"watch your lip"

A man who can't walk his own dog is not worth the time of day. You know it OP.

He is gaslighting.

I’d have told him to fuck off for reprimanding me for using my phone and I’d have told him to fuck off he’s a cheeky twat for telling me to watch my lip. Probably why I’m single 😂

It’s an awful phrase- like ‘get back in your box’ or something-

WTF is going on with the stories of such appalling disfunctional relationships.

This is someone telling you what they think of you and how they think you deserve to be treated. Listen.

You KNOW you’re not being unreasonable so what do you want people to say?

A couple of questions.... 🤔

What the actual FUCK did I just read? I would have snapped back.. "who the fuck do you think you're talking to like that, not in this house mate!"

Who the FUCK voted that YABU? 🤦‍♀️

I would stop wiping his arse and have a good long think about your options. 😠 😡 😤
Seriously, it starts off this way and they either back track like it's a joke, or they get offended (like you're somehow criticising them for holding their actions accountable) and get pissy that you have made a big deal out of it etc.

Basically he's behaving like a fucking shitty wank stain. 🤢
Edited to say, that personally I would get rid 💯

So, what did he say then? You are being evasive.

That is a threat.

He definitely does sound scary. This is one case where I most definitely, certainly would LTB. He has no respect for you, and he thinks he is your owner.

Honestly OP I find this rather chilling. I think you're living around him to a degree you haven't let yourself realise. He asks you about the dog etc and you already know he "expects you to sort" things. You look over your shoulder guiltily when you pick up your phone as your phone use in general is something he doesn't like. And "Watch your lip" as a casual joke has such a dark threat behind it, but is so plausibly deniable. It makes the hairs on my neck stand up.

There is something about the way you are so matter of fact about jumping to his commands, that makes me feel you are down the rabbit hole of coercive control without knowing.

Please keep talking to us here, tell us about other aspects of your life, let us know if you are walking on eggshells all the time, as that's what it looks like. Lots of women have started the process of reflection here on MN and in AIBU, and it's a friendly place really, even if outspoken.

And if you're not in that situation - all good! That is great, you'll be able to reassure us and yourself, and know that his behaviour today was a one off.

That's why I asked @Deadringer

OP said: He asked me what was happening with shops and dog which usually means he wants me to sort.

So I asked: What did you say when he asked you?

And OP didn't respond. I think OP is being unreasonable here because we are only get bits and pieces of a confused story. Yes, she chose to walk the dog and do the shopping. What I am trying to ascertain is why. OP doesn't expand on that.

Doing what she wanted to do? Or doing stuff that needed to be done, after she finished work? I think i can safely bet a million pounds that if op hadn't done them, they wouldn't have been done.

Well he is clearly a piece of shit, why haven't you dumped him yet?

OP, I think that maybe you have been surprised to have received so many responses telling you to leave him, which is why you want to have a discussion about it. If this IS a comment which he's never made before, (frankly I doubt it) and he doesn't normally speak to you in this way, I might be inclined to talk to him about it, and make it crystal clear that it is unacceptable, and that if he ever speaks to you, or threatens you in ANY way in future, it will be the very last time, as you'll be leaving, or he will, with your boot up his backside. However, if he has spoken to you like this previously, and always treats you with such a lack of respect, then I would be using this weekend to arrange for somewhere else to live, as staying with someone who speaks to you like this, is likely to lead to violence and misery, so don't waste your life waiting for this to happen, see him for what he is, and get rid.

"No" is a full sentence.

(have only read OPs posts)

There's a typo in your title, OP: surely you meant ex-DP?

He is not your dad, you can be on your phone as much or as little as you want. He does not get to dictate, and you feeling that you have to justify that you are replying to your sister? no.

ETA: you don't need a discussion. You don'T need to say "I'm off if you speak to me like that again". You need to get your things together and go.

I don’t think you will swiftly be going anywhere OP.
It appears he treats you awfully and you let him going by his actions before he told you off like a child.
Are you afraid of him?
Is he the boss of you and you daren’t tell him to do one?
Or is this a one off and totally out of character for him?

My response would be 'well you need to watch your fucking mouth'. And I wouldn't hesitate. And then I would have a go at him for speaking to me like that.
Is there a reason you would not be able to respond back like that to him speaking to you like that? If so then I would be thinking about why you would feel unable to be forthright and if he is controlling and emotionally abusive.

Yes exactly hes talking to you Luke a child and letting you clean and cook dinner!

“Watch your lip (or else)!” Get it OP!

LTB and I never say that !

Threads like these make me so embarrassed to be a woman. Just yet another post with another desperate woman who will stay in a relationship with anyone no matter what. Just stay with him and do as your told op you need to apologise and beg for his forgiveness then hand over your phone to him until he let's you use it again like a good little girl.

This! You say “you honestly don’t know”.

1. You felt upset enough to post on MN
2. His comment upset and or disturbed you
3. It’s got nothing to do with your phone use or texting your DSis (although he has no right to control your phone use)

Don’t let any man talk to you like that!
Now you do know! Apologies if I sound harsh, but I am raging for/with you.