. you are not the issue. the neighbour most certainly is and has no concept of boundaries.

Yes.
Two thoughts: guns are bad, and annoying kids can make someone's life hell.

And not just any HA property

a brand spanking new property!

Op, I pointed out the previous thread because the responses there were pretty unanimous that this woman who was acting in a similar way to your neighbour was definitely the problem. Don't give her another inch if headspace. Life is to short to put up with shitty neighbours.

Or feared. I used to work in social housing, on some estates families who are long time residents rule the roost. They can make other residents’ lives uncomfortable. Sounds like there’s some of that going on.

I worked with residents’ groups, some were really community minded, and did their best for their neighbourhoods. Other groups struggled because of factions within. Excluding one neighbour from a community group is unpleasant IMO.

As a HO though I would potentially write a letter reminding residents that all occupants and visitors should be aware of their actions so as not to disturb their neighbours particularly early morning or evenings.

That they should not enter other people’s property including driveways and gardens nor allow other things to do.

I would also remind them that Ring door bells are subject to the domestic cctv regulations and be positioned so the CCTV to minimises intrusion into neighbours’ and other people’s privacy.

https://www.gov.uk/government/publications/domestic-cctv-using-cctv-systems-on-your-property/domestic-cctv-using-cctv-systems-on-your-property

I would also consider mediation if both parries were amendable.

Honestly, some people are just tossers. I would stop trying to fathom her out because they are just tossers! You're outta there and hopefully your new place will bring you some much needed peace.

You are giving up a secure social housing tenancy to move into private rental because of these issues?

I can tell you that may well be a bad move. You have no security of tenure, you don’t have the protection of reasonable rent nor do you have the services of a HA who deal with serious ASB.

Honestly it’s been a year. Kids grow up and shout less, put some boundaries in place, focus on what you can control and don’t let the other neighbours bother you.

I lived with some serious harrassment from our neighbour until a conviction and I stayed put until a suitable social housing property was secured. I wasn’t going into private rent.

Ps most of these issues do sound like lifestyle rather than asb. New estates also take a while to bed in.