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“A monogamous lifelong relationship is simply not what a lot of people, in particular women, want.” - Is it true that a lot of women want an open relationship?

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localnotail · 31/10/2025 17:49

‘It’s risky business emotionally’: the social shift towards open relationships

Just read this article - Lily Allen's new album inspired discussion about how open relationships are now all the rage and how common they are etc etc. I get this is a Guardian article and it panders to a certain demographic but still?

What I find particularly weird is the psychologist who says its WOMEN who prefer non-monogamous relationship. I though women are primarily the ones getting hurt/ only do it because they fear to lose their shag around bloke (like Lily) unless they agree? And there are actually very few bog standard couples who would go down this route?

Anyways - am I being unreasonable thinking this "open marriage" thing is slightly "out there" with polyamory and BDSM? Or is it really common and I'm being massively outdated in my views?

‘It’s risky business emotionally’: the social shift towards open relationships

With a rise in people opting for non-monogamy, experts suggest the idea of the traditional couple is radically changing

https://www.theguardian.com/lifeandstyle/2025/oct/31/open-marriage-relationships-society-trends-therapy

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TheAmusedQuail · 31/10/2025 17:55

One bloke is too much work for me so I can't wrap my head around wanting more than one. Or multiples.

And I think men like the idea, but just don't get that it is about 95% easier for women to get random shags from other blokes, than it is the other way round for men. And then get angry if the wife is playing away and they're not able to.

ToadRage · 31/10/2025 17:55

Maybe it refers to the younger generation. All these open-relationships/ polygamy tends to be more of the younger people. I can understand occasional kinky stuff with another person can be fun but I wouldn't want to share my husband long-term.

DarkEyedSailor · 31/10/2025 17:52

I don't want any relationship.

ahoyshipmate · 31/10/2025 17:51

Nope

WhatIsTheCharge · 31/10/2025 17:50

I absolutely don’t.

I’m a jealous piece of shit 🤷🏻‍♀️😂
Not sharing with anybody.

localnotail · 31/10/2025 17:50

That picture is giving me massive creepy vibe. eeeeeew.

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