I don’t think I’m BU but what the fuck do I do now

Cocaine and heroin are not bedpals. Crack cocaine and heroin, yes, but not cocaine.
Cocaine is common in wealthy circles as a recreational drug. But whilst working from home? That would indicate a problem to me. It will pep him up if he wants to stay alert but there are other, safer, legal things he could take to do that- drugs that aren’t addictive.
Most importantly now is you have a) a husband possibly addicted to class a drugs around your baby and b) possible class a drugs in your home.
You have to prioritise safeguarding your baby.

As a former casual Coke taker, he’s my two pence.
Coke is not a gateway drug. Most of my friends would take Coke or MDMA at parties or on nights out in our early twenties. Some still occasionally dabble and are professional, respectable members of society. However, if any of our friends started using coke during their working day this would be a huge red flag. I remember one of my friends taking Coke with a bottle of wine for a night in and we all sat her down and asked what was going on. We were right, it was a sign of deeper issues. It’s not normal and is a definite concern! I don’t think casually taking coke on a night out is that worrying if it’s rare but taking it while ‘stressed’ is a major problem and hints at addiction or deeper concerns. I don’t think it will lead to heroin but I don’t think it’s a good sign either.

Presumably there is risk that all the dust from it is on his hands or face when he's holding the baby. Lovely!

One of the problems with Coke is that addiction creates higher stress levels as well. I genuinely think you need to have a huge chat with him about finances - get his banking app and look for cash withdrawals. Let him know that you can’t have baby in the house with him taking drugs and you’re going home until he sorts his shit out. Just stay home.

It's nothing like heroin.Your friend is wrong. My cousin used to work for the stock exchange and told me the bar opened at 9am they would get a bottle of vodka and loads of cocaine. He died at 36. So if he has a high pressured job he could be using it to help him work, which is sad, but maybe a bit of understanding about what goes on in that kind of environment. This was years ago with my cousin by the way, Not sure if it still happens. And if he has used it at work before then he could be used to it.

OP, you need to talk to him. It’s not as simple as LTB. If he acknowledges it’s a problem then there is scope for working through it.

It is very common, but that doesn’t mean that it’s to be ignored. I wouldn’t go so far as to say it’s a step towards other drugs but it’s being normalised a lot as harmless. It’s an expensive habit and it does affect your behaviour and personality- so it does impact your loved ones.
He has hidden it from you, which will be hurtful and is a breach of trust. So that’s another aspect to work through if you decide to or have to stay.
i’m sure many on this thread have stressful jobs and we aren’t all reaching for coke to get through the days, so I do think it’s an addiction at this point.

My DH is a “finance bro” in the city and when I tell you they all do it and do have addictions they just don’t want to face reality. If you’re not ready to part ways suggest therapy or counselling. Please ensure safety of everyone in the home and make it clear that around your 7 month old is a non negotiable.

That’s what worries me - the possible danger from dealers, debt, and just having a dangerous substance in the house. Also wouldn’t social services be interested if they knew / found out?

I know three people who have spoken about their past regular use of cocaine. Two city lawyers and a banker. It seems almost normal for London high flying professional men. I don't know what the environment was on which they used it, but they all stopped at some point and it's way in their pasts

It’s really not, I work in child protection and have seen instances like this several times.

Same!

I know a few men who took coke regularly, all high earners. A friend of mine worked in an airline and it wasn't unusual for some of the pilots she worked with to take it. Nowadays they test airline pilots for drugs.
My friends are in their 50s now and barely drink alcohol. They don't all become serious addicts.
But I've the same opinion as many of the above posters. Taking it at home just to get through the day is another level.
Can you talk to him?

Taking coke at a party or in other social, recreational settings is (somewhat) normal. Taking it at home and needing it to get through a stressful day is not, that’s an addiction.

I’m not a prude about drugs, I’ve done my fair share of party drugs and psychedelics in my time but in your position, I would be sitting down and working out exactly what I would need to do to safely leave him.

Yes, I would.

I’m not saying it’s a great situation, but your friend is wrong. You are both obviously incredibly naive about drugs I think as are the majority of people here responding to you. It does seem like certain people use Coke the way you might have a cigarette as a perk up. I don’t do that, and I never have but I’m just saying, I don’t think it’s as uncommon as people seem to think.

I had several toddlers and they’ve never helped themselves to any of my (prescribed) medication.

Absolutely this. And I'd say that as someone who is not opposed to all recreational drugs in all situations. And coke is nasty stuff anyway, it brings out the worst in people in more ways than one. That's a line in the sand, right there.

Your friend is talking nonsense.

I mean, it really isn't. Have you ever met a toddler? They get into everything. If I had had coke in my house when mine were that age, they would have found it and eaten it. We literally kept the paracetamol in a lockbox because both of mine were a) very inquisitive and b) climbers.
My SIL is an A&E paeds nurse and she says the number of small kids that come in with accidental poisoning after ingesting cleaning products / medication / vape fluid / slug pellets is shocking.

This is like the most hilarious hypothetical situation

Taking it at a party in a social setting is just as wrong as taking cocaine at home. It's an illegal drug and it damages you. What are you thinking of? That recreational drug use is ok? It's not.

It’s quite a long way off heroin isnt it. If you did a survey of men who work in banking coke use would be insanely prolific. I don’t think you need to break up because of this, maybe actually talk to him

Or… 7m old gets older, learns to walk, finds ‘recreational’ Coke lying around the house during daytime working hours, overdoses.

Just because it’s the ‘acceptable’ middle class drug of choice doesn’t mean it is universally safe. Long term side effects include heart damage and impotence.

Substitute coke for alcohol.

If someone told you that they drink alcohol on their own, whilst working from home because they were stressed, would you think they had a drink problem?

The advice is really going to depend what country your in

Is it illegal over there

Do they protect women and children over there