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"watch your lip"

119 replies

Dogmama991 · 31/10/2025 21:06

So context: I WFH all day, did 2 hours of dog walks, gym then went food shop - didn't stop all day. Partner was off work, slept til 11am, played video games all day with friends until 7.30 when dinner was about ready.

We sat down for dinner (grazing Infront of TV) and afterwards when I finished (he was still eating but a picky dinner). I picked up my.phone to text my sister back. He gave me a very obvious scowl (a well known look for me to get off my phone) and I said to him "I am texting my sister back quickly, I think that's fair and you've been chatting to friends all day". His response was to "watch my lip". I feel f*cking annoyed tbh. Like it's ok for him to do what he likes but I'm a child to be told off but maybe I am seeing it irrationally. AIBU?

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NewGirlInTown · 01/11/2025 04:45

Men playing computer games all day give me the absolute ick.
‘watch your lip’ guy would be booted out of my life. How dare he?

Keroppi · 01/11/2025 03:47

If he gets worse when you attempt to rebalanced and address the situation then you have your answer.

Beekman · 01/11/2025 03:47

Fuck him, he’s your partner, not your dad. Sounds like a dickhead.

Keroppi · 01/11/2025 03:46

Or what?
I would never let my partner speak to me like that, especially if he was sat on his arse all day. Where's your backbone? Time to readdress the power imbalance in your relationship and stop letting him take you for a mug. Argue back, ignore him shooting you looks, ask him why he's looking at you like that, why he's saying that, when he's taking the dog out etc..

He is controlling you and you're making his life easier to do it. Wake up call time!

Darragon · 01/11/2025 03:41

Friendlygingercat · 01/11/2025 01:29

Its the kind of expression a lower class oik would have used back in my parents day.

Yes the 1980s called, it wants OP’s ‘d’p back.

Jumpingthruhoops · 01/11/2025 03:37

Noorandapples · 31/10/2025 21:09

He'd be getting a slipper flying at his head in my house

As usual, first response nails it! 👏👏

Gair · 01/11/2025 01:40

He does not sound like a kind partner at all! Does he bring lots of positives you have not mentioned to the relationship? If not, I would be wondering why I was with him if I were in your shoes.

Good luck!

Friendlygingercat · 01/11/2025 01:29

Its the kind of expression a lower class oik would have used back in my parents day.

WallaceinAnderland · 31/10/2025 23:25

He asked me what was happening with shops and dog which usually means he wants me to sort.

What did you say when he asked you?

Redpeach · 31/10/2025 23:22

He sounds like a keeper

GingerPaste · 31/10/2025 23:00

Dogmama991 · 31/10/2025 22:32

No he was off work to do a hobby thing that didn't happen . He then was just absorbed on video games and it was just assumed I'd sort the rest. He asked me what was happening with shops and dog which usually means he wants me to sort.

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He’s a lazy arse then!? It doesn’t sound like a very balanced relationship. It’s probably time to have a good think about whether this is any good for you…

Redrosesposies · 31/10/2025 22:52

Why do you think that being on your phone is a bit rude yet you don't seem to think that him lazing about and gaming for most of the day isn't?
Watch your lip is a threat.
Open your eyes @Dogmama991

Givenupshopping · 31/10/2025 22:49

That's the sort of thing that my Dad would have said to me as a teen, and I knew that if I pushed my luck any further, a smack round the ear would have been the next thing on the agenda.

Unless this is a one off OP, I agree with everyone else, you should consider leaving before the threat becomes a reality, men only use this phrase when promising violence in my experience.

InterestedDad37 · 31/10/2025 22:44

Objectrelations · 31/10/2025 22:42

Watch your lip sounds horribly threatening to me

Yes it does. There's an implied threat of (at least) aggression to follow, if not violence.

Objectrelations · 31/10/2025 22:42

Watch your lip sounds horribly threatening to me

Oblahdeeoblahdoe · 31/10/2025 22:37

LuckyCharmz · 31/10/2025 21:10

That’s the sort of thing my dad would have said to me as a teen. Not a partner.

Exactly! Who the fuck does he think he is?
Kick him out!

GertrudePerkinsPaperyThing · 31/10/2025 22:35

What? He said that to you, his partner?

There’s no context or background or information of any kind you could give that doesn’t end with - leave this horrible man.

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Dogmama991 · 31/10/2025 22:32

WallaceinAnderland · 31/10/2025 21:56

Did you choose to do the dog walking and shopping OP, or did you want him to do it? I don't understand why you are annoyed at him doing nothing if you were doing what you wanted to do.

No he was off work to do a hobby thing that didn't happen . He then was just absorbed on video games and it was just assumed I'd sort the rest. He asked me what was happening with shops and dog which usually means he wants me to sort.

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RememberBeKindWithKaren · 31/10/2025 22:28

Why are you with him? He sounds horrible. Is he controlling you ? Surely you would want to get out of the relationship. I don't follow why you are with him.

LeafyMcLeafFace · 31/10/2025 21:57

Nah fuck off. You’re presumably an adult? In which case, if you want to go on your phone that’s your choice.

‘watch your lip’ - fuck the fuck off. He’d be out on his ear.

WallaceinAnderland · 31/10/2025 21:56

Did you choose to do the dog walking and shopping OP, or did you want him to do it? I don't understand why you are annoyed at him doing nothing if you were doing what you wanted to do.

AutumnCosy2025 · 31/10/2025 21:54

Dogmama991 · 31/10/2025 21:06

So context: I WFH all day, did 2 hours of dog walks, gym then went food shop - didn't stop all day. Partner was off work, slept til 11am, played video games all day with friends until 7.30 when dinner was about ready.

We sat down for dinner (grazing Infront of TV) and afterwards when I finished (he was still eating but a picky dinner). I picked up my.phone to text my sister back. He gave me a very obvious scowl (a well known look for me to get off my phone) and I said to him "I am texting my sister back quickly, I think that's fair and you've been chatting to friends all day". His response was to "watch my lip". I feel f*cking annoyed tbh. Like it's ok for him to do what he likes but I'm a child to be told off but maybe I am seeing it irrationally. AIBU?

Well first off I want to say I'm deeply envious if your energy level!

he would be an EX if he spoke to me like that & im as soft as soap about breaking up with people. But that lazy bastard thinking he could talk to me like that...NO FUCKING WAY !

ibuprofenhead · 31/10/2025 21:49

What are the good points about this charming man?

Rhaidimiddim · 31/10/2025 21:46

GrannyAchingsShepherdsHut · 31/10/2025 21:40

Watch your lip?

?!?!

No. I'd have asked him who the fuck he thinks he is! That's outrageous.

He clearly thinks he's 'in charge' and can order you around, while he apparently sits on his arse for a day and does fuck all.

Honestly, I'd tell him I've had enough of his 'lip' and he can fuck off, I wouldn't sit there and be spoken to like that in my own home by anyone. How dare he. There'd be no coming back from that for me, it just shows a complete contempt for you that I wouldn't be able to get past.

This.

ilovesooty · 31/10/2025 21:43

Whatever the context he has no right to talk to you like that.